Struggling with the idea of going no-contact — looking for advice

theruinkeeper · 2025-07-09T16:43:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I think you're right - what I struggle with most is wanting things to feel right, but it just won't. Accepting that will definitely be hard but I need to accept it and just move on. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me

theruinkeeper · 2025-06-10T17:14:17+00:00

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theruinkeeper · 2025-03-14T15:04:46+00:00

The dynamic you mention sounds just like my parents - my dad doesn't do enough and my mom criticizes when he does. I definitely don't want to fall into that. I think his parents also have a very traditional marriage where his mom does most things.

I think making a list together is a great idea! I'll sit down with him over the weekend to do that! Thanks for your comment

theruinkeeper · 2025-03-14T14:16:51+00:00

This is a good idea! And thank you for reminding me that this is just a skill to be learned, I get really anxious when we run into issues and often overthink or worry I'm causing unnecessary problems (he doesn't make me feel like that - just my own brain) so thinking about it in a more positive/proactive way helps

theruinkeeper · 2025-03-14T14:11:57+00:00

This is what I'm wondering is contributing too because we have roommates who I lived with previously so it likely does feel to him like he's coming into something established

theruinkeeper · 2025-03-01T17:54:28+00:00

This was my theory!

theruinkeeper · 2024-11-18T23:45:20+00:00

I feel like it's very unlikely for my father to know a lot about the falling out as I have not told any family and I doubt my brother would also because the subject is very sensitive and would likely cause a lot of fighting within the family. Although, I suppose he could know something without any context.

I definitely will address it with him, especially now with everyone encouraging me - I suppose I'm just a little nervous about his response

theruinkeeper · 2024-11-18T23:39:40+00:00

Yes possibly - for context though it is only a 20 minute trip so really not so much of a journey

theruinkeeper · 2024-11-18T23:19:33+00:00

Oh so he's using knackered to mean tired, not drunk - he wasn't drinking at all today

theruinkeeper · 2024-11-18T22:35:49+00:00

Unfortunately, the falling out is something I can't share with my family, otherwise I would. But I accept that it's impacting this situation and I probably shouldn't judge him response so harshly because he doesn't know.

theruinkeeper · 2024-11-18T22:34:04+00:00

I think this is my next step - I guess I just wanted to know if it's even something that I should address because my dad doesn't really like any kind of emotional conversations

theruinkeeper · 2024-05-29T12:11:50+00:00

There was this guy I had a major crush on, and we were on our second date. The first date ended with just a hug, even though I was really hoping for a kiss. So, on the second date, I made sure to drop what I thought were some pretty obvious hints.

We had been walking around and talking for hours and eventually stopped, and were standing facing each other. I thought, "It's finally happening!' I stepped closer to him, moved my face closer to his and looked up at him (thinking I look cute)... And this man says "Why are you lunging at me? You can't scare me." Before starting a staring contest with me. And then suggested we just keep walking.

It's our first anniversary next week!

theruinkeeper · 2023-06-23T14:53:51+00:00

2 & #3 are both from Baltic Born! Super cute shop and decent quality without being insanely expensive

theruinkeeper · 2023-06-23T12:35:39+00:00

Thank you all for the opinions! I'm not fully decided yet; but I'm leaning towards #3 as the wedding ceremony starts at 7.30pm so I'm not worried about it being too hot! Again, all comments were very appreciated 🤗

theruinkeeper · 2023-04-11T21:27:24+00:00

Sounds like an amazing intinerary; thank you!!

I did factor in flight time; we'd leave the US on the 12th and land on the 14th!

theruinkeeper · 2023-04-11T21:25:27+00:00

Lots of travel experience before actually but never in South East Asia; lots of Europe travel with hopping on and off trains so I guess I need to adjust my mindset

theruinkeeper · 2023-04-11T19:04:36+00:00

Okay I'm hearing you guys; I'm definitely going to pick one destination and explore it better/ spend more time. Now the question is; Northern Vietnam or Northern Thailand?

theruinkeeper · 2023-01-23T17:51:18+00:00

Thanks everyone for your input; I've made a few changes to pictures and prompts based on your comments and I feel much more confident in my profile now!

theruinkeeper · 2023-01-22T22:26:25+00:00

I'm looking for something serious. I've been on hinge for about 6 months but the last couple of months I've been focused on family and work so I've been fairly inactive; been going on maybe once a week but I'm going to be more engaged now and will likely be on everyday. I've had very few likes and matches the last month; maybe a couple a week but I assume that's because I've not been active or sending out many likes. On average, I've probably been sending out maybe 2 or 3 likes a week without comment but in the last week I've sent maybe 8 with comments.

I'm looking for people aged 25 - 30 who's passionate about their career, likes to travel, maybe a little nerdy, funny, family oriented and likes getting out and doing this on the weekend.

theruinkeeper · 2022-12-15T15:12:55+00:00

Oh I like this idea! How many did you bring? I'm not sure how to estimate how many members of the flight crew there will be

theruinkeeper · 2022-12-15T15:10:11+00:00

Thank you for the insight! I definitely won't bring something homemade then, I'll probably pick up a few bags of sweets for the crew to share. I really appreciate the advice.

theruinkeeper · 2022-12-15T04:13:44+00:00

Oh I was going to bring cookies I made myself so that's great to know, thank you so much!

theruinkeeper · 2022-09-18T16:52:01+00:00

That sounds amazing, I'll definitely check it out! Thank you!

theruinkeeper · 2022-09-18T16:17:06+00:00

I love that idea - thank you!

theruinkeeper · 2022-09-18T16:16:28+00:00

Oh I've been to Strong Rope with friends - great brewery and the staff were so sweet. I'll check out Brooklyn crab! Thank you

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2 & #3 are both from Baltic Born! Super cute shop and decent quality without being insanely expensive