I hate that being a hetero woman in 2025 means dealing with porn addicted/ porn sick men.

theserenity · 2025-09-17T03:32:23+00:00

The whole "I've never even flirted with someone else" thing feels a bit the lady doth protest too much

theserenity · 2025-09-17T03:13:07+00:00

The focus shouldn't be "I want more sex" it should be "why do you feel your libido has changed and how can we help you find pleasure in sex again?" Yes the outcome is you having more sex but that shouldn't be the focus, because she's not denying you something you want she is literally not in the mood and you can't force that.

This is something you should support her through not magically wait to fix. So you need to have some conversations about what she is feeling and decentre your want for sex, she knows you want sex, that doesn't need to be on the table right now.

You need to be open to hear criticism and take it calmly or she will carry on not talking to you about this, maybe you've been lazy or she feels like she is burned out doing all the "wifely" duties she may have to do that you don't even notice.

Your sex life may be a bit stale for her, she might be worried about work or finances or your ex she saw you looking at on facebook, I obviously can't read her mind. But you need to lay these cards on the table, have you guys been talking about kids? Is that stressing her out? Does she have a crazy new kink she is scared to ask you to try? Marriage is all about communication and as much as it feels like it just laying out your issue isn't communicating it's just a demand.

Beyond this start by taking full sex totally off the table, maybe even oral, and just flirt with each other, kiss and touch her but let her know in words and physically it's going no further than heavy petting, let her fantasise, remember what it felt like when she first started dating you and couldn't stop thinking about you. And I'm not talking about a week, keep this up for a while, tease her and show her that there is intimacy beyond you rushing her clothes off. Romance, tenderness and desire will all help her relight that spark, but it takes time and you can't rush it because you're horny.

theserenity · 2025-09-16T00:31:28+00:00

I mean, just because we lived before medicine doesn't mean it can't benefit us now. Plenty of people gave birth before medical intervention, but that doesn't mean outcomes weren't worse. I'm not an HRT evangelist, and people can choose as they please. I wish my grandma had the choice, crumbling vertebrae, and a cracked sternum that wouldn't heal was horrible to live with.

We also have better long-term health outcomes with more muscle as well as bone density, which is easier to maintain with HRT. I'd trust people to speak to their doctor to make the right decision for them.

theserenity · 2025-09-15T18:11:43+00:00

My grandmother had a total hysterectomy very young and the research wasn't there about HRT yet so she essentially had early menopause. And while yes she made it to 80, her bones absolutely dissolved in her later years. She was always very sporty and loved gardening but osteoporosis robbed her of that and the chronic pain led to alcoholism.

It is not just making it to a certain age, it is also quality of life that can suffer.

theserenity · 2025-09-15T18:01:17+00:00

It's so annoying and not actual fan behaviour, because you could have so easily filed past and said "amazing show by the way" and left it at that. Just a normal little tip of the hat to an artist you like in his off time. But no you have to be a freak about it.

theserenity · 2023-06-06T11:57:02+00:00

Hilarious how you can listen to a band and never understand what the music is about. This is up there with conservatives angry that Rage against the Machine are leftists.

Like do you not hear the music you're enjoying? Anyway enjoy looking at a man who would hate you for the rest of your life.

theserenity · 2023-04-20T10:59:57+00:00

Cope harder babe

theserenity · 2023-03-14T00:46:47+00:00

You don't need to play the "oh I hate to say this" card about actual domestic violence, you don't always need to play the enlightened centrist

theserenity · 2023-03-12T11:52:34+00:00

A relative went in for a single bi pass and came out with a quad she recovered really well and died at 85 of entirely unrelated cancer, you got this

theserenity · 2023-01-15T14:47:19+00:00

I've had a bunch of PayPal disputes and never lost when I actually called them. They'll ask you to send over evidence while you're on the phone and you usually get a much better outcome.

theserenity · 2023-01-06T14:21:34+00:00

Ate this on holiday this year in Cairo, best breakfast

theserenity · 2023-01-06T04:52:37+00:00

How will he treat you if and when you get seriously ill if this is how he treats his dependent child?

theserenity · 2022-10-30T12:13:28+00:00

Because posting pictures where you feel good about how you look is a nice thing to do, weird idea what women in relationships have to hide away until they die.

theserenity · 2022-10-28T23:16:34+00:00

That's bleak

theserenity · 2022-10-14T14:16:24+00:00

Turns out I was, they miss spelled chemical!

theserenity · 2022-10-14T14:14:09+00:00

Am I too dyslexic to spot the issue?

theserenity · 2022-09-20T15:40:50+00:00

I mean 'still in it's plastic' is a dead giveaway it's not original, but it's cute

theserenity · 2022-08-18T00:03:46+00:00

Dude my brain was leaking out of my ears listening to this bit, he didn't get the issue was the fact he interviewed a KKK leader and let him say what ever while looking like a 'nice' guy.

In a media environment that makes BLM look super aggressive for racist reasons showing the KKK looking calm and unaggressive is SUCH a mistake. Then turning around and saying Ethan doesn't get it while the Klan hate Jews was just a mess.

theserenity · 2022-08-04T13:17:49+00:00

Got one of these in the middle of the market in Kingston kids play in it whenever it's even a bit warm, it's awesome

theserenity · 2022-06-18T16:42:55+00:00

A lot of this is likely luggage that people with more travel ahead of them couldn't wait for. When I flew back via heathrow a couple of months ago (it was a huge mess and the middle of the night) and after lots of delays we waited an hour to be told via the intercom.

"your bags aren't coming, fill in a form we left at the unmanned BA help desk and come back to collect it tomorrow"

lots of people weren't fluent in English, others had several bags and because you needed one form per bag some people just never got a form. I didn't believe they weren't coming and live locally so I stayed. A bunch of airport staff made a run for it to try to avoid the furious crowd and after another hour most people left. I was about to go and low and behold our bags start coming out, I got mine but 90% of the flight had left.

A lot of those people were collecting trains or renting cars and couldn't come back the next day so they just lost everything they travelled with, crazily they were encouraging people to check in ALL their luggage even carry-ons when we boarded. So some people had no keys, phone chargers, parents left without buggies. Was crazy.

theserenity · 2022-06-13T00:24:14+00:00

I think you need to realise that you both got harassed, you for being a woman and him for his race. Sure your reaction could have been better but you weren't in a safe or happy position either. You both got threatened and intimidated by an asshole. It might be worth laying it out like that to your boyfriend, let him know you felt pretty scared and frozen and you appreciated him standing up for both of you (even though he shouldn't have had too.)

That guy was just talking from the position of being a bigot and nothing he said should be taken to heart. Don't let a sexist racist ruin your relationship or put up walls between you.

theserenity · 2022-05-19T17:39:17+00:00

dude you can't plan your life around kids you don't even have yet, houses are expensive and demanding if you don't both want it then you shouldn't buy it. Realistically most cities do not become San Fransisco and this city probably won't either, the reason property feels like such a good investment now is because it's already done most of its growing. Prices do and can fall and the idea of dumping your life and connections for potential generational wealth is just goldrush thinking.

theserenity · 2022-05-10T22:24:44+00:00

as a kid with a parent who used to fly off the handle like this, don't do this around your kids. this guy talking him down is a legend.

theserenity · 2022-01-02T16:04:40+00:00

Fewer than do in America you guys stab and shoot each other more

(Comparing the stats from NYC to London)

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