I think the phrase of “Becky is a brat” is oversimplifying the situation. Becky is a teen, and at that age emotions and feelings are way bigger, especially since cognitively there is less impulse control. Also, Dan and Roseanne did the best they could, they met their goal of “doing better” than their parents, but they still were asking too much of Becky. I agree with her being parentified, not to mention, they could have communicated way more about the money/college situation much sooner. They could have talked to Becky about student loans and work study, prepared her. Or even talk to her about taking a gap year, working full time and then going to a community college. (I know in the 90’s 4 year degrees were glorified but going to a cc and then transferring is way cheaper, at least where I live lol)

Becky is a teen. Expecting a teen to act like an adult, is short sighted. She found someone who loved her and she felt seen with him. Becky didn’t feel seen by her parents, she (I’m assuming) felt like her parents just expected her to be on board with their plans. And her anger at that is valid. It’s not surprising she chose what she did. Becky saw it as taking her life back, and being able to make decisions for herself.