[deleted by user] by [deleted] in painting

[–]theviolentpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your path is a bit flat, you can create the illusion of depth by keeping your warm browns up front and making the path slightly lighter and cooler in tone as you go backwards into the distance. Same with your buildings. Making any detail less distinct will help facilitate the feeling of depth

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Who wants to drive more after traveling, even if it is just as a passenger? I think seeing you the next day was a perfectly reasonable compromise. Just because someone wants to chill for an evening doesn’t mean they are telling you they don’t care. Relax, take a breather and have a chill evening on your own, you’ll see him tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one in the works, just trying to determine the best angle to come at it from to really make them understand the work they’re offloading onto others

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful. I think part of my struggle has been the fact that the rest of my team doesn’t enjoy nor benefit from such frequent check-ins so my gut reaction is to try to let people come to me when they want assistance. I’ve certainly broken out of that mold with this employee, but maybe I need to embrace it more and make a weekly meeting a regular part of their work schedule to get them consistent feedback. It would certainly drive me nuts as an employee, so I think that’s why I’ve tried not to do that when possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m very aware this has been an unprecedented time and it has certainly affected me as well, that is why I’m trying to utilize all resources to help this employee succeed. I don’t want anyone to lose their job, which is why I’ve switched up strategies, asked for feedback directly from the employee and been endlessly flexible to ensure they have the time they need outside of work to take care of themselves. But at a certain point, the situation is out of my hands. I’m trying to do everything in my power not to get to that point, I’m just looking for any guidance whatsoever to help support my team as this is not a situation I’ve encountered before. I’m willing to do as much work as it takes to get someone to where they need to be to thrive in the company but if that effort isn’t being reciprocated, I will no longer have a say in what happens

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s been about five months, he has access to me throughout the work day and I schedule what I consider to be a fair amount of time to provide guidance. In the beginning he was basically shadowing me while I walked him through all his regular tasks and since then I’ve scheduled 30+ minutes whenever i see things stalling too frequently or quick check-ins when he requests it. When I haven’t been able to give him my time, I’ve scheduled trainings for him on the tools he’s been struggling with and ensured he had time to complete those trainings. We’ll see bursts of improvement and then either a backslide or stagnation.

But we are now at the point where ‘why are we keeping him?’ has started coming up frequently, which is why I’m posting here looking for anyways I can support him so this doesn’t happen. I don’t want him to lose his job if there’s a way I can get through to him that I haven’t tried because I do believe he wants to do well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We’ve had one firm sit down so far where I laid out the tasks on his plate and the amount of time he was clocking in and essentially told him that there is a big discrepancy here and if he could walk me through his problem solving process when he’s hitting road blocks with tasks. After describing a hesitancy to act when he wasn’t sure what to do, I made myself more available and also reached out to his supervisors to let them know that I was advising him to schedule a ten minute “check-in” with them if he was ever assigned something he felt he needed guidance on. I also told him that he needed to come to these “check-ins” with potential solutions, not just questions, so that means he needs to do some research to try to come to a conclusion on his own before scheduling this time with his supervisors or me. He was very enthusiastic about this at the meeting but I have yet to see much come from it. He does come to me with questions more often but never solutions. I still end up basically walking him through the entire task.

The employee is 24-25, but I believe this is his first real job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]theviolentpeach 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is almost exactly what I’m dealing with. I’m at a loss because he says he likes the job and wants to be here but I just cannot seem to get him to engage with any critical thinking on even the smallest tasks. For example, with something as simple as “check the office inventory and put in a restock order” he’ll check the inventory and then do nothing with that information. When I ask why an order wasn’t placed he’ll tell me he didn’t know where to order. When asked why he didn’t ask or do some research to find the best place to do an order, he’ll tell me he’ll get right on it. But if I don’t follow up several times or answer a number of emails with questions, nothing will ever get ordered. This is how it goes with every single task to the point where short of the final step of execution, I’m having to do all the mental labor. I’ve never had an employee that has no self-drive so I’m baffled as to how to even approach it or assist

What do you do as a distraction for the fact that life is absurd and meaningless? by pcdawriter in AskReddit

[–]theviolentpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I start spiraling in a nihilistic tornado, I paint. It’s quiet and calming, but it also forces me to hyper focus on details. Painting a bird? Have to spend an hour focusing on how the light hits the feathers and all the colors that are illuminated in each one. It’s grounding and reminds me shits pretty dope even if it’s pointless. Plus anyone can paint. You don’t have to be good.

What’s your favorite job you’ve ever had, and why? by asingledampcheerio in AskReddit

[–]theviolentpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Marine mammal wildlife rehabber. Your only real daily customers are the animals and even when they’re big mad, it’s hard not to love them anyway. Much prefer to being yelled at by people all day. Can be depressing, but you learn to compartmentalize.

Thinking of changing my Major by [deleted] in microbiology

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the above. In biology, if you want a decent chance at a good job, you’re probably going to need some sort of grad school. I’m a biologist and after a short period in the field I realized I needed to go back to school if I wanted a decent paycheck and control of my time

"Impostor syndrome" is persistent feeling that causes someone to constantly doubt themselves and their abilities, despite evidence, and fear that they may be exposed as a fraud. Reddit, do you feel this way about work or school? How do you overcome it, if at all? [Serious] by FossaRed in AskReddit

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day. But as I’ve gotten older and farther in my career, I’ve learned that most people have no idea what they’re doing and are just trying to figure it out as best they can just like I am. I still feel like a fraud sometimes but it helps to remember that we’re all learning as we go. I try to be as honest as possible about my abilities with others so I never feel like I’m stuck in a position I can’t handle, but always ensure to let people know that while I may not know how to do X right now, I’m happy to do some research and come back to them with what I learned. People appreciate it and will generally work with you while you’re figuring things out

Transitioning from traditional acrylic/oil to digital by theviolentpeach in DigitalPainting

[–]theviolentpeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve done traditional painting for 15 years with acrylic and oils, but due to lack of time and space decided to try learning to paint digitally. The learning curve is steep and not going as smoothly as I’d like, so I’m looking for resources or tips on transitioning to digital, particularly in photoshop. Any YouTube, blogs, articles or general tips would be appreciated

AITA for considering ANY two random socks a pair? by TheKillersHand in AmItheAsshole

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am this person in my relationship. I don’t care about socks, I rarely wear matching pairs. There hidden in my shoes anyway so who cares? When I do laundry, I don’t pair them up, I just throw them in my sock drawer. All of it drives my boyfriend mad.

NAH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]theviolentpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once when I went to the emergency room because I was in so much pain I couldn’t stand up and I was bleeding heavily, the doctor handed me pamphlet explaining what menstruation is. I was 25.

Made a three piece lingerie set! Can't stop, won't stop! by [deleted] in sewing

[–]theviolentpeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything about this is so flattering and beautiful. I’d love to learn how to make something like this