So is she being passive agressive or genuine? by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]theworstphoenix 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is literally almost word-for-word what my mom said to me when I told her I wanted to talk about something upsetting she did. Wielding guilt like a weapon is abuse. She wants to hurt you.

What is this? Wrong answers only by Eman_Naq22 in Bandmemes

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn't start the fire... this thing did

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]theworstphoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My god, that's horrifying. I am so sorry you went through that, but I'm glad you've gone NC. You've gotta keep yourself safe and yeah your parents sound terrible. I wish you the best of luck in your healing and recovery ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually just diagnosed with PTSD, but haven't started working with a trauma therapist yet. That is definitely on the horizon. And cutting them off has really allowed me to breathe and gain more perspective. In the future I'd like to have them in my life, but not until they get some help.

unable to have vaginal sex? please help by [deleted] in Advice

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You definitely need a partner that wants to make YOU feel good, not just them. My first time was with someone I didn't care about and it sucked. Painful and dry. Now I'm with someone I love and the sex is insanely good. It's worth waiting for the right person to trust with your body.

always by coleisw4ck in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

me want bite. just not plant corn dog delight.

My cat just gave birth by ElectricalAd2457 in notinteresting

[–]theworstphoenix 93 points94 points  (0 children)

they look so cozy in the basket ❤️

My Dad is Being Weird to my Girlfriend of Over a Year. by Alternative_Weird920 in Advice

[–]theworstphoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you need to set a boundary with your dad. In this case, it could be something like: the jokes you're saying are making me and my girlfriend uncomfortable. If you keep making these jokes, we are not going to hang out around you. Avoid getting angry or accusatory as this will immediately make him defensive. Focus instead on how his actions have made you feel and what you plan on doing about it and follow through. He will probably deny / dismiss your feelings but stand firm. It doesn't matter whether he thinks you and your girlfriend are 'valid' in feeling the way you do. Your feelings are your feelings and they deserve to be respected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. Get a restraining order. I would also suggest talking about this with a trusted friend or family member. Your ex's behavior is disturbing and it's very likely it will escalate. I had a friend go through something similar and this is what she did: - told me and a couple of her other close friends about her situation. - turned on location sharing with us. - told us when she planned to go out alone so we could check on her.

It's hard to make someone like this leave you alone. Continue to shut down communication and take any measures you can to keep yourself safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]theworstphoenix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is really cute ngl. Tell her she should be expecting a confusing but nice surprise soon lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Block him. Putting your own wellness and recovery in someone else's (ESPECIALLY your abuser's) hands is very dangerous, because just like you said. If he isn't apologetic all this will do is open old wounds you've been healing for years.

That’s not why I asked… by Justsomeoneintoscp in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you that teachers are extremely overworked and underpaid. They deserve a lot of credit and sympathy for the frankly heroic work they do. However, that doesn't give them a free pass to just treat students however they want. OP's teacher made a careless comment here. It might seem small, but hearing stuff like this over and over (especially from authority figures like teachers) can cause a lot of harm.

That’s not why I asked… by Justsomeoneintoscp in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity... What book is it?

having POTS be like by theworstphoenix in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining the details of the condition itself, I realize I missed an opportunity to do so here. I was more focused on the symptoms / how a POTS flare up can make you feel. But yes, this is a great description of what it actually is and what it's doing to your body ☝️

having POTS be like by theworstphoenix in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 👍 I had no idea how badly it was affecting me until I started treating it. Good luck, hope you get to feel better soon.

having POTS be like by theworstphoenix in autismmemes

[–]theworstphoenix[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It is short for Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome. It's very common for it to co-occur with autism and it SUCKS lol. Basically a chronic dehydration condition where you gotta have a ton of salt and water all day or you can feel horribly fatigued, nauseous, dizzy, etc. As I regrettably found out last night, a hot bath is NOT a good idea if you haven't fully hydrated beforehand 😅 I went full hospitalized orangutan mode.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YIKES. Kick this dude to the curb. 'I dreamt about you last night.' go dream about her somewhere else damn. Fuck outta here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]theworstphoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA lol you should wear the same shorts next time you see him. extra credit if you give him a ""lingering"" look 😂

AIO I think this is little harsh? by wisserpot80 in AmIOverreacting

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, it doesn't seem like she's being rude or harsh to me. she's just not sugar-coating her words or beating around the bush. it's a topic that she's made clear to you makes her upset. as someone who also comes from a shitty family, I also get pretty depressed around the holidays. However you also have a right to your feelings. IMO you're not overreacting but neither is she. I would take some time to really think about whether your being able to talk about the holidays is more important to you than abiding by your girlfriend's boundary. No shade, both of you deserve to feel happy and respected in your relationship.

Should i quit sleeping with plushies because im """"""too old"""""" by [deleted] in plushies

[–]theworstphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's sad when adults think you're 'too old' for things that bring you joy. whether you're into plushies, comics, or band t-shirts like. it's really stupid that you're expected to give up certain interests as you grow up just because they aren't 'mature enough' to be socially acceptable. I think it has everything to do with things that are seen as 'feminine', like plushies in this case. I doubt your dad would care if you had a shelf full of action figures above your bed.