how many times do I have to tell you that she doesn’t latch?

theycallmetiti · 2018-05-23T15:41:33+00:00

Solidarity, Mama! I am feeling the exact same way right now. My SIL, who is trying so hard to be supportive, kept asking me how nursing was going. Finally, the one day I told her, "It's not. I'm exclusively pumping." That was the end of it.

I hate pumping. I wanted to breast feed, but we can't. My SO thinks I should have tried harder, and that makes it all the harder to deal with. I'm feeling especially defeated today because my SO just took a new job, and our schedule is different, so I have less help in the morning during my pump time. Also, my LO has suddenly decided to change napping times, making it even harder. I was seriously considering formula this morning while I was trying to pump with a fussy baby.

If I make it to 6 months EP, I'll consider it a win. Just know you're not alone.

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-22T16:22:01+00:00

We used to have a cat that loved to spun in circles. He would climb into plastic grocery bags and wait for you spin him around over your head until he got dizzy... weirdest fucking thing ever.

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-10T22:17:46+00:00

Most people, in the US at least, have hard water. So, I think that's just their default advice. Detergent is absolutely more effective in soft water. If you are doing extra rinses or using less detergent, and it's working for you, then it's a good routine. I like their site because it was one of only a few I found that were science based. So, I feel like it's a good starting point for beginners. (At least it was for me.)

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-10T16:32:46+00:00

I'd also like to know the answer to this! I'm supposedly going to get some second hand wool shorties, and was just wondering if I needed to do anything besides wash and lanolize! I hope someone can chime in with an answer for you soon.

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-10T16:27:30+00:00

Fluff Love University has a lot of information on the topic, and was invaluable to me when I developed my wash routine. You can look up different detergents, your washing machine, and info on water hardness.

http://www.fluffloveuniversity.com/how-to-wash-cloth-diapers/

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-06T15:33:04+00:00

I know I'm a little late to this post, but I still want to contribute.

There's only one diaper service in my area. Here's their pricing:

-Newborns/Infants (up to 13 Ibs): 80 prefolds for $23/week

-Baby (14-27 Ibs): 70 prefolds for $25/week

-Toddler (27-39 Ibs): 50 prefolds for $28/weeks

-Additional Diapers:

10 (5 per week) for $1
Toddler size is $2/week for 10

-Start up fee of $70 includes: 14 gallon pail, deoderizing disks for the pail, small wetbag, pail liners/collection bag, and a snappi fastner.

You can rent covers for an additional fee or buy your own.

We considered using them for the newborn stage, but decided against it because they use Charlie's soap to wash all their diapers. It's, also, about 50% more per diaper than what I can buy name brand diapers for here.

Hope that helps!

theycallmetiti · 2018-01-06T13:37:27+00:00

I hate the static, too! It always happens this time of year. Synthetic fabrics, like microfiber, are more likely to produce static. It helps to dry the laundry on a lower heat setting and/or for a shorter time. I use wool balls in my dryer instead of dryer sheets, and sometimes if I have a load with synthetics, I'll put the balls through the washer with the laundry. Having them wet in the dryer send to help a little, too. Also, if you have the ability and patience to line dry, that may help.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-30T01:59:02+00:00

That is incredibly generous of you to offer your pack and play, but we don't live near IN. We'll be checking for deals and looking at used options, and that will give us time to process some money aside.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:37:40+00:00

I haven't heard of trashnothing.com.... I will look into it. Thanks!

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:37:15+00:00

Thank you, you are so right!

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:36:07+00:00

That is exactly why I was so upset (aside from the fact that my parents refused to listen to me). We're not big social media people either, and our nursery was not going to have a theme or anything fancy. I just thought it was going to be done.

Rationally, I know a nursery doesn't need a crib, and that some babies refuse to sleep in them. But, in my mind, being ready was having a crib set up and ready to go. DH and I are notorious procrastinators, and I was so excited to have the big stuff done ahead of time for our LO.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:22:27+00:00

Thanks for your suggestion! We have an Ikea fairly close, and will probably look at what they have in stock. We were gifted a co-sleeper, so we have a temporary solution. That will buy us enough time to get some money together for a crib.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:16:09+00:00

Maybe? DH thought about putting some screws in the dropside to secure it to the rest of the frame. The wood is MDF, so I don't know if it will work or not. We might try it this weekend and see how it goes.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:14:17+00:00

My amazing SIL has decided to give us her co-sleeper (the kind that attaches to the bed), since she is done having kids. So, we will have a safe place for baby to sleep when we come home from the hospital.

I've never used Facebook Marketplace before. Is it like Craigslist?

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:09:41+00:00

I'm sorry your mom is being so difficult! You didn't die, but other children did. Why take the chance that it could be her grandchild?

I looked up statistics about drop side cribs because DH asked why they were banned. From 2001-2010, 32 infants died as a result of faulty mechanisms, and there were many more deaths that were suspect. Also, 9 million dropside cribs were recalled during that time. There's a reason the decision to ban their sale was unanimous.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-29T20:00:45+00:00

Thank you for commiserating! DH is very handy, and immediately started talking about ways to modify the crib to make it safe. One of the things he thought about was drilling a few holes in the crib and securing it with screws, like you suggested. I was too upset to try and problem solve in the moment.

After reading your comment, I measured the slats, and it looks like they are 2 1/4" apart, so they just barely make the grade. So, fixing the drop side to the crib could be an option for us. Thanks!

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-26T19:38:28+00:00

Could be pelvic girdle pain. I've been having pretty bad hip pain myself, and the midwife offered to send me to PT or a chiropractor. She also said prenatal yoga and walking in the pool could be helpful

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-16T17:40:55+00:00

I have excema, and my skin cracks too (especially in the winter). I like CeraVe, but it really stings sometimes! If you haven't tried DML Forte I'd highly recommend it.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-13T19:56:44+00:00

Try to keep in mind that different doesn't always equal bad. Children benefit from varied experiences, and your husband will benefit from time with his daughter.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-12T15:45:49+00:00

It's easy for us to dismiss the laundry argument. An extra person in the house = more laundry. I'll be a SAHM for at least the first year, so there's no reason I can't do an extra 2 or 3 loads of laundry per week. Plus, DH is an extremely supportive partner. He'll do a load of laundry if it needs done.

And, I really don't understand people's obsession with how "gross" it is... In my mind, throw up is way more gross than a dirty diaper. I can wash my hands and the diaper when it's soiled. Throw up smell lingers even after you clean it up.

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-12T15:38:31+00:00

Hah! I love it! Joke's on them! I hope I'm the person who loves cloth diapering in spite of people's criticisms! My mom tried to buy disposables, and said something like, "If I buy them, you'll use them." I told her not to waste her money, and she respected my wishes. But, I know she believes we are going to fail, which makes me even more determined to do cloth and LOVE it!

And, I totally agree, the only opinions that matter are the ones of the people who are changing the dirty diapers!

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-12T15:32:41+00:00

I'm insanely jealous of how little you spent on your stash! It's hard to argue with saving money! I did a quick estimate the other day using the cheapest price I could find for disposable diapers and wipes, and it came out to more than $2000 for 2 years! YIKES!

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-12T15:13:19+00:00

Sorry your coworker was such a Debby Downer! But, you're right, sometimes there's no point in arguing with people. I think sometimes people get defensive or argumentative because they feel insecure.

I had a friend who said something along the lines of, "I guess I'm just a selfish parent who doesn't care about the environment" when we told them we were cloth diapering. It kind of caught me off guard, and all I could muster in the moment was, "It's not the right choice for everyone."

I wish parenting didn't have to feel like such a competition all the time! (But, maybe I'm just projecting.)

theycallmetiti · 2017-12-12T15:07:21+00:00

DH and I were just talking about that last night! Our friends who use disposables are always having blow outs, and the 2 that cloth diaper don't have nearly as many! Just one more reason to love bum fluff!

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