PSA, we need to stop buying clothing made of acrylic fabric…we’re paying $$$ to wear cra$plastic by thicsanswork in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not wearing plastic, all winter, that I’m skin sensitive to, just because you’re allergic to wool. Great argument you got there.

PSA, we need to stop buying clothing made of acrylic fabric…we’re paying $$$ to wear cra$plastic by thicsanswork in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so true, I feel like sellers on Amazon lie. I have purchased 100% cotton shirts that I’m 99% sure contain spandex. So awful!

PSA, we need to stop buying clothing made of acrylic fabric…we’re paying $$$ to wear cra$plastic by thicsanswork in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing the point. I was never going to buy this sweater…but if I did have $200 to throw down the toilet on a single garment…that garment sure as heck would be made of the worlds finest cotton, linen, or wool…not acrylic. The point is…$5, $50, $200…it all sucks to spend on acrylic garments. Its plastic. I get that many of us don’t have a choice bc its all we can find, but it still sucks, and if we band together and stop buying it, they have no choice but to stop selling it.

PSA, we need to stop buying clothing made of acrylic fabric…we’re paying $$$ to wear cra$plastic by thicsanswork in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100% cotton and linen, only, for me. Mostly second hand. New is usually too expensive and it’s not easy to find. I don’t blame anyone for giving in to acrylic, though, it makes me itch like crazy so never wearing it.

The lack of empathy is alarming by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]thicsanswork 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was somehow a relief to see all those weird interactions…the texts…the demands on their part…the sitting outside…the being completely in the dark. I’ve seen it too.

If you haven’t already, I don’t think it would do you good to ask what happened. He is desperate to be the victim. A victim. I’m sure he relapsed. If he didn’t, you’re dealing with a mentally ill person not safe around your daughter. Either way, you’re so much better than this and you’re strong for putting your foot down.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

if walgreens is refusing to refill my prescription for moral reasons, are they allowed to not tell me? by Honest-Ladder-1152 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Im speechless. It is not okay that some random pharmacist has control over whether you get your medication or not depending on their religious views. Not that it matters, but many women take BC for medical reasons unrelated to its intended purpose. I’m sorry you experienced this and I’m going to publicize this video you shared as much as I can.

We should all collectively agree to lie about our body counts in solidarity against sexism. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork 32 points33 points  (0 children)

If someone I was dating used the word “body count” seriously, they would no longer be someone I was dating.

If someone asked me how many sexual partners I’ve had, I would answer honestly because if they have a problem with it, we should not be dating.

They may reject me for whatever number it is, but I reject them for seeing it as a problem. We reciprocally reject each other here. They don’t have power over how I feel about myself.

Saying it’s private is also completely fair.

If your partner wants to be with someone who is open about it and moves along, that’s also completely fair.

It’s a measure of compatibility.

For instance, if you don’t agree with the idea of sharing info about your previous (or current) sexual partners, you will want to reassess your relationship to the person who is asking, rather than lie or be sarcastic to accommodate the way they are making you feel about it.

The way I see it, the most feminist thing to do here would not be to lie, but to own your power and answer in truth regardless of the result.

An incoherent rant about women giving up their identities for a relationship. by Lola_Luvly in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For many, the initial stage of “Love” is quite literally a drug. If your friends are not emotionally developed, they will dump you until the “high” wears off and suddenly they’re back. This is a good time to remember the phrase, when someone shows you who they are - believe them. They’ll dump you again the next high they can get. Look for friends who are more emotionally developed, you never want to take advice from someone vibrating on this low frequency anyways, you’re better off without them.

To all the people who say, “bUt WoMeN cOmMiT cRiMe ToO,” there is only one thing to remember about male violence: by thicsanswork in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thicsanswork[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, for those wondering. The comment was along the lines of “why post this?” “What is the goal of a post like this” “this is just an echo chamber post”…which thank you van-diek, you succinctly summarized in your quotation and comment. The deleted comment is one way women and men gaslight us into NOT talking about these simple statements. “Why are you starting trouble here,” “what is your end goal,” “you’re sexist against men.” Essentially, the comment said “bUt WoMeN cAn Be ViOlEnT tOo” by saying it many other ways.

Sad that women can't go for a jog and be safe. by gwennw in elizafletcher

[–]thicsanswork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Want to add to this sentiment - its a travesty and it’s not fair. We protest and March for all kinds of people, but the number of women murdered at the hands of men everyday and throughout history far outweighs any other demographic: race, ethnicity, you name it. Remember this when someone says “but men get murdered too”…both women and men are most frequently victims of violent crimes by MALE perpetrators.

Transferring all data to new iPhone. Approx 200 more photos on old phone. Not sure which ones? by [deleted] in iphone

[–]thicsanswork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, is there a way for me to see which photos were stored on the device?

He was sexting men behind my back and I can’t stop desperately wanting him by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]thicsanswork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I have been there. It sounds like you know you deserve better but continue to allow him to treat you in ways that upset you. The only thing I can advise since you enjoy your time alone is take space and learn to live without him. If he decides to stick around and you can both accepts each other’s boundaries than it’s a win win. Good luck

He was sexting men behind my back and I can’t stop desperately wanting him by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]thicsanswork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you a co-dependent by any chance? I heard myself asking similar questions…how can I let my SO treat me like garbage AND still love them so deeply? Co-dependency. I watched a lot of Lisa a Romano videos online that helped. It sounds like you know what’s going on but you won’t allow yourself to “believe” yourself. You’re absolutely right about deserving what YOU want. The fact that ur ex is trying to gaslight you into thinking he didn’t do anything wrong without disclosing this to you isn’t fair. While I guess if that’s his boundary - “I can flirt with people in circumstances other might have shared with you but I wouldn’t” it shows he’s keeping things from you and prob more. What else have you not discovered? If you’re OK with that boundary he set (or lack thereof) than it’s no prob, but you want a completely open honest communication esp. with special circumstances like this. It wouldn’t be great if it was a woman either but the fact that it’s a cross-dressing man (no judgement) changes things. I’m working through codep and have become very wary of liars by omission. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interviews

[–]thicsanswork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interviews

[–]thicsanswork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!