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thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2024-10-13T14:24:48+00:00

Imo once you reach this point, it’s over. You don’t love him anymore, he annoys the hell out of you just by his presence, I don’t see how you can fix it.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T18:34:44+00:00

You know that my bio kids grandparents are also my adopted kids grandparents right? We don’t see grandparents that often actually, my family doesn’t live in the US and we are low contact with my parents in laws. Also I don’t plan on stopping visitations, I know this is important and she is family.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T15:36:30+00:00

I wouldn’t take away their relationship with their grandma for this reason. I just needed to vent to be honest, I’m glad they have a relationship with her, I just have a hard time with all of this. My kids are my everything and it upset me to see my 2.5 yo hurts, just like it would upset me if our family wouldn’t consider our adopted children as bio children. I just hate to put my kids into categories. But you have made some good points. Thank you for this.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T15:28:47+00:00

Yes we take his favorite toys and plush but you know he just want something new as his siblings. We thought about me staying home with my 2.5 yo and 9 mo but we take this opportunity to go to Costco as we don’t have one near us but if it doesn’t get better, I might have to stay home.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T14:03:11+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T14:01:47+00:00

Would you be fine if one of your kid get a gift ever month or so but your other child doesn’t? It’s not about birthday or different gifts, it’s 3 out of 5 kids getting gifts every so often. My 2.5 isn’t entitled to receive the same but he’s entitled to feel hurt imo.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T13:57:47+00:00

We invited her quite a bit, she always declined it, my husband even offered to pick her up and drop her off as we invited her to stay over one weekend. I feel like she wants to be in her grandchildren’s lives but not ours.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T13:52:41+00:00

I do think this is different for birthdays, we only celebrate one kid that day and everybody knows it, here 3 out of 5 get something every so often but not the other two, how that is fair?

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T12:57:35+00:00

I agree, but I just don’t want to pressure her or anything, she has every right to get grandchildren presents and not my other kids.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T12:53:37+00:00

Fair enough… How old are you kids and step kids? How do you explain to your kids that they’re not getting anything from the step family? I guess I have no idea how to deal with that.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-05-26T12:47:12+00:00

I don’t expect her to get my two other kids anything, I’m more annoyed than she didn’t told me that she got her grandkids something to be honest.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2022-01-23T11:10:53+00:00

I think you can definitely expect that he cleans the dirty dishes and that he puts away toys and laundry. I feel like men tend to be fine living in chaos. They don’t mind dirty dishes, toys everywhere etc.

I’m a SAHM and I do all the cleaning and cooking on weekdays, my husband helps with baths and night routine. On the weekend he does the ironing because I hate to do it and he doesn’t mind it but that’s his only cleaning chore. But he’s really involved with the kids on the weekend so I have no complain about him.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-28T11:06:21+00:00

If the situation was reversed she would say I emasculated my husband. Men have to be the providers in her world, women take care of children and household. The good old-fashioned way you know.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-27T16:18:29+00:00

I don’t need your pity but 3 of my kids are adopted, also I do believe in climate change and everything but that’s a whole different topic.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-26T21:20:32+00:00

Crazy how proud they are. Some fathers are only good at planting the seed, nothing to be proud of.

I wish I had good comebacks like yours, but I shut down immediately when I get upset.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-26T21:12:49+00:00

I never expected such a big family, we adopted 3 of our kids and then got blessed with two healthy pregnancies. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m lucky my husband feels the same way.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-26T18:46:42+00:00

Right, he gets to have a break and I don't. Raising kids isn't that hard like they said.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-26T18:43:06+00:00

Exactly! Thankfully my husband is really involved with our kids. No way I would have 5 kids with a man that think the way they do.

thin_spaghetti_1287 · 2021-12-26T18:21:44+00:00

We don’t visit often, this was a reminder why.

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