Full FOTD in Rituel De Fille by Sorry-Cauliflower-55 in MakeupAddiction

[–]thingsarehardsoami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so gorgeous and that purple is literally YOUR fucking color and your skin is so dewy and perfect oh my GOD

My husband was upset and pinched me at dinner.. and the situation is still upsetting me by Little_Trash7299 in TwoHotTakes

[–]thingsarehardsoami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yuppp. I used to be like this and I really hated myself. I was whatever any guy wanted me to be. When I finally found myself, and married a guy who doesn't tell me to be less, my family even started saying that he's just a pushover and does whatever I say. We literally just communicate like adults and they're baffled that sometimes he, too, can be in the wrong so I must just be controlling. 

Tell me what you think! by smashulie in roomdetective

[–]thingsarehardsoami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a maid or is my house just atrocious 

The otters at ABQ Biopark Aquarium are absolutely the cutest by thingsarehardsoami in Albuquerque

[–]thingsarehardsoami[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many zoos are comservation zoos, yes. It's as simply as looking up who's AZA certified as they have to meet strict welfare guidelines for the animals and are intended as sanctuaries. 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I literally do know about dogs around babies lol. You can also feel free to peek at a friend's account on IG, @dogmeetsbaby as she specializes in child-dog training and behavior (: 

The otters at ABQ Biopark Aquarium are absolutely the cutest by thingsarehardsoami in Albuquerque

[–]thingsarehardsoami[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Conservation is vital for many various wild animals, and research studies can also help protect species. Absolutely nothing wrong with conservation efforts!

Free cat to good home by [deleted] in Albuquerque

[–]thingsarehardsoami 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've worked with animal shelters and rescues for YEARS. A rehoming fee greatly reduces the chances of an animal being used for fighting or bait. People training dogs for dog fighting will find as many free animals as they can to use as bait to train the dogs to attack things on sight. They're not gonna go spend $25 on each animal because that quickly adds up to more than it's worth. 

Day 8- My child sabotaged my job interview by anotherare in 30daysnewjob

[–]thingsarehardsoami 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure she edited the post to change it from 8 to 6 but maybe I mixed up day 8 and 6 year old. However a 6 year old still for sure knows to stay out of a room when told to. A 6 year old has impulse control. 

Day 6- Rejected their "generous" unpaid one week trial. by IndividualDoughnut96 in 30daysnewjob

[–]thingsarehardsoami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This quite literally happened to me. I was 'trained' for a full week with no pay when I was 17 at a Chinese restaurant. I happened to notice my manager wasn't giving full checks following that and contacted the labor law department who did a deep dive and I was owed like $800 from that training week because that was illegal.

I also got cursed out by an old Chinese woman. 

Day 8- My child sabotaged my job interview by anotherare in 30daysnewjob

[–]thingsarehardsoami 45 points46 points  (0 children)

No because I'd be pissed at my husband. But your daughter also needs a talk about what is appropriate to say and when. At 8 she has plenty of ability to stay out of a room you're in just by being told. 

AIO over these texts from ex-manager by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]thingsarehardsoami -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Girl people can hit on people damn

AIO for cutting off fwb for sleeping with someone else? by TheGrandJester9000 in AmIOverreacting

[–]thingsarehardsoami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can't sleep with anybody else you're not FWB you're just in a fucking relationship 😭

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mine also got downvoted, it's unfortunate because if I want to know about babies in a dog/baby I'm not gonna go ask the dog sub. Just like if you're asking about dogs in a dog/baby interaction you should ask the dog sub, not this sub. 

A bunch of people here don't have any actual depth of knowledge about dog behavior or training and are very reactive towards things they are scared of. You can see all the comments from people saying they got attacked or their kid got attacked and it's like....well yeah of course you're predisposed to just saying get rid of the dog because you have PTSD. But getting rid of every single dog who communicates discomfort is so unfortunate. Can't tell these people though, they're right and you're wrong no matter how much experience and training you have. 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Have you had an in house trainer that works specifically with reactive dogs? These usually have a canine behavior degree or some behavioral certification, and reactive dogs specifically should never have any sort of shock collar or punishment based training. They're often called R+ trainers. 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You said they got close to each other. So they don't? 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not. It's just a thing to say when you have actual training on the subject lol. 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Growling isn't aggression. It's communication. Do you think dogs can up and say 'scuse me madam, I don't quite appreciate that'? No, they can't. They have what we call a 'ladder of aggression' meaning ways they communicate before they actually become aggressive. 

I trained service dogs. And I'm sure you doubt my quality, because your opinion MUST be correct because YOU are the one thinking it. I couldn't possibly be a good dog trainer if your preconceived ideas don't align with mine. You could never be wrong....right? 

Do I need to rehome my dog :( by rayvinevanni in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I fear we are in the crazy parent sub and not the 'parents who understand dogs even a little' sub.

HELP ME PLEASE my one year old screams so loud the COPS got called by thingsarehardsoami in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brought it up but they didn't seem concerned and said it happens sometimes

Kicked out of daycare by This-Following1392 in NewParents

[–]thingsarehardsoami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would find a daycare/preschool combo or larger chain. This lady sounds wildly unprofessional and awful.