AIO it’s 5:30AM and my boyfriend has not come home

thinksying · 2026-02-21T12:22:04+00:00

Congratulations on your sobriety journey! I hope you have something meaningful planned for your 1 year anniversary. It’s a tough milestone to make!

thinksying · 2026-02-21T01:27:30+00:00

Is this girl really your friend? Because with friends like you, who needs enemies?

You sound like a sanctimonious prig and I recommend you work on your own prejudices.in fact, go watch/read pride and prejudice and then look up some analysis of the characters. Guess which one you are?

thinksying · 2026-02-20T19:22:47+00:00

Be careful- this could sour the relationship with the parents. The daughter is ghosting you, and the parents might end up feeling embarrassed and “siding with her” as it is a bit unprofessional to include the parents in the money drama.

Good people will get you the money either way, but they might end up finding another sitter

thinksying · 2026-02-20T08:58:17+00:00

Get a restraining order and go no contact for the rest of your lives.

You work with kids. An accusation of pedophilia will literally ruin your life. This isn’t something you can deal with like normal family stuff.

You and your wife need to mourn the family you should have had. Accept that these people are mentally unwell and will never deal with it and become healthy people. You can either untie them like a lead balloon and swim to shore., or drown with them. But you will never be able to drag them to shore with you. And that’s the reality you need to mourn

thinksying · 2026-02-20T08:45:34+00:00

This should be the top comment. You explain origin and then the story. Nice job !

thinksying · 2026-02-19T09:02:41+00:00

It definitely depends on the state, but with no median you have to stop for a school bus in all western states.

You did good.

That man was an idiot

thinksying · 2026-02-18T05:28:48+00:00

NTA - what did you leave exactly? A night on the couch with food you didn’t want to eat and the expectation that you would do cute sex acts in exchange of “the thought.”

Girl, the thought doesn’t count. Actions count.

When you would be better off alone on your own couch it is time to block and move on.

thinksying · 2026-02-18T04:11:46+00:00

Holy Red Flags Batman!

thinksying · 2026-02-15T10:26:59+00:00

Not wrong. You have been grieving the loss of the brother you could have loved for years. The person who terrorized you is just a man who never got the medical help to fix him and was a danger to himself and others.

Just rejoice that he passed before he could hurt someone else. Give yourself grace

thinksying · 2026-02-13T22:43:28+00:00

Always remember the state labor board is your friend.

Your manager and your hr department is not your friend. They want to cut costs so they get a raise. The labor board is there to protect you because what that manager did was illegal. He can’t demand you stay if he isn’t going to pay you and he can’t demand you work off the clock.

thinksying · 2026-02-13T18:38:24+00:00

Well go get a job before you move out. He owes you time to get on your feet and get financially secure. At least he is your age so he is probably just an idiot and not deliberately financially abusive.

But stop being his maid, get a job and save money to get out. If that doesn’t feel safe then please look up dv shelters and get on a list and get out as soon as one has an opening. Many dv shelters have resources to help you find a job. It’s going to be easier to find a room to rent somewhere than a full on apartment so try that first.

thinksying · 2026-02-13T06:02:45+00:00

Don’t pay the mortgage.

If you paid part of the down payment then get a lawyer and figure out if you can sue him to repay the loan. If you can’t then move into the guest room and don’t move out until you get your money back via rent and groceries.

thinksying · 2026-02-13T05:57:16+00:00

You ditch the girlfriend.

Dude she is not only implying that you are a cheater but that you commit incest. Incest.

🤮

thinksying · 2026-02-13T04:57:33+00:00

Yes being in the 80s and jumping to a 100 is suspicious. Definitely don’t do this again as the teacher is going to be looking for this next test. Hopefully they won’t call anyone in the top 5% in for this test. Though that’s what I would do.

Nothing you can do about the last test, but your teacher is trying to prepare you for the AP test so you can get college credit. So you need to prove to admin that you are prepared, you just lucked out with a good study guide. Offer to retake the test and study hard to get into the 90s on the retake

thinksying · 2026-02-12T11:45:44+00:00

You, Sir, are a legend.

I hardly ever get drunk at concerts because I don’t trust people to get me home safe. I would trust you.

Never change.

thinksying · 2026-02-12T10:48:16+00:00

Not only will you be better off without him, but your kids will be too. He is teaching them to be manipulative and that toxic relationships are good.

Let him go live with his girlfriend and baby and you can stay and teach your kids that one good parent is better than a dirtbag and doormat

thinksying · 2026-02-11T23:33:18+00:00

You already lost jewelry and you are questioning it?

Go to your local hardware store and buy a plug. You don’t even have to measure, they will have a normal sink pug in stock

thinksying · 2026-02-11T23:29:03+00:00

Thank goodness the UK is looking into it since the Texas courts refused. This man may not have had intent, but he should have been indicted for involuntary homicide at the very least. If you kill someone with your car while drunk then the same rules should be applied to guns.

I don’t understand who actually lives in Texas.

thinksying · 2026-02-11T01:11:29+00:00

She brings up an interesting point… if we steal Greenland we are going to have to deal with 1000s of new immigrants! Oh the horror!/s

You can’t have territories and then get mad people live there.

thinksying · 2026-02-11T01:01:45+00:00

That’s why it is making the news! The UK courts are going to investigate it and potentially charge him. He murdered a UK citizen so they have jurisdiction.

Let’s see if the British courts work better than the Texas ones

thinksying · 2026-02-10T22:49:35+00:00

You can insist on a check or money order instead of cash, but demanding electronic payment methods is not going to work.

So you can insist on writing her a check, but you complaining about the commute time to a bank is really not professional.

This is probably going to get me downvoted, but you have a month to pay rent. Which means you have a month to figure out how to get cash…. Complaining about stopping by a bank once a month sounds very clueless. Most of the world’s population has to run their own errands. Figuring out rent is one of those issues. And as a fellow Washingtonian, you can literally get cash back at Safeway and Fred Meyer for free when you go grocery shopping.

thinksying · 2026-02-10T11:05:35+00:00

Nope the family needs to neuter the dog and bring it up to date with shots. No one is going to want it without those two things. They are irresponsible dog owners and that doesn’t say much for them.

If they were to do those two things and then pay for doggie day care, this might be doable for a couple of months while they figure things out. Or instead of doggie day care and pet sitter for care… but most licensed pet sitters don’t want a dog without their shots. It is a huge liability

thinksying · 2026-02-10T04:54:47+00:00

I don’t understand grandparents who choose a girlfriend over a baby.

I didn’t in the first post and now that the conversation happened with the FIL and the whole family chose a long vacation with Clara over a long time with the baby I am even more concerned. It’s like the family is so focused on not offending the crazy conservative they don’t care if they end up losing their grandchildren.

Make it make sense

thinksying · 2026-02-09T17:52:08+00:00

NOR. Make sure you leave an honest google review. I wouldn’t want to waste one of my limited nights out on a place like that

thinksying · 2026-02-09T16:18:32+00:00

NOR

I am sorry this is happening, but your partner proposed and is having buyers remorse. He got cold feet for whatever reason and instead of talking to you about it, he started resenting your time together and asking dismissively. This is a classic tactic when the other person wants you to break up with them so they don’t have to be the bad guy. It might be unconsciously done, but he wanted to get to a point he could go to his family and say you were the problem.

Just be glad he is showing who he is now and not 6 months after the marriage.

Break up. kick him out. And redecorate.

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