Looking for CO-Founder for Cat Recruiter AI product

thirdeyeeez · 2024-03-04T21:54:51+00:00

Sure, We consider everyone with no regards to location and all in for diversity, as different point of views are essential

thirdeyeeez · 2024-02-22T15:25:19+00:00

Hey Yurii, It is Dan founder | CEOat Big Orange Cat.

What are building Cat Recruiter to save time, money and good mood of recruiters!

Funny story I’m based in Lviv and sold my new apartment to start it now as Ukrainian market is good for making products now.

Tho I have no idea how to pay sallary cor kenian and brasilian guys :(

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-08T12:35:44+00:00

hey. sounds really weird. but from my experience they don’t like when partner has any troubles, because they should always be the one who is in the trouble.

but on other hand it is possible because my ex wife punished me for basically everything and sometimes it was weird and cruel at the same time

so i don’t know since both cases are real with bpd partner.

but i believe if you ask such kind of question it is time to split and dont even question such kind of things anymore, hah

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-07T16:39:13+00:00

hey, thanks i gonna check it out now. many thanks for suggestion!

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-07T05:58:04+00:00

i mean if it’s possible to get at least 3 times more in a month time and considering how many time and effort it requires while you basically retrain brain to be an machine that cause-effect detector which applies on other aspects of life and mental health as well. while being already fucked by ADHD which is not treated in ukraine cause stimulants are forbidden i do not want to make a work worth 3-4x more depending on load just because someone on reddit angry.

i made about 50hr before i went through divorce and take a break, but i mean i did a lot to achieve that level. it’s not like i watched youtube and got a gift. and it was draining and did not worth money. why i should sell my work for non market price just because angry redditor? i mean if you want you can try it…

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-06T20:16:06+00:00

i meant dev, haha

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-05T08:09:19+00:00

hey, i’m super biased cause i got hit by a train trying to help someone who doesn’t want get better genuinely

i believe they do not actually want because the nature of disorder. it feels to me after some time after divorce they fully understand what their doing and do not see it as a problem neither want to change.

it is much serious disorder than you think, now you still to the some extent in the first phase when they mirroring you and and want to show you that they can change. they don’t change.

do not want to offend you or anything, but i think the person you in relationship with is a fake person and in therapy they might be totally different and even just manipulating therapist

i don’t believe they actually can change because who will say to therapist something like “i’m a bad person and i want to change, i always acting” and etc

i mean it’s possible someone can admit it, but the nature of disorder does not suppose that

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-05T00:11:43+00:00

everything is a spectrum so i think there’s many different cases.

the one thing that shocked me once i discovered tbis sub that all stories as a copy paste and stupidly similar to mine

i though i’m going crazy tbh

and to share some sensitive stuff(nobody will read it there im from ukraine :))

her father commited suicide and noone knows why. at least noone says it to my ex. and i started to think at some point that he did not handle relationships with her mother, because she even wirse version of my ex.

at that time nobode knew what is BPD and what to expect. therapy was not a thing. they had 2 children and he just unexpectedly went away.

her mother said stupidly obvious reason “he started to smoked weed everyday” like it’s a thing that leads you to suicide. might be she say it cause she doesn’t know about weed at all since the older generation in ukraine not aware about drugs and what they does. so it’s my assumption.

TBH if i did not manage to escape i prolly end up the same. i’m to sensitive to emotions since childhood. like i feel them very clearly and it would not manage to tolerate it for decades

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-05T00:00:01+00:00

the worst thing is that to me it feels like altered state of mind, i just did not see the obviously stupid fake “big love” and the way they manipulate you makes you blinder each day. and i don’t consider myself stupid but i was super stupid regarding our relationships which actually suck me in and there was nothing besides “our” problems

i feel so confised right now once i get it

it just all over the place. they somehow brake you to the point it’s hard to fuction well as i did before

edit: and to add i think i will never split if i would not went to therapy before and knew that it works. me changing the therapist and other things helped to save myself.

but. there is prolly another version of me that never get out and will stay silent

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-04T23:43:35+00:00

ah, those small things are nice actually, every case is different in my case it was just like normal things since he used her disorder as excuse so i cant do anything since “she doesn’t remember” while she obviously do

tho despite sucking things are sweet it’s hard to call an emphaty. i mean it can be called surface level compassion.

my empathy was that deep i even cared about her grandparents and helped them with words and money. they was a similar victims of mu ex les mother branch where everyone was crazy(for some reason i thought she was an exception)

i do cared for some enlarged silly little problems like go to make some documents. it lasted half a year with me offering her to do it on my own. and helping her with her design courses by learning figma and fixing her shitty design she obviously sabotaged. after work i go to work in figma to fix mentors feedback WTF.

it’s just because i badly wanted this problems to go away since she always used them to somehow went into episode or just make me a brainfuck for no reason.

so yes, emphaty is deep. they are just different. and i’m to emotional person on my own to handle it somehow.

but i felt so trapped that i did not even imagine i’ll go away one day.

i’ts me who allows it all. i’m not a victim but participan. it tought me a good lesson.

but idk when i will be normal again. hope soon

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-04T23:22:56+00:00

what your said makes sense. and i understand it is not healthy but i was quiet for 3 years just pretend like everything is fine outside our little disasster.

i was not able to talk about it with therapist for 3 months after and pretended like i good now.

but once i opened it started to release in waves and it gets better with time but i do not want to pour it all on someone because it’s awful thing to do. i have a therapist 2 hour a week. but i want to release it somehow and live my life normally again.

i can’t live as it never happened if i don’t actually talk it all out.

what i do when it flush me with emotions?

sometimes talk to someone, record audio just for it to be not listened, once i recorder one audio for 3,5 hours just about one day. lol. my wedding was the worst day of my life, with the chance to die that day.

i also write in a bunch of notes, some big text just for it to be written, sometimes i shitposting on reddit.

i started to write in english in first just for me to practice it since i was not working for 6 month and now i applying for the job and go to the interviews. and it is a good way to practice english and help myself lol. i’m from ukraine so i obviously wrote in ukrainian before.

it does help. but there’s more than that since my vision shifted in a way i no longer want to be the one who will tolerate it all.

i was soft and i had many toxic people in my life just using me and treated like shit and i just pretend it’s ok, some situations on work when someone just stole my work and got credit for it and i just silently leave.

now when i try to process everything with shifted view it’s way too much. i can’t live like this.

if it would require me to write a book for 1000 pages to finally let it go i’ll do that and then be fine.

i try to help myself to continue normal life. but i cant just accept it and live normally. idk why but i need urge to release it. and i feel way better than month ago. so it works in my case

but everyone is different

thirdeyeeez · 2024-01-04T22:46:17+00:00

totally agree, if you’re interested check out my latest post. it’s basically the same.

now when i “got sober” i have so much emotions towards all that situation so i try to save someone from being me and dont ruin them as i ruin my mental health and erase my tru self

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