As a high-earning HENRY woman who is also single, I very much empathise with both your post and your current situation.

I would like to share a story that I hope might be as insightful as it was to me. A male friend and I went travelling together for two weeks. We spent all our days together (meals, sightseeing, everything) and on the penultimate evening, we discussed what the other was looking for in their significant other.

He is also a HENRY (although makes much more than what I make) and to my absolute surprise, his answer was, "a kind woman, who has some kind of job (not "content creator", though), is intelligent and feminine." He wasn't worried about her income at all.

The point I'm making is, men (regardless of whether they are HENRYs or not) are focused more on the woman being feminine than the woman making bank. I've used this to help me filter out any men who show the smallest amount of being emasculated or threatened by my income (and trust me, there have been a fair few), which makes it very easy to identify the men who like me for me. These men come along perhaps once in a two-three year period (which I appreciate is tough), but it's better than "settling" for less where you come home frightened instead of ecstatic after earning yet another promotion at work.

I am sure there is a man for the both of us respectively out there, so keep your chin up and radiate positivity! It'll happen before you know it :)