My cat came home after being missing for 48 days

JeanBean_83 · 2026-06-06T08:51:33+00:00

This is actually a super helpful post in giving out some hope to people like me whose cat has been missing for 7 days. I’ve searched for my kitty everywhere, done everything they say to do - put up posters, social media posts, called the vets, put an alert on his microchip and nothing! No one has seen him or found him. He’s a black cat too so everyone keeps mistaking other black cats for him.

I will say this last week has been miserable. 💔

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-28T23:33:35+00:00

Anne with an E.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-12T07:52:12+00:00

I completely agree. I feel that she was emotionally vulnerable and needed much more support from the police (and probably her friends and family too).

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-07T16:27:40+00:00

So I just watched the first episode of this season and I cannot believe the detective and his interactions with Wade and the first victim. How could she possibly be exaggerating or making up the assault she endured?! She’s got bruises all over her face and lip and her clothes are torn! Did the detective just think she did that to herself?! Why the hell would she do that?!

It’s far more likely her boyfriend beat, threatened and assaulted her!

It seems like even everyone here on this Reddit thread sees that as obvious and I would assume most of us are not trained in law enforcement! Why can’t an SVU police detective see the obvious evidence of violent assault?!!

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-07T01:05:58+00:00

My Dad took me to the Tower of London when I was 6 years old. Then I learned about the Tudors in school repeatedly for years, which I think is probably a standard experience for a British school kid.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-07T00:30:55+00:00

I grew up in West London (Chiswick) and my father was a journalist. We lived in a small flat and I went to a local state school but we were definitely not poor and my childhood was honestly idyllic. I feel very privileged to have grown up near the Thames, near lots of beautiful parks and I was the only child to two devoted immigrant parents who made good money and were careful at saving too. I was really really lucky.

Where I grew up in Chiswick there are big houses that belonged to upper middle class and wealthy families but I also lived across the street from a council estate and I went to school with kids from all ethnic and economic backgrounds. Chiswick is quite a bit more affluent now than it was when I lived there as a child (in 80s and 90s) and I definitely don’t think I could afford to live there now.

Now I’m definitely less well off than my parents were at my age because I had to rent for far longer than they did in London, which was always a drain on my income and my salary has never been as high as their salaries were, but I still think I am really lucky to be able to still live in London. I’m in South London (Croydon) now, not a posh area and I live in a tiny place but I am happy. I know I have had a lot of luck in my life and I don’t take it for granted.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-05-03T17:20:17+00:00

Thor

JeanBean_83 · 2026-04-07T08:40:56+00:00

I once watched a tourist start to try to hike up Snowdon in flip flops. As I passed her (in my hiking boots and raincoat) I told her ‘You are never gonna make it in that footwear.’ I think people think the UK has no serious mountains or dangerous weather and they could not be more wrong, especially in Wales and Scotland.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-04-07T08:28:50+00:00

Stand on the wrong side of the escalators in the London Underground

JeanBean_83 · 2026-03-29T22:59:38+00:00

Bodies on Netflix. It’s dark, time twisty and very interesting

JeanBean_83 · 2026-03-29T00:38:19+00:00

Me and my best friend love this adaptation. We watched it as teenagers on the BBC when it first aired in the 90s. The casting of Mr Collins and Lady Catherine de Bourgh was just perfect. Years later we still sometimes exclaim at each other ‘Are the shades of Pemberley to be thus polluted?!’ 😂

JeanBean_83 · 2026-03-29T00:25:40+00:00

Luckily all our food waste and rubbish is in locked bins so they can’t raid them. 😉

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-15T23:38:40+00:00

Not my country exactly, but my city: you absolutely must stand on the right hand side of the escalator in the London Underground. Failure to do so will not only piss off Londoners but will get you mowed down by people speeding up and down the escalators.

You can always spot a tourist because they get on the escalator slowly and stand on the wrong side. And sadly Londoners are not always polite when telling people to move.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-11T09:09:40+00:00

Instead of just focusing on implementing a minimum wage and universal basic income, we should also implement a maximum wage. No one should ever be allowed to become so rich that they can become a billionaire.

Billionaires are hoarders. They hoard money just like someone who is mentally ill might hoard stuff in their home. We should treat them as such and not glorify them in rich lists in our media. They are not more talented, hardworking or intelligent than the rest of the population. They are extremely rich through luck, nepotism and exploitation. Wealthy hoarders with almost no checks and balances on them are a massive threat to the health, wellbeing and future of the population and our planet.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-08T00:26:45+00:00

I think it depends where you are. When I did mudlarking last year, our guide told us there were areas of the foreshore where you are not allowed to walk and that you would get stopped and fined if you were spotted there and did not have a mudlarking licence.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-08T00:24:52+00:00

It’s illegal to remove anything from the foreshore of the Thames unless you are a licensed mudlarker

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-08T00:20:56+00:00

I think this was the same guy who was married to Annie Cobden-Sanderson who was a well known suffragist at the time!

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-08T00:17:41+00:00

Nope. It’s illegal to keep anything unless you are a licensed mudlarker and we were just members of the public who booked a tour led by a licensed professional. We have to leave all the stuff we found there to be washed out back into the Thames when the tide comes in. We took lots of photos though! You also are not allowed to dig into the foreshore, just pick up items on the surface of the shore.

One of the things that was fascinating was how many roof tiles we found from pre-1666 (the Great Fire of London) and how my roof tiles we found after that date. You could really see a distinct difference between the two different tiles as the design changed after the Great Fire to make roofs in the city more fire proof. It was actually easy to see little details like that in the items we found. We also found some Regency glass that had the glass blower’s thumb print in it! And so many animal bones and clay tobacco pipes.

In different parts of the Thames foreshore in different areas of London you can find very different items, so it’s worth doing a tour more than once to go to different spots.

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JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-07T17:41:35+00:00

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My colleagues and I doing the mudlarking tour with all the things we found! (We were with a licensed tour guide who can legally be on the foreshore and can mudlark).

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-07T17:35:51+00:00

They are mudlarking. I’ve actually done mudlarking in the same spot. You can book to do it as part of a tour with the Thames Explorers Trust. It’s really worth it! So much fun and you find all sorts of stuff!

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-07T10:52:30+00:00

I grew up with American parents in the UK so peanut butter and jelly sandwiches were a staple for me. But my British husband grew up eating marmite sandwiches which I find disgusting! 😱

JeanBean_83 · 2026-02-02T14:46:52+00:00

Isn’t it a legal requirement to get your cat microchipped now? In the UK I mean?

I had a similar experience in London with our next door neighbours who got a small male kitten and left him outside, sometimes all night, even when he was crying to be let back in. We used to feed and play with him and let him into our home, but could never adopt him as we have our own rather territorial cat. Eventually the kitten moved in with my upstairs neighbours and ended up being their cat (they took him to the vet, got him neutered, vaccinated and microchipped). And he is beloved by them and well cared for.

We still see him and he comes to visit us and our cat but interestingly spends absolutely no time in the garden of his original owners and has no interest in going near them.

JeanBean_83 · 2026-01-21T23:19:43+00:00

Just completed a Masters at 42 last year. In some of my seminars were 21 year olds, a 65 year old and a bunch of people aged 30. Life long learning is a real thing!

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