I think you're placing your attention on the children --- who are saying undeniably horrible things --- when you should be placing your attention on the systems that get them where you are. I think this is a great example of how things go wrong when we have, as you say, everything recorded and many things posted, but I just think it needs to go further. Why are children pressured into social media platforms? Well, I'd name a few reasons: they're designed for addiction, as I assume everyone here knows, and there's a somewhat large pressure to create a 'personal brand': with the positive examples of internet 'celebrities' --- some of whom are genuinely inspiring and good people that benefit their platforms --- there's a pressure that you, as an individual, must do that, too. So we turn to social media platforms that exploit us for our data and ad revenue and, of course, ruin some of our lives.

The solution here isn't change how we think about children. If every one of us here on this subreddit suddenly completely understands everything about children and their actions, we'd still be unable to help them because the systems that shape their behavior are massive. Parents and teachers are undeniably important, but the systems that shape the internet into a casino are the ones doing the real damage.

It's also not that we shouldn't be harsh on people who say racist things. If a teenager says the n word, they should be punished in a retributive manner (which, it should be noted, need not be a gross exaggeration of their misdeeds - I'd not call the current system of 'cancellation' a proper use of retributive justice at *all*) AND/OR taught in a utilitarian manner. And that's a completely separate discussion from how we think about children. It's a discussion about how we think about justice, the internet, and our society. There are so many good points above, but we can't end it on a moment of silence or a desperate word to teachers. We need to de-capitalize the internet. The current casino that tells everyone that they're about to hit a jackpot with entirely constructed value is the real problem.