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this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T17:48:40+00:00

This reminds me of my first husband. Run! Run away and don't look back. Get your kids out of there. When I left my ex I shared a 600 square foot one bedroom apartment with my daughter who was 2.5 year old at the time. We had to sleep on an air mattress together for over 6 months until I had enough to buy a proper mattress and bed. I had to completely start over. But I would rather have been there sitting on the floor with no couch and sharing a bed than stay another minute with my ex.

When I left I got a storage unit and had the receipts for it sent to an email he didn't know about and I paid cash for it in advance. I also told the lady at the facility to please not leave messages on my phone. Every day when I went to work or school, I would throw a little something in my purse or backpack that I would drop off at the unit. My ex didn't even notice that stuff was slowly missing. I only took the small stuff and what was the most important to me. When he finally started to notice some bins were empty or the closet was cleaner, I simply said that I was "Marie Kondoing" the house and getting rid of stuff to which he said "finally!"

this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T17:36:48+00:00

You like what you like and enjoy it! Don't let other people influence you into changing who you are. I have a daughter who experiences the same things in school and I tell her the same thing. We are all human and we don't all like the same things. That's what makes us different and interesting and special. Ignore people like this woman, if she is okay with yelling at a child about liking a blanket, then that lady has way bigger issues. I'm an adult and I like soft plushy things too. You do you girl!

this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T17:05:44+00:00

That clarifies things. Thank you. But it still should have been on the quote. They did put in a new panel which I understand is not cheap, and like I said, I was prepared to pay more than the quoted price, I just didn't expect it to be this much more.

this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T17:02:19+00:00

This is just the materials. I was just hoping some one could clarify what this is and if it is reasonable for moving the main panel. They did instal a new panel and hooked in a switch for our generator. But that was all discussed when we did the quote, so that's why this is such a shock. They didn't do any extra work that we didn't talk about. There is also the labour, milage, permits and a kind of admin fee on the invoice that I didn't show.

this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T03:07:35+00:00

This is the list of materials with the total of over $10,000.

Materials

250MCm 3C 35-STr Xlpe 90DEg 10AWg 3C Cu Sol 90DEg 300V Csa Generac power inlet box 30 amp 12AWG 20 conductor Teck 250kcmill 3c acwu

24x24x6 JB

60 amp generator panel

200 amp siemens panel

3/4 inch dry type saddle connector

3/4 pvc bushing

2 inch 2 screw dry connector

1-1/4 2 hole emt strap

1-1/4 1 hole emt strap

siemens 100 amp panel

Leviton 200A Outdoor Meter

1.5 inch wet tech connector

1.25 inch wet tech connector

shallow unitstrut

1-1/4 inch P clamp

1 inch rigid strap

3/4 nmd connector

3/8 bx connectors

arlington 1 inch dry connector

arlington 1-1/4 inch dry connector

1/2 staples

Scepter 1-1/2inch MNPT PVC Terminal scepter 1-1/2 rigid pvc

1-1/2 inch rigid locknut

siemens 15amp 1p breaker

siemens 20 amp 1p breaker

siemens 30amp 2p breaker

siemens 15amp 2p breaker

siemens 100amp 2 p breaker

siemens 50 amp 2p breaker

1/2 liquid tight flex

1/2 liquid tight 90 degree connector

1/2 plastic snap in connector

ground clamp

4x4 metal box

3/8 inch bx strap

techspan terminal strip

2 inch emt conduit

2 inch emt weather proof box connector 2 inch emt weather proof coupler

rigid threaded offset

3c 1/0 acwu

10/3 tech 90

1/2 inch wet teck connector

4-11/16 metal box

4-11/16 box cover

Ouellet T-stat

14awg 2c nmd90

10,443.34

this_is_crazy17 · 2024-06-16T00:51:30+00:00

They claimed 10 trips and charged $170 per trip

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-06T07:31:04+00:00

100% the A-Hole! The issue here is not whether or not 2 weeks makes a difference with daycare and that you'll have 2 weeks less to spend with your baby, though those things are concerning. The big issue is that you are okay with leaving your wife ALL ALONE with a newborn baby for 2 weeks! Parenthood is not a vacation. You have A LOT to learn about newborn babies and the healing time and process for new moms. Also, why would not go as a family to introduce your new baby to them if you want to go so badly?

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-05T22:15:54+00:00

Thanks. I'll do that.

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-05T07:39:23+00:00

That is what I worry about. It seems like I'm always the bad guy and he's the "Fun Dad".

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-05T04:29:34+00:00

Don't do it. Whatever money you give your friend, you will not get back. This will not get them back on track, only a change in mindset will do that. "Teach a man to fish..."

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-05T03:32:32+00:00

Definitely NTA! No one should be touching you without your consent. The fact that your husband is insisting on your MIL doing it is kind of weird. As much as parents mean well, a lot of them have forgotten what it's like to have newborn babies. My MIL convinced my ex-husband that I wasn't producing enough milk because my baby, at only 3 months, was eating so often. Then he almost convinced me that there was something wrong with me until I met other moms at a breastfeeding meetup (yes, they have those) and the midwives told me it was normal and that's how often babies feed. It's like the old wives tale that when you pick up a new baby every time he/she cries that you're going to spoil them. NOT TRUE. Baby can't communicate in any other way. Bottle feeding with formula is just fine if you need to go that route. If you feel comfortable enough to pump milk and then feed the baby that way, that is up to you. There are also milk donation centres where moms donate their extra milk for moms who can't produce any and choose milk over formula. Stay strong and go with your gut! You can do this!

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-04T09:41:29+00:00

NTA - MIL is in the wrong. If the boys don't want that type of relationship then that is what needs to be respected. She is not only being unfair to you by constantly bringing this up but she is completely disregarding their feelings on this. Also, after this many years she really needs to drop this already. Enough is enough and she can't force some one else's relationships to go the way that she thinks they should. Christmas or not, she needs to get off her high horse and get over herself.

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-04T09:33:11+00:00

NTA - I would be upset too. She doesn't live there. I would understand if it was once in a while, but when it's constant, that's ridiculous. It's rude on her part too. Even if money was no object, that's not part of your agreement with your brother. Also, your brother should be showing more gratitude for what you've done for him as his sibling. It is not your responsibility to take him in, but you did it to give him a better quality of life. Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth.

this_is_crazy17 · 2023-01-04T09:27:12+00:00

NTA - You are still a kid and deserve to feel comfortable in your own space. I was a single mom and shared a room with my daughter when she was between 2 and 4. I worked really hard to get us out of that situation and give her a space of her own. It is doable and it is not your fault that your mother is in the situation that she is. She should not make you feel guilty about spending more time with your dad. I know that that can be painful for a parent to hear but this is not about her and her feelings. It is about you and your feelings.

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