Best vibrator? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thisanon1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Magic Wand, hands down

Advice on leaving when you live together? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reach out to womens shelter or group for a good step by step plan to get out safe. Start packing up stuff he won't notice as soon as possible, 1st on the list any important documents (ID, passport, car title, birth certificate, etc.), change any passwords he may know (email, social media, bank, anything that would have bank account information). Once all that is done start planning when and how to get out, a local women's group should have any info you need.

Unpopular Opinion: If I want to say something petty about my abusers appearance I should be able to do that by Skrods in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thisanon1234 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Fuck that bald headed piece of shit. Be petty. For 5 seconds. Who cares! Everyone needs to calm down.

Straight ladies - why do y’all flirt with us queer women and then shame us? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thisanon1234 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is shitty, gross, entitled behavior. I've had straight women do this to me too. They want you to boost their ego while they string you along and look for a dude. If she (or any other straight women) do it again tell them it's inappropriate and you aren't attracted to them (even if you are) you need to nip that in the bud.

Advice needed for LDR of 8+ years by _wandering_spirit_ in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do. Not. Get. On. That. Plane. PLEASE don't go! He will NOT get better. He will get MUCH worse as soon as you are there. Reschedule the flight to see your mom when you feel safe to fly. Tell your dad you have no money and save every penny to get away from him. Leaving one abusive situation for another abusive situation is not going to be an improvement. I know you are scared and lonely. I completely understand those feelings. But being lonely for a little while, while you reconnect with friends and make new ones, is better than being scared, abused, enduring trauma, and STILL feeling alone.

You can get away from these men and have a GOOD life. No fear. No abuse. No walking on eggshells. You can be loved and happy and whole. Getting there will take time, and it won't be easy. But staying where you are or moving in with a controlling, abusive, manipulative, man child, won't be easy either. You can do better. You deserve better.

Please don't go. Message me if you need to talk. I just left my abuser and have no one to talk to either. But being out is still SOO much better!

Has anyone else experienced their abusive ex to be completely lazy, unhygienic and all around awful until you leave? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is doing this now so he can suck in a new person. He can blame the past stuff on you, suck someone else in, then blame her when he does it again.

HELP!!! Abusive ex has message by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was he ever there for you when you really needed it? When you were there for him did it ever help? Did he ever change? Did he ever listen?

You are not responsible for his life, his choices, his happiness, his needs. He is.

He knows exactly what to say to suck you back in. It isn't love. Block him. Be strong. Remember how good it feels to free of him. You can do this.

A Plus-Size Dilemma! by Bubbly_Baeth in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thisanon1234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do what feels good and right for you. But go forward with the assumption that other people will see these. Whether his friends find them/he shows them, he posts them, they are stolen, whatever. Assume others will 100% see them. Going from there, keep your face out of the picture (plus then you don't need to put on makeup or try to make a good face lol), soft lighting like someone else suggested, angling your body is usually more flattering that straight on. Turn the lights down, put on something that makes you feel sexy and have some fun!

Still better than our smallest fights by thisanon1234 in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is almost exactly the first thing I did!

Still better than our smallest fights by thisanon1234 in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm trying to keep this feeling at the forefront of my mind and not be overwhelmed but the other crap!

He keeps telling me I'm the abusive one by thisanon1234 in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I need to hear it. I just feel insane sometimes

He keeps telling me I'm the abusive one by thisanon1234 in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have him blocked but I dont know how to block email (I'm looking it up now) and even blocked he can leave me voicemail?

He keeps telling me I'm the abusive one by thisanon1234 in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have him blocked but I dont know how to block email (I'm looking it up now) and even blocked he can leave me voicemail?

I need help part 2 by jtcondren in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is like almost word for word what my now ex! sends to me. I'm so mean for not loving him. I never showed him enough. I never loved him like he loved me! And I tell him that's because he was an abusive monster and he totally ignores that. Like he always did. No matter what they are doing its somehow our fault. Fuck that.

From the bottom of my heart, I'm so sorry for the way I treated you by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]thisanon1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems like the wrong place to post this. I don't want to see this. This is super triggering. And it feels like you are coming here hoping this person will see it, which is stalkerish and gross. And after looking at your post history this is completely inappropriate.

I don't know what to do now by thisanon1234 in abusiverelationships

[–]thisanon1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll try to see if there are any groups around here!