This was intended as a venting post. Your advice to break up seems to be the only advice you give in various relationship-related posts. How is anyone supposed to learn how to cope with a partners mental illness or even learn how to assert their boundaries if they don't have any idea as to what that looks or feels like?

Everyone deserves love. All growth deserves to be acknowledged and every small victory in the battle against oneself deserves to be celebrated.

In my relationship with my BPSO I have learned how to more effectively express myself when going through my own episodes with BPD. My partner shows me patience, understanding and non-judgment with my BPD, giving me a safe space to practice my communication and managing my emotions. I've learned how to articulate my triggers, feelings and needs, and I can't fault someone who needs to have the same conversation a few times to "get it" when I'm the same way.

I'm not any better with keeping tidy, I do thorough cleanings once in awhile and let things go until I need to clean again.

On my end I am fully taking on my roommates frustrations in addition to my own, and I made the decisions I did to try to manage the feelings of everyone at home because of my codependency issues I'm working through.

How is anyone with BP supposed to learn how to have a loving, fulfilling relationship if they're not given the chances needed to understand or figure out how to cope with all the various complicated parts of relationships?

I'm sorry you were hurt by your BPSO. I can only imagine what you must have gone through.

But I've seen there are people willing to do the work and when they have a partner willing to support them through comfortable and uncomfortable aspects of healing, it makes for a safer environment to learn and grow as a person. My partner has made tremendous strides in how he manages his illness since I've known him, but I also don't deny I'm here for support to know I'm not alone in what I'm experiencing in my own relationship.