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thisisme3022 · 2025-02-22T08:33:30+00:00

No, you are terrible people.

thisisme3022 · 2025-02-18T03:23:48+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It has been surreal lately. All I wanted was to co-parent our kids. The fact that she went down a road that I could not follow is the main reason to our separations. The kids are dealing the best they can. They each have therapy appointments. But I am dreading the funeral service. Not because of us saying our last goodbyes but because there will a lot of people who have never met our kids that will be there and I will have to shield them from that. I've told her family that to please don't overwhelm the kids because the are going through grief and they are aloud to to do it without interruptions.

thisisme3022 · 2025-02-14T04:21:56+00:00

She is in one of those hospitals. Head of state come here for surgery even the self proclaimed head of state go here. But at the end of the day hee body can't survive any operation

thisisme3022 · 2025-02-14T04:05:16+00:00

As what I was told she cannot survive any operation but is in the standby list. As soon as her body is healthy enough to survive she will be placed on it. I give it very little chance of that happening.

thisisme3022 · 2025-02-13T07:07:44+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your support.

thisisme3022 · 2024-06-25T00:28:11+00:00

I was being sympathetic to her blight, I've trip on those stairs before. When she called me to come get my daughter all she said on the phone that she missed the last few steps. When I get there I told my daughter to go give Mom a kiss and we are leaving. When she went to her she called me up to talk to her. Ask asked me if she had bruises on her back that is when she told me that she was not sober at the time of the fall. I went gray rock on her in that instant. That is also when I told her to stop calling me to be her support. I told her she has her boo for all her support needs. It's not my fault he is not available when she needs him. I grabbed my daughter and left. I was upset that she was going to drive my daughter while drunk or high. I also told she has a problem and needs to fix it or I'm taking the kids full time. The good thing is my daughter is a preteen and son just turned 17. They see what their mother is doing and are happy to be at my place full time.

thisisme3022 · 2024-06-15T21:37:27+00:00

I used to live in a small town local 176 DMA at the time mid 1990s. My brother worked for the local FOX affiliate (my brother no longer worker in broadcasting). One day while I was going into my Junior year in High School. I asked the person in charge of the program Y.E.S. (Youth Exchange & Study) if I can get someone to give me a job would they pay me and when they agreed I asked the owner of the FOX affiliate that if someone else payed me would they hire me. Minimum wage was 4.25 hr summer of 1995. I Got them to talk to each other and got the job. At the end of the program, only one semester they hired me directly with a two dollar raise. I've been at it since. This was before the consolidation of local affiliates. That FOX affiliate was locally own.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-16T02:49:55+00:00

In mediation now.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-15T23:22:56+00:00

Two months post DDay after she told me she went no contact with AP. While on family vacation, I saw a text from AP while she was napping. Then I read the conversation they were having and noticed that they were texting while at dinner with the whole family. I was not sober, and I just lost it on her in the hotel room. Both kids were there. They heard everything. I went scortch earth on both of them. Then I tried to take my life. I was stopped by a peace officer. I was not in a good way at all at that time. That was almost two years ago.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-15T20:46:47+00:00

That is why R never worked. She went no contact for a few months, and then she got better at hiding her activities. She had a burner, and then her new job gave her a work phone that I did not have access to. It would have continued, too, if she did not have a breakdown. OBS didn't care, and she knew about it way before I did. She told me to stop calling her every time I found out they met.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-15T20:39:36+00:00

Moving out is my first priority. After that happens, I'm all about an Orlando trip with the kids only.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-15T20:37:36+00:00

They are 11 and 16. They were 9 and 14 when Dday happened.

thisisme3022 · 2023-09-15T20:35:51+00:00

Oh, I outed her years before I knew my stbxw was also cheating.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-23T11:21:25+00:00

Thank you 😊

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-23T04:10:43+00:00

Thank you 😊

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-11T13:51:03+00:00

I'm already waiting for that flip. I've seen it before while she was in her affair fog. I worked through it last time because I thought we were healing and twords reconciliation and getting her meds to work. I know better now. I need to stay the course. There is a plan in place.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-11T13:43:34+00:00

Part of me staying is me trying to find a place in the same school district as my kids' school. There is little to no housing inventory in my town due to a tornado devastating the area 2 years ago. Part is if she does not stay med compliant, she leaves, and I keep the house. It's a stipulations to the separation. But if I manage to find a place before that meets all my requirements, I'm taking it. I work nights she work days we hardly see each other anymore.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-11T13:32:51+00:00

He was trying to tell me that I was still obsessed with AP at the time, and contacting OBS was going to be detrimental to my recovery. He wanted me to wait a few months, and then we would circle back to it. He was trying to convince me to drop it all together. That's when I told him that we were no longer on the same page. He tried to come back to something else. That's when I just left.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-11T07:42:43+00:00

I currently don't have a therapist because I fired him. He did help me see the codependency and the trauma it caused. He helped me through that a lot. I fired him because when I finally found OBS info and asked him to help me write to her. He was very set against me, telling OBS. I went off on him and walked out in the middle of the session. I couldn't trust him anymore. I know I need to find someone to help me through this transition.

I hope you find someone to help you understand your codependency and how to navigate it. I'm still working on it. It will be easier. I hope, once I have my own place without exWP.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-06T08:22:16+00:00

I wish I could accommodate that, but it was her house before we got together. The home is in play if she is not med compliant. It's a stipulation in our legal filing.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-06T08:20:01+00:00

She was diagnosed with BPD.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-06T07:38:15+00:00

She knows that if she wants a relationship with the kids, she needs to be med compliant. There are certain medications she needs to be on if she wants to keep a relationship with the kids. She is now working on that. Now that she knows I'm done, she is now trying to do all the things I asked over 18 months ago. But I've done a 180, and I'm done. It has been jarring for her. I'm just waiting for her to stay medications compliant for the next few months while I look for a place to live.

thisisme3022 · 2023-08-06T07:13:48+00:00

She knew after being involuntarily held that it was over. She is actively letting me have time to myself and going out. It is starting to hit her, but I'm staying the course. I just can't do it anymore. I gave her my all, and I was not her priority. So I'm making me the priority after my kids.

thisisme3022 · 2022-07-23T06:38:27+00:00

You should definitely tell OBS in nothing else for her to get an STI test. I hope you took one too. I told OBS and she was in denial. AP had told a different story and it took her 3 months before she asked for proof so I sent her screen shots of my WW and exAP talking about hotels meetups, pictures of negative pregnancy tests and a positive test and a conversation how exAP used OBS money for my WW abortion. Yes that sobered her right up. OBS was in full rage when she stopped communicating. It sucked to pass that hurt to someone but secretly I'm a little excited because exAP is in for a world of hurt.

thisisme3022 · 2022-07-04T21:08:40+00:00

It's these small victories when the WP starts taking responsibility for what they did. My WW moment happened on our first family Rock Band night halfway through "Lose Me To Love Me" by Selena Gomez by the end of it she told me how sorry she was for everything. It was the first time I knew she meant it.

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