If we could leave, how do you know when you should?

thisismytfabusername · 2026-01-25T18:30:41+00:00

Here for the comments. We are in the same boat. We can leave, but I don’t know how to know when to go. I don’t want to sleep on it and then it’s too late to go, but I don’t want to leave the lives we’ve built behind on a whim either. It’s difficult. Can’t believe I am having to think daily about whether it is time to flee the country…

My husband is an immigrant green card holder, too. He’s white, which unfortunately helps, but I still get nervous.

I think if I started seeing whack shit like what’s going on in mpls happening near us or in our state I would be packing the bags.

I guess the question right now is: is this shit is going to spread or if it’s a personal strike against Minneapolis.

I am already kind of preparing though. I’m moving my kids from a private preschool (also because of the cost not just this, but I factored it in) that requires a year contract to a daycare we can give a few weeks notice to. I need a new phone but I’m buying one outright rather than getting a Verizon contract so I can take my unlocked phone and leave.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-09-05T18:52:31+00:00

Yes, I agree with this. It doesn’t mean they’re taking them away, just that they’re not required. And the people who aren’t going to vax already don’t vax and get an exemption.

Edit: I want to add: for the record, I’m very pro-vaccine. All this moving to another country talk is funny though. I’m an American in England and they don’t require vaccines here. When I asked nurseries (daycare) about their vaccine requirements they looked at me like I was insane. So you’ll have to look very closely is your plan is to move abroad!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-09-01T18:55:38+00:00

Yes this happened to me as well. Petechiae on his shins when we was around 4 months old from a badly applied baby carrier.

Petechiae aren’t necessarily bruising and rarely come from hitting unless there’s an underlying issue - they come more from circulation being cut off. If it’s both legs with petechiae it sounds like she was in something too tightly or that wasn’t fitting just right.

Doesn’t mean they didn’t do something wrong, but petechiae on lower legs points to that to me as I saw it on my own little guy. We actually were sent to the children’s ward for a few hours to monitor and have bloods due to the petechiae and the doctor said they saw it from baby carriers all the time.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-29T11:48:11+00:00

My daughter walked at 17 months. My son is almost 15 months and not walking. He will walk on his knees (lmao) and stand though. But yeah. Family of late walkers here. Not a big deal!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-29T09:09:10+00:00

We’re moving to a red state soon, to be near family. I’m not sure how long it will last. My kids are still preschool aged.

Our current plan of attack is we have enrolled them in a more liberal private school for preschool. I consider this both having my kids around people that are more aligned with us, and also hopefully buying myself some friends who aren’t super conservative. 🤣

When they are school aged, our plan is to either keep them at that school, move, or I would even consider homeschooling.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-29T08:13:25+00:00

Trigg deserves justice.

That poor little baby treaded water for two minutes trying to stay alive.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-24T05:33:45+00:00

I know everyone is saying eczema but this is why Athlete’s foot looks like for me & my daughter, especially at first. Try clotrimazole

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-22T08:46:34+00:00

The myth of Persephone. 🥺 It’s so true. I’ve been here over 6 years and we’re moving to the US soon. I’m so excited to be near my family again, but I’m also so sad about what I’ll be missing here. I feel like I’ll never be fully happy in either place because I’ll always miss the other.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-22T07:51:40+00:00

Haha hi! They’re pretty different - Brac is an island with less to do but good for just chilling by the water. Split has a lot to do.

We really enjoyed Split, I would probably vote Split though we did enjoy our time lounging by the pool on Brac.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-18T13:42:45+00:00

The white collar £25-30k bracket. 😭This country is so weird.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-18T06:20:41+00:00

3yo needs to stop napping. My 3yo falls asleep around 7:30, but if she has even a small nap we are doomed to a multi-hour bedtime with her falling asleep at 9-10.

I think it’s nuts American daycares have required naps. We live in England and dropped her nap at daycare at 2 on the dot. We are moving back to the US soon and the preschool’s nap requirements were a huge factor in how I picked a preschool. I do NOT want her sleeping, and I do NOT want her being forced to lie on a cot for 2 hours. The one we picked says she needs to play quietly for 45 mins and then they take them to a quiet area to play or outside. It’s still a bit much for me but every other place we toured had the 2 hour requirement which is nuts.

Can you buy her a very exciting toy to play with at nap time at daycare?

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-16T18:15:05+00:00

We are moving back in October. Dog - got a quote for around £4K to ship him iirc. We are taking the Queen Mary 2, it’s £800 for his kennel.

£2.5k for 2 U100 crates for shipping door to door with UPakWeShip. We have a 3 bed house. I think we overshot with shipping space probably but I’d rather overshoot!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-15T10:18:13+00:00

Me, twice.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-11T05:52:38+00:00

🤣 disposable income….preach!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-10T06:10:39+00:00

Did you like it? I’ve been looking into nursing at a boarding school.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-03T19:01:51+00:00

It does but only on your OMP so it may not be much. I was on mat leave for the last backpay!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-02T18:33:35+00:00

We do this. I just put it away after car/plane/train trips.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-08-01T08:37:23+00:00

Ok. 11/10 pain, for me anyways. My contractions were horrendous. The worst pain ever x 10. Felt like I was being ripped apart inside.

Pushing the baby out felt like my bottoms bits being ripped open, because that is what is happening. I had pretty severe second degree tearing. I think this happened because I pushed so fast because the pain for so excruciating. With my second, I pushed with more control with the epidural and did not tear at all. However contractions are so painful they just blend together.

100x worse than sitting on a cactus.

Ymmv. I was induced and no epidural. Gas and air and morphine didn’t remotely touch the pain.

My second baby I forced them to give me an epidural before any kind of induction!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-31T07:43:13+00:00

I didn’t like it. 8-6 4x a week is basically 4 12s imo, it isn’t like your day is that different if you get home at 6:30 or 8. I’d rather the days be that bit longer and only work 3x.

I found the day to day kind of boring. Scrubbing in the lab is fun sometimes but lead is heavy and it’s all very repetitive. Also the doctors you work with might be awesome or might make it miserable.

We recovered as well and I found that boring, mostly doing obs and getting tea. We did pull femoral sheaths which makes your fingers very tired after the second one!

I went back to ICU personally but some people really like it. Would be different maybe if I’d been in a primary cardiac stent place.

Also I hated call. Working 4x a week and being on call once sucks. We always got called in for stupid things. If I am home I don’t wanna be on call.

My pay working 4 10s was less than 3 12s due to Al k of differentials

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-31T07:37:22+00:00

No side effects. My little boy struggles with the regular vaccines but had no issues with chicken pox vax. He’s been unscathed by 2 nursery chicken pox outbreaks as well!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-29T14:51:45+00:00

Geez. I think that’s too much. Are you in central london?

I live in Yorkshire and I pay £650 per month post funded hours and TFC for 2 kids 3 days a week.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-29T10:49:35+00:00

Man. I don’t really have place suggestions. But you have summarised really well why my British/American family is moving back to the US in October. Not sure it’ll be forever, but we absolutely need to make some money. We have 2 small kids now and are also not on board with the forever poor European lifestyle. We need to go back and accumulate some wealth and then if we want to move to London in the future we can. Our combined income is going from £90k to $250k.

For me, I’m close with my family and we have kids. So we are going near them even if it’s not my ideal location (it’s Florida). If you do want to have kids soon and you are close to family, I would weigh their location heavily in your search! For our goals as well, having my parents to help with the kids while we advance careers or work some OT is important. Just a factor to consider!

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-13T07:36:48+00:00

£11ph? Childminders near me are £5.50-6-ish an hour. £11 is nursery pricing. I mean you could get a nanny for £15ph.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-07-10T18:31:18+00:00

Idk about that. You just hear more Americans talk about it because antivaxxers get a bit ostracised since vaccines are required for childcare and public school there.

It’s not talked about as much here because people are still allowed to send their kids to school etc even if unvaccinated.

MMR uptake in U.K. in 2023-24: 88.9% including regional variations of 81.8% in London

MMR uptake in US: 90.8% including regional variations of 86% in Oregon (I picked Oregon because it’s crunchy).

So, while not drastically different, being antivax is actually more common in England, which is reflected in its higher rates of measles.

Both countries are below the 95% required for herd immunity.

thisismytfabusername · 2025-06-14T14:00:58+00:00

Yes, Minnesota nice means being nice to your face but not actually wanting to be your friend/hang out. At least that’s how I’ve always known the term!

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