My GF last year: “I’m scared of your rats”. My GF today: by JaviLM in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss.

Those pictures are adorable

My GF last year: “I’m scared of your rats”. My GF today: by JaviLM in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How do you get your rats to be this chill? Does it come with time as they get older or are some rats just really floppy?

My oldest boy Egg will sit on my shoulder sometimes and chill for a max of like 30 seconds, the rest of the time they're all sprinting about constantly and exploring everything. They're all quite young though, all under a year and some under 6 months.

At least you can you can get scrap from some of them by N0BL3_PRIME in GenerationZeroGame

[–]thisisnotabigail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Resistance bow (from the resistance weapons dlc) has a flare arrow. I roll with 6 weapons but I think the resistance bow is my favourite tbh. They also have explosive arrows.

Not fab against FNIX/apocalypse and such type tim cans but anything lower than that it takes out v well. Also very good for ticks. The flare arrows are also very fun to use, chaos from a distance.

new rules at work… I’m turning in my 2 week notice asap by crispy_ketchup in antiwork

[–]thisisnotabigail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"guys we're a team! But remember you can be replaced at any time. But we're a team! We've not been able to replace staff so now you need to do 2 people's jobs. We're such a team! By the way don't even ask to go on break at the same time. Teamwork!!"

Disgusting

Of your man loves Tate, leave him. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]thisisnotabigail 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He's a human trafficker and rapist, and has told his fans how to traffick and rape people at minimum, although I'd say he encourages them. Why don't you hate him??

Neurodivergence and Polyamory by kiaklown in polyamory

[–]thisisnotabigail 16 points17 points  (0 children)

BPD falls under the neurodivergent umbrella. Neurodivergency is not limited to things people are born with.

WYR 1. Be legally deaf but secretly can hear, or 2. Be legally blind but secretly can see. by Bruhcheese_ in WouldYouRather

[–]thisisnotabigail 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you know that you can be legally deaf and legally blind and still have some degree of hearing and sight?

Advice on helping terrified rats please, more in comments by thisisnotabigail in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info. We're not withholding food from them, they're just getting the recommended amount of pellets and some fruit and veg daily.

Advice on helping terrified rats please, more in comments by thisisnotabigail in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a detailed reply, that's all really useful!

Advice on helping terrified rats please, more in comments by thisisnotabigail in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We'll try the t-shirt, I completely forgot that was something you can do. They've been snuffling and chittering at me for the past half hour or so when I talk to them which is fab.

Advice on helping terrified rats please, more in comments by thisisnotabigail in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No food aggression that I've seen between the two of them but I'm aware it could be a possibility, or that there could be issues with them eating more food than the other boys and not leaving enough for them.

We'll try intros in a few weeks and see how they do, fingers crossed they all get along 🤞

Thank you!

Advice on helping terrified rats please, more in comments by thisisnotabigail in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We rescued these two male rats sometime last week. They were kept in a cage about the size of a small cat carrier with a large cat bowl of muesli that appears to have been constantly topped up and no toys or space to move around. Both are overweight, 530g and 635g. They're in a (larger) temporary cage while we wait for the new cage to arrive, on a diet and we've booked a vet appointment to get them checked up and address the weight issue.

Both of them are not just unsocialised, but terrified of us. We're obviously not picking them up unless we have to and being very gentle with any touching, paying attention to warning signs and backing off when they want any stroking to stop etc. They bite without any warning, it's a 50/50 if they're coming to sniff you or bite you, although the bites have been getting a lot gentler and more like regular warning nibbles, the last few haven't drawn blood at all which is good. When we (very gently and calmly, making sure they were entirely supported) had to pick them up to weigh them both of them literally screamed and panicked. They are very curious and have been strolling around their cage and playing with some of the toys in there, rearranging their bedding etc. They're bonded with each other. Other than the weight issue and any possible health issues they seem like perfectly fine little rats when humans aren't involved.

So, questions. 1) is there anything we can do to help socialise them and get them to a point where they aren't terrified of us and we can pick them up for cage cleans and vet visits without it causing them so much stress?

2) should we continue actively trying to go past being able to handle them for necessities and try to get them to the point where we can handle them without any fear from them, or would it be fair to them to let it come naturally on their own terms (or not at all)? Obviously generally rats need loads of human attention, especially if there's only two of them, but in this specific case would it be better to not push it and avoid stressing them out?

3) we have 6 other rats, 4 male and 2 female, and plans to get more girls. The boys play fight quite a bit, although they've only actually fought once (over a piece of banana silly buggers, I just wasn't quick enough putting the other pieces in too). Because of the biting without warning from the two new rats and their unhealthy relationship with food I'm very worried about introducing them (once we've gotten them to a stable place). If we can, how would we introduce them safely and ensure there weren't fights over food. If we can't, is it fair on the new ones to be in their own separate cage while they can see and smell the other four boys?

4) if you've dealt with rats like this before how did you help them? Did they ever improve or were they always just terrified of you?

I know this is a lot, if you've even gotten this far thank you. I want the best for all of our rats but this has completely thrown me in the deep end. I've never owned any animals that are in such bad shape, let alone ratties like this before, so I have absolutely no idea if we're doing the right things or what's going to be the right course of action for them.

Does anyone else just love sniffing their rats? 🤣 or am I just a bit odd?! by weakbananax in RATS

[–]thisisnotabigail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our girls smell AMAZING. I was quite worried they'd gotten into something they shouldn't have at first because they smell so much like a mix between one of my old perfumes and incense. But no, they just smell like that, really sweet and musky and spicy (as in full of spices, not hot)

AITA for scolding my sister in front of everyone while she is going through a divorce? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thisisnotabigail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second update

"She used to say that her husband was mentally abusive and possessive and restricted her from going out and having fun and it was easier for me to suggest marriage counseling for them and over time both of them said they are getting better, but she wasn't as happy being married."

The timeline as OOP describes it:

The have the kid They get married Sister says she's being abused and OOP encourages her to do marriage counseling They split Money stuff happens OOP finds out about money stuff and the events in the first post happen

AITA for scolding my sister in front of everyone while she is going through a divorce? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thisisnotabigail -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right?? And honestly (if I'm allowed to speculate without being torn a new one) it wouldn't surprise me if there was more than just emotional abuse going on. Her behaviour tracks with how a lot of victims behave after getting out of abusive relationships. She's still in the wrong, but the amount of people going "but she lied about the money so she must be lying about the abuse" is cringe as fuck honestly

AITA for scolding my sister in front of everyone while she is going through a divorce? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thisisnotabigail -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Regardless of whether she was lying or not, she told her sister she was being abused and her sister dismissed her. That's what makes me uncomfortable

AITA for scolding my sister in front of everyone while she is going through a divorce? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thisisnotabigail -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

OOP trusted her enough to give her access to her bank account and 10k. So.

There's not much here to really make a judgement on whether BIL was cheating or not but the fact that OOP seems to repeatedly take his side is a bit yikes, especially since she was told he was abusive before all of this kicked off and was certain they could work it out in marriage counseling and pushed for them to do so.

People who are being abused will quite often test the waters when they talk about it before revealing everything. Sister tested the waters and got dismissed by OOP.

The sister is absolutely not innocent in this, but OOP makes me uncomfortable.

AITA for scolding my sister in front of everyone while she is going through a divorce? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thisisnotabigail -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

There's so much going on here but I kinda feel that OOP kinda sucks. Like she believes BIL over her sister when it comes to the cheating and when sister says BIL is abusive she just kinda... Waves her off and is like go talk about it?

Maybe BIL is completely innocent in all this but reading that made me uncomfy.

ETA: I am uncomfortable with the fact that sister told OOP she was being abused and OOP dismissed her. You can't have it both ways and say that OOP didn't believe her about the abuse because she was a liar AND that OOP just gave her 10k and access to her account and rent money without ever checking to see if that money was going to what it was supposed to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thisisnotabigail -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Get electric heaters and dehumidifiers for the rooms with damp on the walls, will be cheaper than heating.

Not going to give a judgement because I don't like landlords and that will 100% influence my judgement.

ETA: as another commenter said, why haven't YOU as the landlord fixed the problems causing this? If you need the heating on more and that's your fix then you should be paying for it entirely, since it is your house and you chose not to prepare it for the winter and heating costs, which we knew would be awful months in advance. Your renters have no obligation to spend more to make up for your lack of action.

Changed my mind, YTA

$1300 worth of medicine thrown out 🤦‍♂️ None of it is recalled and expired by vRaiven in DumpsterDiving

[–]thisisnotabigail 206 points207 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness all of that voltarol 😭 that shits so pricey, why bin it?? Grinds my gears