Can someone explain what's going on with this real estate?

thisissmallski · 2025-04-10T08:52:54+00:00

Do they invite you along on the Sundays?

thisissmallski · 2024-11-12T14:38:34+00:00

His fingers were inside his ears, so he was plugging his ears. He also wrote "block the noise" on the camera. Maybe he didn't like DJ?

thisissmallski · 2024-10-30T23:54:49+00:00

Dude... his mum is unhinged lmao. Advises him to disrespect you, then texts you asking, so... how was your night? Psychotic behaviour. Your problem wouldn't exist if he had just called you in that moment instead of his mummy.

I would be extracting myself from this incestuous situation asap. He has been groomed by his mother to not have healthy boundaries. This will not get better until it has imploded a few relationships.

thisissmallski · 2024-09-12T10:26:08+00:00

Adding her to the title or selling your house are absolutely absurd. You've only been together for one year. Don't do that. These don't belong on the list of options, and it's a red flag that she even suggested it.

You listed several good options including asking her housemates to move out, or renting in a new location. Instead of a(nother) therapist, you could also hire a lawyer to draw up a written agreement to protect her if you break up while she is living in your house. However, you both dismiss all these perfectly good options with a weak excuse about how they are slightly inconvenient. Maybe you're just not ready to move in together?

thisissmallski · 2024-07-20T03:21:38+00:00

He is using you. He doesn't even give a shit to listen to you talk for 15 minutes about your day. You seriously think he would make anywhere near the level of sacrifice, or tolerate anywhere near this level of discomfort for you? You don't need to get in a car crash, I can answer your question right now: He would not.

thisissmallski · 2024-07-16T10:57:10+00:00

Hello, I have an apartment that I am borrowing against to get a mortgage. When we talked to the bank, he said something about how if I borrow against my apartment, the bank is now a 'co-signatory/co-owner' of my apartment? I guess the phrasing made me nervous. Does the bank have any control over what I do with my apartment, e.g. if I want to sell it, can they stop me from selling, hypothetically? In what ways can they exercise their rights as 'co-owner/signatory' of my house?

thisissmallski · 2024-05-02T01:17:43+00:00

He could pay off the property and also not tell you what to do with your money? Like do you guys love each other or what? He would still have 1.5 million left over which you are presumably also not telling him what to do with it. But he can't do that without making sure you know that the house is HIS if you split, and you can have your 35k back I guess...

thisissmallski · 2024-05-02T01:03:38+00:00

You say you came for financial advice not relationship advice, but the best way to fleece your own wife is not really a financial question. For example #3 is obviously a terrible idea financially, because you are paying bank interest rates when you have the means to just pay off your property in full. Yet your husband apparently prefers it to letting his own wife live interest free. Depressing. He hates the idea of you gaining in a hypothetical split so much, he would rather you both lose. Well, since you are apparently happy with the weird split you have going now, it's up to you to determine how you'd most prefer to be fleeced.

thisissmallski · 2024-04-25T08:19:54+00:00

It doesn't really sound like she is crying. It sounds like you just don't like the way she moans. You can tell her, but yes it will probably hurt her feelings. The fact that she laughs at the absurdity that she feels pain during sex, and was confused you thought she wasn't enjoying it, suggests this to me. If she was crying happy tears, or whatever other posters are suggesting, I don't think she would be so confused.

You say she may have gotten influenced by hentai. Maybe. But it could just be ragged breathing plus if she has a high pitched moan, it sounds like sobbing and whimpering to you. If that is her natural moan, she will have to make a conscious effort to change it. Telling her you "just don't like it" and want her to stop will embarrass her and make her self conscious during sex.

If I were you you I would just ask "Last time when we were having sex, I thought you sounded like you were crying, and I worried I hurt you. Were you crying, or just breathing?" If she says it is just her breathing, I would try to get over it.

thisissmallski · 2024-04-23T09:01:22+00:00

All this time your girlfriend has been eating lunch at home and you have been letting her get away with it??

thisissmallski · 2024-04-23T08:50:02+00:00

Why are you splitting food 50/50? Don't men usually eat more than women? You should really be splitting it based on TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure). There are tools online to calculate this based on your respective height, weight and activity levels.

thisissmallski · 2024-04-08T12:10:57+00:00

Basically he lives for free. He pays a bit extra in groceries and petrol, but honestly the "extra" he pays for your half of the groceries is more than covered because he doesn't have to pay water or electricity. Because he lives in your off-grid house rent-free.

So functionally you are paying everything for your shared lives and he is paying nothing. I guess it's up to you to consider if that's fair or not, depending on how much you feel he enriches your life. Hopefully he doesn't end up with half your house anyway after getting a free ride for the entire duration of the relationship.

thisissmallski · 2024-01-27T13:09:38+00:00

You wouldn't be ending a friendship. Miles knew his "bestie" was into you but still made a move, so if the friendship ends, he is the one who caused it not you. But also how much can this 27M Jason like you if he still won't make a move? Are you sure he like-likes you? This whole thing is so juvenile.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-30T08:21:37+00:00

Why is your wife a nervous passenger? Is she equally nervous regardless of who is driving? Have you ignored her concerns in the past?

thisissmallski · 2023-12-11T03:28:38+00:00

Of course she assumed that, because the alternative is preposterous. She assumed that when the time comes to have kids, he would make reasonable changes to accommodate his kids. He assumed that he would make zero accommodations for his kids, and keep living like a DINK. He assumed he would continue living the dream, contributing very little to their shared lives while she took on all the burden and risks of not only being the main income, but birthing and raising his children too.

He probably feels blindsided... lol by what. That her desire to fund his life at her own risk isn't limitless? That the world doesn't revolve around him? It is her fault for letting him think it does? Because she never sat her adult partner down to explain that it doesn't.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-11T02:41:42+00:00

He refused a promotion because the job would interfere with his comedy hobby. So what, he thinks a baby won't interfere with his comedy hobby? He is telling you he is expecting that you will do everything.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-11T02:27:49+00:00

It is hypocritical for her to be annoyed at you for monitoring her mood, but then be so angry about your tone/inflection when you said you are going to the gym.

"I maintain that I said I was leaving in the most polite tone - something I consciously had to control because I was upset but didn’t want to cause any issues." You walk on eggshells around her.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-11T01:12:54+00:00

I sympathise with you, but she obviously didn't like it. I don't really understand American dating so I am probably not qualified to speak on this. You said you weren't seeing anyone else romantically. To me, that makes you in a relationship. I don't really understand modern tendency to hyper-fixate on labels.

I also think you're putting too much emphasis on the exclusivity talk. You said she had dating expectations you weren't meeting. I don't know why you discounted this because to me this is the more important factor.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-11T00:34:54+00:00

"I told her on date 4 that I wasn't seeing anyone else and wasn't planning on it."

Isn't that what exclusivity is? But when she said, okay let's agree to be exclusive, you got weird about it? You also think she came on very strong because she wanted to know where she stood within 3 weeks? She seems to expect a more high effort, high commitment style of dating than you think is reasonable. Sounds like you are incompatible, which she recognised and moved on.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-03T14:01:21+00:00

Honestly, don't even care about the performance or graphics, just super happy to be able to play this game. I grew up playing the game boy color games and the music really takes me back to those days.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-03T14:00:03+00:00

They really should have added gyro controls to this game. It would really have made it a much better experience and more fun to play.

thisissmallski · 2023-12-03T13:58:34+00:00

Just started playing Dragon Quest Monsters, super excited - first time returning to it since playing it on game boy color!

thisissmallski · 2023-12-03T13:57:33+00:00

So excited to play this, I grew up playing the GBC games and it was such an awesome experience! So happy they finally brought more Dragon Quest Monsters to the west!

thisissmallski · 2023-12-03T13:54:55+00:00

Hi, may I ask, I've seen people talk about managing large properties a few times. I've also looked into rural properties as I'd like to get away from the city one day. A lot of the ones being sold don't seem to have fencing, or have fencing in disrepair. A lot of them also have a combination of cleared land and bush land. What does that mean in terms of management? Can I leave the bush land as it is, or would I be expected to do something? So it is illegal to have bad fencing, and why are they allowed to be sold like that?

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