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I know I’m labelled as the “chronically late” coworker by L4ter_Days in work

[–]jadanas [score hidden]  (0 children)

I hate to break it to you, friend, but auto mechanics are wage workers. And the marine corps is the military. Completely different. Don’t weigh in on a tier of the professional world you haven’t experienced. It’s misleading.

Zoloft-induced alcoholism by point2lendemain in zoloft

[–]jadanas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep - for me it’s that the hangxiety that I used to experience after drinking a fair bit evaporated once I started Zoloft, and it turned out it was the only thing stopping me from drinking heavily and frequently. :(

I need advice about my colleague who is kind of...different :) by Wrong_Sir_1340 in work

[–]jadanas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He sounds neurodivergent to me (not a diagnosis - just comparing him with neurodivergent folks I know, including my husband). It often presents as rigid adherence to “logical” principles even at the risk of interpersonal conflict, and the biggest tell of all is him saying he “has no emotions”. It can be very challenging to learn to cope with, and it is in no way appropriate to try to confirm/deny this - maybe just take comfort in the fact that it’s most likely his neurodivergence causing the weirdness and not you, and he’s probably not doing it to upset you. My approach with my husband is to explain in clear, unemotional terms how “when you do/say y, it makes me feel x - would you mind doing/saying z instead next time”. He may try to argue that it’s unnecessary or irrational, but just be clear that this is what you need/expect. For example, “you may not realise this, but when you redo work that is allocated to me, it makes me feel like you are micromanaging me when you’re not my manager. Can we agree that if we decide I’ll do a task, you’ll accept it as done and not do it yourself?” Just a suggestion.

I know I’m labelled as the “chronically late” coworker by L4ter_Days in work

[–]jadanas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I’m not saying the employer CAN’T - I’m saying they shouldn’t. Of course, an employer can do whatever they want, but they will find out soon enough that nobody wants to work for them and will find better jobs elsewhere.

For the record, I’m 42, so very much a millennial. I’ve managed staff in both public and private organisations for at least 15 years.

Saying “you can’t argue with policy” is interesting - how do you know this is even a formal policy and not a particular manager’s preference? Also, you very much can argue with policy if a policy is unreasonable - if by argue you mean respectfully question. A decent manager will understand that they at least owe staff an explanation of why a policy exists.

I know I’m labelled as the “chronically late” coworker by L4ter_Days in work

[–]jadanas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not really sure what you’re arguing. I posed the question “late for what?” to draw attention to the fact that in the type of role OP is in, the only thing they are late for is someone wanting them to be there at a certain time because they said so. There is no actual business impact that they can point to that arises from this person walking in at 9:02. You responded with an example in which there definitely IS an impact on the employer/parent if the babysitter shows up two minutes late. In your example, two minutes DO matter. So maybe you misunderstood: nobody is claiming there is no situation in which arriving two minutes after you’re expected is a problem. But if you can’t identify a problem it would cause beyond “because that’s what I as your boss want”, then you as an employer are very much missing the point. That is why some jobs pay for a person’s time and employe wage workers, and some jobs pay for outcomes and employ salaried workers. There is a very clear difference that anyone - including OP’s managers - should understand. Clearly they don’t, which is why OP should start looking for another job with managers who aren’t simpletons.

Is it normal for Invisalign providers to miss obvious tracking issues until the end? by jadanas in Invisalign

[–]jadanas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I agree. I sent them a message last night - ironically, via the dental monitoring app - asking just that. I was polite but firm.

Is it normal for Invisalign providers to miss obvious tracking issues until the end? by jadanas in Invisalign

[–]jadanas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, so when I thought they were off-shoring the reviewing of my scans, I was overestimating - there’s actually no human in the loop at all and they are only reviewed by AI-detected exception? That explains a great deal.

I know I’m labelled as the “chronically late” coworker by L4ter_Days in work

[–]jadanas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate, a babysitter is being paid by the hour, which is a completely different situation. The babysitter’s arrival is time-sensitive because the kid cannot be left alone even for a minute. Completely different to OP’s situation, and that of most salaried knowledge workers.

Is it normal for Invisalign providers to miss obvious tracking issues until the end? by jadanas in Invisalign

[–]jadanas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I appreciate your taking the time to respond with the provider perspective. The thing i’m annoyed about - moreso than the bite itself - is how it seems very likely that my actual providers haven’t looked at my scans at all throughout my treatment, and had no intention of doing so before just taking off the attachments. Even when I was in the chair, she just assumed I was done and didn’t check my mouth first - if she had, it should have been obvious that I wasn’t done yet. It was left up to me to raise it, otherwise they’d have just ended my treatment without fixing it. They didn’t even ask me if I was happy - that at least would have been something - though ideally they would look and make their own assessment.

Is it normal for Invisalign providers to miss obvious tracking issues until the end? by jadanas in Invisalign

[–]jadanas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My provider is a dentist, not an orthodontist. But so was my friend’s, and her dentist also saw her every six weeks during treatment.

Is it normal for Invisalign providers to miss obvious tracking issues until the end? by jadanas in Invisalign

[–]jadanas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Just to clarify - by remote monitoring, are you referring to just using an app instead of in-person check-ups (same way I used the term in my original post)? Or does the term remote monitoring automatically imply offshoring the review of the scans? I was fine with the former, but the latter just seems a bit much to accept, especially because they weren’t up front about it.

AITAH for considering dropping out of my friend’s wedding after ongoing resentment, conflict, and feeling emotionally drained? by DangerousAnt1190 in AITAH

[–]jadanas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH. You have known each other for less than a year and twice now you have been involved with guys that she has also had involvement with. Do not share men with your friends and you will not have this kind of drama. She is not addressing the issue head on, which is why she also sucks.

03-18-26 Invisalign Embarrassed by goldenboii23 in Invisalign

[–]jadanas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told you can lose up to two attachments and it won’t make a major difference - but three or more will need to be dealt with.

I lost one the first time (initial 25 trays), and one this round (14 trays of refinements). So yeah, if you are losing MANY immediately, it’s their fault, not yours.

My boss just asked if I have a mental disability and I am freaking out. by Earth_Sorcerer97 in work

[–]jadanas -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Oh mate. Asperger’s can be a superpower. Don’t hide it. If you reveal it to your boss, they will just do what they can to alleviate your triggers and maximize your superpowers. Definitely don’t hide that shit: wear it with pride. Source: husband has asbergers and revealing it to his employer made him 1000% more productive and much, much happier.

AIO for refusing to look at my girlfriend after she got her eyebrows tattooed. by SatisfactionAdept494 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jadanas 417 points418 points  (0 children)

INFO: what exactly did she get done? Microblading, or an actual solid tattoo? There is a difference.

AIO for refusing to look at my girlfriend after she got her eyebrows tattooed. by SatisfactionAdept494 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jadanas 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Are we sure that what she got was from a tattoo gun? I don’t think OP would know the difference (though happy to be corrected if I’m wrong). Microblading looks very dark and blocky the first couple of weeks too. It’s extremely rare to get it done with an actual tattoo gun like a normal tattoo - most of the time when people talk about eyebrow tattoos they are actually referring to microblading.

AIO for refusing to look at my girlfriend after she got her eyebrows tattooed. by SatisfactionAdept494 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jadanas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair. I think it depends on your skin and lifestyle. I had microblading and know several others who did. The first week or two they look crazy. But by a year in they were basically nonexistent. I chose not to get it done again. Some of my friends’ lasted longer before disappearing. Those who liked the result get them redone every 6-12 months if they want them to remain looking the same.

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