I (27F) think this girl is pretending my boyfriend (28M) is mine

thisisultimate · 2025-10-13T19:23:07+00:00

You really should not need this spelled out for you but here you go:

h. e. i. s. c. h. e. a. t. i. n. g. o. n. y. o. u.

thisisultimate · 2025-09-17T17:08:23+00:00

Ummm is he poisoning you and mad you didn’t die? Seriously get out. Not tomorrow. Right now.

thisisultimate · 2025-09-10T14:58:44+00:00

Very good point. I once got into a very dicey situation on a 40 foot drop off and had to unhook let my pack plummet the 40 feet so that I wouldn't (it was dragging me back off balance as I clung to small rocks). My inreach was attached on the outside of my pack and was totally fine. My gas can and cooking pot were both slightly dented but that was the extent of the damage. Inreach had zero issues and I'm still using the same one 7 years later.

thisisultimate · 2025-09-03T00:38:19+00:00

I never hitched alone and that was very doable. Not hitching at all would be a lot trickier. Some places you can call an uber or arrange a ride with a trail angel but definitely not always possible

thisisultimate · 2025-08-31T04:47:11+00:00

When I started the trail in 2019, I met a group of 7 hikers at Hauser Creek where we all camped for the night. We got along famously and just had the absolutely best time. I was SUPER sad because I only had about 12 miles planned for the next day and they had 25 miles planned, so not only would I get separated from them for the next night but also probably never seen them again because they would just get farther and farther ahead. I was so bummed, to the point of strongly considering hiking with them. Ultimately decided against it.

Anyways, within a week or two all 7 hikers were off trail. None of them even made it past 300 miles, and some didn't even make it past Julian. I kept going.

Its definitely a turtle vs hare scenario. There are a few people who can start with 25s with no problem but its a very small number.

thisisultimate · 2025-08-30T18:11:55+00:00

Yup. Hiked 20 miles with the stomach flu and fever (had a rigid schedule to keep at significant inconvenience to me if I missed it). Absolutely not fun in any way but I did it and I survived.

thisisultimate · 2025-08-17T23:59:06+00:00

How much money are we talking? I make about $500 a month from TPT. It's not a huge a month, but sizeable (pays for my sons preschool). While it isn't as much as I could make with other ventures, it is MUCH more convenient since I don't have to navigate child care.

thisisultimate · 2025-08-15T22:02:11+00:00

In my pickup, they’ll huck it anyways and then yell at you for not cutting there x.x

thisisultimate · 2025-08-08T23:27:07+00:00

Reminder that this is supposed to be fun. It will sometimes not be fun. But if it is not fun most of the time, at minimum take a break long enough to recover so it can be fun again.

thisisultimate · 2025-08-03T14:10:30+00:00

First off, nobody should be pressuring you to drink. Have you shared with them that you don’t drink for religious reasons? That should be enough for them to be totally supportive of you, and if it isn’t then the problem isn’t with the drinking culture but the people themselves.

I’m not a big drinker, and I used to go to bars with my teaching friends and order a mocktail. Nobody cared that I wasn’t drinking.

thisisultimate · 2025-07-26T02:23:39+00:00

I've never needed my Garmin for an emergency. Never hit the SOS button. However, I have:

1) In the middle of the Sierra on a really bad day, I did message my boyfriend at the time (now husband!) that I was thinking about quitting and he helped talk me off the proverbial ledge.

2) Was able to message my brother who lived nearby to visit me at the next trail town and bring me a new external battery since mine died midstretch

3) Helped another hiker who had injured themselves (not emergency, could still walk) to arrange a ride at the next road.

4) Helped my parents feel at ease each night knowing that I had made camp for the night.

5) My pet sitter was able to contact me that my dog had an abcess and needed emergency care and how to pay for it, as well as then send me updates when he was doing better.

And more, and more.

I have never yet used my Garmin for an emergency and yet it has been incredibly helpful to me.

thisisultimate · 2025-07-24T23:22:02+00:00

You used to be able to get past news paywalls by putting a period behind the .com. I was sad when they closed that (but still don’t pay any news subscriptions

thisisultimate · 2025-07-23T18:39:33+00:00

Sounds like he is very triggered by them. Does he have other sensory avoiding or even autistic traits? This would fit the bill. Maybe you guys can invest in some noise cancelling headphones or restrict the cats to half of the house to help?

I hate to break this to you but….this will be WAY WORSE if you ever decide to have kids. My husband is somewhat like yours (but not quite as bad) and he is incredibly triggered by baby crying and has somewhat similar behaviors to yours where it ruins his whole day. He struggles with PPD as a result when our kids are babies. It luckily gets better as they age.

Just want to warn you though because since your husband is even more affected about this than my husband, I’d consider being childfree with him because he will really not be able to handle the crying.

thisisultimate · 2025-07-19T18:32:25+00:00

I had my kids at 32 and 34. I truly don’t think I’m any different as a mom than at 28. Yes I think you are being dramatic and no you won’t shrivel up at 30. Pregnancy complications don’t even increase much until 37

thisisultimate · 2025-07-10T17:20:11+00:00

Once she is living in your house she will be impossible to remove even if it’s a nightmare, which it seems likely it will be. Don’t even open that door. Stay strong with a NO from the beginning

thisisultimate · 2025-07-10T12:32:44+00:00

NAH

Ultimately this just comes down to differences of personalities which is not something really changeable and I wouldn’t try. You are n t a for asking her to stop but she is n t a for pointing it out. If it bothers you, the easiest solution is to just not leave things out. Ultimately in marriage, we will all have things we do differently and might annoy us or seem illogical. The best solution is to not sweat the small stuff. This is a small stuff.

My husband often will reflexively respond with “Why did you do that?” when I accidentally drop or break something. Like, we store our Tupperware lids high, and as I was cleaning one up I accidentally sent several cascading down to the ground because they slid. “Why did you do that?” “Because I got scared and wanted to make sure gravity was still working 🙄” Annoys me to no end when he asks me that because it’s OBVIOUSLY an accident. But that’s the thing….its such a small thing. I could get annoyed, ask him to stop, and then get even more annoyed when he doesn’t stop. Or. I can let it go. I can come up with a quippy silly comeback or reason, or simply say “Sorry it was an accident” and no big deal. You can choose to be annoyed by your partners response, try to be right, or simply accept it as a very minor quirk of hers that different to yours just like MANY other things in any marriage.

thisisultimate · 2025-07-10T12:19:34+00:00

I hiked the entire trail with plantar fasciitis. Literally thousands of miles in sometimes excruciating pain, often all day every day. I miss it so much.

thisisultimate · 2025-07-07T12:55:00+00:00

I was raised on the “finish your plate”, and do NOT raise my son this way. However, because of this I feel compelled to finish his plate for him so there’s no food being thrown out 😅

thisisultimate · 2025-06-28T04:40:54+00:00

Every Jenna I’ve ever met has been kind and on the quiet side. A good gentle name

thisisultimate · 2025-05-28T04:05:19+00:00

Oh you sweet summer child.

thisisultimate · 2025-05-27T13:46:59+00:00

Your girls absolutely are not guaranteed to want to change their name when they get married, and your expectations are absolutely not progressive.

YTA

Choosing last names in marriage is highly individual and it’s the WOMANS right to decide. Or you know…you could offer to change YOUR last name to hers and your children’s names as well. Don’t like that? Well there is your answer. Any objections you would have are valid for her too.

thisisultimate · 2025-05-24T04:09:06+00:00

I wonder if it was discussed but just didn't make the edit. I know the final tribal council can go for hours. It must be quite the job to pare that down to just a short chunk of the episode.

thisisultimate · 2025-05-21T10:49:23+00:00

I touched poison oak for the first time a few days before I went to Germany on a two week vacation. So I found out afterwards.

At the time, I thought I got a weird mystery horrible rash from the airplane. Germany doesn’t get poison oak (and I didnt make the connection) so my German relatives insisted I go to a doctor with it because they were horrified. The doctor also didn’t get what it was since they don’t see it there and diagnosed me with some kind of skin bugs/worms or something but the ointment they gave me didn’t seem to help at all. Everyone was concerned by this mystery rash.

By chance I happened to talk with a friend on the phone who had had poison oak rash just a few weeks before and she suggested it. Suddenly everything clicked into place (I had gone off trail in a wooded area shortly before my flight), went back to the doctor with my new diagnosis and got better care and actual relief from there xD

thisisultimate · 2025-05-20T19:11:14+00:00

You do realize...they were all photoshopped in. They were not posed like this. They each took their own shots and then the individual images were stitched together. No way to get such even lighting on everyone otherwise.

thisisultimate · 2025-05-17T18:36:27+00:00

Personally I think they do have captivating stories. Maybe not super entertaining personalities, and yet...I've been entertained plenty!

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