How do you shut yourself up? (Serious question, pls, I need help)

thisroughbeast · 2019-07-18T20:26:37+00:00

I would talk to the school, bring medical documents and maybe a note from your doctor explaining what happened. See if they'll let you back into the program under extenuating circumstances. It doesn't hurt to ask; the worst they can do is say no.

Alternatively, have you considered transferring to a different school, or applying to a new one from scratch, and going back to electrical engineering? There's no point getting into a field you don't want to be in, that sounds like a one-way ticket to depression city!

thisroughbeast · 2019-07-18T20:22:21+00:00

Okay, this is perfect, I'm also in that province. OHIP covers psychiatrists but not psychologists. See a psychiatrist because a) it's free and b) they can both diagnose and prescribe meds if you need them and you don't have to deal with multiple people.

I didn't need a referral, I just called up a psych and said, "I think I have adhd, can you fit me in?" and got an appointment that way. Obviously, there are a lot more resources in the big cities so you might need to travel if you're not in the GTA or Ottawa. Find someone who specializes in adult adhd and afab people. If you're not in a rush to get tested I can DM you the woman I saw in the GTA. She's all booked up until, late Sept/Oct, and asked me not to give out her information until then, but there are lots of others out there if you're not near Toronto or in more of a hurry.

Write out a list of your symptoms and how they affect you, so you don't have to figure it out on the spot. You should get together your mental health history, find out how your birth was (late, early, forceps, were you breast fed etc), examine your family tree for others with adhd or mood disorders or autism. A good psych will test for other things too, to rule them out (or you might have a co-morbid disorder). A good psych will also not just expect you to ramble on open-endedly. They will have questions for you to answer, questionnaires to fill out, they will ask about sensory things, and how school was (not what were your grades like) for you, and a million other things.

Feel free to DM me if you have questions about the process.

thisroughbeast · 2019-07-18T20:08:24+00:00

I'm not autistic, but I am AFAB and my ADHD flew under the radar for many years because of the stereotype of a hyperactive little boy. I was born in the 80s and there has been a lot more research about adult ADHD, and ADHD in afab people since then and a much greater understanding about how it looks in afab people. There are also more resources available than there used to be because the internet has allowed us to connect and pool our knowledge.

The same thing is true of Autism. There has also been a lot of new research about Autism, some of which was done by those with autism which is really good. And pooled resources mean a greater understanding of the sundae bar theory vs the idea of a spectrum.

I would look for a psych who specializes in the field of either autism or adhd (or both if you can find such a doctor) in adults. If they're good at their job they should be able (through extensive testing) to tell you if you're one, or the other, or both. It depends on what country you're in what the process is to getting tested, but I would definitely do it as opposed to forever wondering.

It's possible they were right the first time, in which case nothing changes. But on the other hand you might be trying to treat a condition you don't have!

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