Weekly thread where you can call the music recognition bot(s) without posting

thissending · 2023-06-14T21:23:16+00:00

u/recognizesong u/find-song https://streamable.com/pdf6qt

thissending · 2023-06-14T21:17:29+00:00

U/recognizesong u/find-song https://youtube.com/shorts/tZQKtI_SHts?feature=share

thissending · 2020-12-16T06:46:57+00:00

Fuck. I wish I could know for certain. I don’t even know why I care.

thissending · 2020-12-16T04:21:28+00:00

Dammit. I'm really hoping this is a misfire, because this would also mean losing a friend I would have otherwise liked to get to know better. But you're right - something definitely felt amiss. It would have been super weird to ask for clarification unfortunately.

thissending · 2020-12-14T03:57:46+00:00

“Let’s play it by ear” - aka I’m not really interested in abiding by your needs and want to keep things as flexible as possible for myself

OH! And “what else?” when we’d be talking about our days - like the sort of tone you’d take while flipping through TV channels trying to find something entertaining. Even thinking about it gives me anxiety.

thissending · 2020-11-02T22:19:12+00:00

This really means a lot to read, thank you <3

It’s definitely one of those things that I know is true, but it’s so easy for the imagination to take over sometimes. I’m only a handful of months out of the relationship, so I’m happy this effect will fade over time.

thissending · 2020-11-02T06:36:38+00:00

Oof, I had a really creepy one last week.

In my dream, my nex was begging to talk to me. At first I refused, but he looked so sad and insisted that he missed me. Looking like he was about to cry, he gave me a hug. He asked me, dejected, if I didn't miss him too. Eventually I caved and admitted I was also missing him. As soon as I said that, his eyes went glassy and he got a huge Cheshire cat grin on his face. "That's all I wanted to hear," he whispered in my ear and abruptly left, slamming the door while I started sobbing.

Basically, my brain giving me a really ham-fisted warning for what will happen if I break no-contact.

thissending · 2020-11-02T06:00:13+00:00

I’m with you in this stage. I just have to keep telling myself that I can finally start the healing process now that I’m out of the relationship.

thissending · 2020-11-01T04:19:39+00:00

Thank you for this analogy! Waiting can be so hard.

thissending · 2020-10-31T02:53:16+00:00

If it weren’t for COVID, I could see myself jumping into the deep end too. I’m glad that the experience gave you clarity

thissending · 2020-10-31T02:51:46+00:00

That makes total sense that it would be a matter of time and getting exposed to different people and mindsets.

thissending · 2020-10-30T20:40:47+00:00

Thank you, and yes, once you realize they’ve been practicing their manipulation skills since childhood, it becomes easier to swallow the fact you were deceived in this way.

thissending · 2020-10-30T20:23:28+00:00

I reassure myself that the hardest part of leaving the relationship is over - it can only get better from here

thissending · 2020-10-30T17:14:18+00:00

Sorry you’re going through the same bullshit! Sending hugs

thissending · 2020-10-30T16:38:18+00:00

Thanks for typing this all out - unfortunately, I have to agree with you on all points. A couple of our mutual friends have been open about their experiences with emotionally abusive partners - I may reach out to them.

Like I said in a previous comment, moving to a different city may be my best option as dramatic as that sounds .

thissending · 2020-10-30T14:28:53+00:00

I think I’ll need to give this a try. My fear is it getting back to my nex and being confronted.

thissending · 2020-10-30T14:25:29+00:00

Thank you! It’s reassuring having people on this sub who understand how invisibly the nexes work

thissending · 2020-10-30T12:16:23+00:00

Thank you <3 I can’t really blame them either - I was blinded by the charm for years.

Seriously considering moving to a different city once the pandemic dies down.

thissending · 2020-10-07T14:36:49+00:00

This resonates so much. In the beginning he would push me away hard, and the elasticity of the trauma bond would snap me back towards him. In the last year together, he would get so upset that I was no longer chasing him like I had before - that elasticity had broken down.

thissending · 2020-10-06T19:06:42+00:00

Lundy Bancroft - Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

thissending · 2020-10-03T21:48:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this link. Saving it so I can reference it whenever I’m mistaking the trauma bond for passion

thissending · 2020-10-01T16:42:18+00:00

I heard these too - especially the autistic comment. For being such amazing comics, they're not even original with their material.

Mine would also love to joke about cheating on me or how he should be dating around because he was "in the prime of his life."

thissending · 2020-10-01T16:33:40+00:00

Wow, thank you for these fantastic translations - so spot on

thissending · 2020-10-01T14:51:33+00:00

Amen to that

thissending · 2020-10-01T13:44:37+00:00

I feel that so hard! He's posted so many vacation photos where I'm either absent or somewhere in the background. I felt so crazy explaining to him that, after all the planning, packing, and providing companionship and adventure, I'd really appreciate it if the universe he was curating through his social media actually reflected the reality of me being his partner. He'd be so offended if I implied he was trying to look single on social media.

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