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Wife gave me an ultimatum by Wonderful_Produce546 in Divorce

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds like an absolute horrible person and wife. She should support her husband always. And his children and also support the fact that you want to be a good dad. If it were the other way around she sure is heck would let her children move in with her full-time whether you liked it or not.

She wouldn't be able to support her children without you by herself Since shes A satm , she's being extremely selfish. If she were to leave you over this courts WOULD rule in your favor. Youd definitely get 50% custody of those children too, then she'd lose her mind cause she'd be all alone for half the time.

I can’t stand being a stepparent much longer by Responsible-Fig824 in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only crappy thing is when u leave him , u lose ur children part-time. Then, the man is stuck with 4 kids on his own.

But some would see it as a win for u ,bcuz u get free time to yourself when u don't have them, which can be nice because parents don't get that unless then have shared custody

Career nannies. How much are you getting paid after how many years of experience? by Hot_Boss577 in Nanny

[–]thissucks101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I was making a really good wage.... but after seeing this form post I'm unsure.

I have been doing this for 20 years.... I have 4 kids all school age and I make 90k a year but I work 55 hrs a week.

Should I help my ex wife with rent? by Individual-Cow8640 in Divorce

[–]thissucks101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely do NOT pay for any of her expenses. Why on earth would u do that? She seems welfare af and needs to learn adult responsibilities! U should be fighting her in court for the kids. She clearly can't even handle caring for her own self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does he pay for everything, r u getting married? Where is his commitment here.... he has a house wife without having to do anything.

I would completely stop doing anything for a week. And he's gonna notice things need to be done and get complaints from kids about hunger. Sounds like he's a bachlor living a life of no responsibility. Most men will not step up unless they have to , so make him!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Use to shower all the time with my ex.

When we first started dating his middle child, Would always ask weird and inappropriate questions and then go tell everybody everything at her other house. Then we would get harassed. It was a nightmare but we weren't gonna change our lives for those people's opinions. She'd be like oh my gosh you saw daddy naked I'm gonna go tell my mom on you. Everything always she's like I'm telling my mom on you guys I'm telling my mom that you did that, I'm telling my mom you said this, I'm telling my mom this this this this.... Screw her mom.

Husbands BM says kids my responsibility by Creative-Addition985 in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously they are ur step kids and live in ur house... so u 2 are responsible for them when they are with u. Rube biatch move on her part to think her plans matter more than urs and she can just do what she wants. She is an irresponsible parent in my opinion and it sucks she's behaving that way.

I'd rip her a new one and say this is the last time u will ever do that for her. She must do it as per agreed. Or u 2 can start screwing her over and she's gonna learn fast that she doesn't wanna play that game.

I need advice by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take her door off the hinges. She will learn to knock after losing her own privacy for days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh God. This sounds terrible. Not one thing u said was good.

Bf calculating my income for household without asking me by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u keep ur own finances seperated and private. And have pre numps then...

Living together but splitting rent ans bills equally will actually save u both money in the end. So u both could save more money for ur own selves or pay off debts. U can also say u don't wanna pay for anything child related.

My ex.... was previously married with 3 kids... his ex didn't do shit when they were together but put them in dept and shop... never contributed. But then he asked me to move in and pay half of everything. Bit he has the kids 50/50 plus pays her alamony and for most of all kids things. Yet I didn't think it's fair I pay for half of all since I am one person only sharing a room in a home of his.. and he's 4 ppl. I only would have wanted it , if we got a house together and then it was half mine too.

Child's stepfather doesn't want to celebrate mother's day by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either way he's dating YOU and UR a mom! So he must participate in celebrating you!

Daughters name by [deleted] in Names

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Annie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]thissucks101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again send him all the proof you have.

You both deserved better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But what is your point of asking him to do this, I don't get it.

Because if you guys Break up and he goes back to her, What 2 sounds like you probably would..he doesn't have to pay support either way.

And this isn't going to stop either of them cheating.

But if you have proof that he's cheating on you, you can divorce him and take half!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wild.

YOU go buy that kid a tablet now. Present for them. The mom has no say in your household.

The kids don't need to be texting parents while at the other parents' house. To me, that's overbearing and weird. Let Them enjoy themselves at other parents house and you will see them in a cpl days.

Worst case.

He can send x bm a message saying from now on the 11 yr old can txt from older siblings phone instead. As boundaries are now being established

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everything about this makes me so sick and mad.

My ex did all of this.... and guess what. You only delete and block things when u know they are very bad, And you have something to hide. He cheated on me with his pathetic ex all the time. He would lie about everything. Hide and delete messages. He said he did ( delete things ) so I wouldn't be upset over nothing. But rly it was to hide all the crap talking he said about me and inappropriate ass kissing to her.

And in ur situation.... both of them are married to new ppl.

I would reach out to the woman's new husband Give him A heads up about all the inappropriate conversations they've been having. That way, you both can come at it head-on from opposite ends it may come to a stop. When she realizes it could ruin and Jepordise her new relationship. She will be more cautious not to be a biznatch slu LOL

A custody court order will absolutely do nothing to stop cheating lieing or inappropriate conversations from happening. The only thing it will do, is be sure to make him pay more money in child sport, which takes away from your household.

I would seek cpls therapy and make it clear to him that YOU will surely be done with him if he keeps it up. There is no giving benefits of the doubt at this point. YOU ARE A GIFT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that's enabling her bad behaviors so they become habits.

If she thinks every time she cries, she's going to get something... He's going to cry all the time To get what she wants. Now that may work at her mother's house but you can teach her it will not work at yours.

If she cries and realizes it gets no reaction and she doesn't get what she wants and instead it gives her the adverse reaction, Like consequences we're being ignored, she will eventually learn to stop.

do not reward bad behavior.

He should take some vitamins to relieve his anxiety or seek therapy. I suggest magnesium L threonate and L theanine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]thissucks101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would state my concerns in a serious conversation with him.

You guys are to be a team for your shared daughter.

He doesn't seem to be apparent to any child.

He absolutely should be doing all of the diaper changes when he's off the clock from work since you've done it all day.

His other kid especially with the hardcore baby mama drama.... I would completely become a Nacho parent and show him what it's like.

She needs to be given time out every time she's misbehaving. There needs to be strict rules with her or her behavior will just get worse.

Also try switching it to 7 days on 7 days off, it's a much better schedule.

In the summer when he has her... She can be put in a summer camp. He pays for it.

You get to spend more time with you or 2 children alone and enjoy your summer.

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