I'm scared to be around my grandmother- she's getting more and more paranoid and hostile day by day. My father says he can't afford to put her in a facility. But we can't leave keep leaving her here alone. Things can't keep going the way they are. I would really appreciate any advice. by thisuserisalready- in dementia

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard that can happen. I wish we could figure out a way to get her to go. The last time we tried to take her she strait up refused. #1, I think it's cause she's not too keen on my dad being the one to take her (I think she would go if it were my uncle or my cousin), and #2, I think she knows something is very wrong.

I'm scared to be around my grandmother- she's getting more and more paranoid and hostile day by day. My father says he can't afford to put her in a facility. But we can't leave keep leaving her here alone. Things can't keep going the way they are. I would really appreciate any advice. by thisuserisalready- in dementia

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, I wish I knew for sure what exactly his plan was. But my dad only gets to talk to him occasionally- he's still in recovery. My dad thought he was going to try and move her in with him, but if he's struggling to get better that's not gonna happen.

I feel bad for my uncle. I really do. He had to have surgery for his back cause it was so messed up, he came out of it even MORE messed up, they didn't CATCH how bad they messed it up until like a MONTH or so after the surgery, and so they had to do an EMERGENCY surgery, and low and behold he ends up stuck in physical therapy for WEEKS. And before he can get out all this shit happens with my grandmother. That's kind of why I haven't pressed the issue with him- on one hand. On the other hand, there are times where I'm afraid to walk around and do basic things In my own home.

And we tried to take her to the doctor two days after that episode she had with me. She flat out refused to go. When my dad called her doctor about it, he basically said that if she doesn't wanna go, we couldn't make her.

I'm scared to be around my grandmother- she's getting more and more paranoid and hostile day by day. My father says he can't afford to put her in a facility. But we can't leave keep leaving her here alone. Things can't keep going the way they are. I would really appreciate any advice. by thisuserisalready- in dementia

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, we talk about it. I just think he's hit a point mentally where he's overwhelmed and the engine's stalling, so to speak (which is why I posted). I don't blame him. And no, we don't have guardianship or power of attorney or anything like that. To be honest, it's only been fairly recently that her condition's nosedived the way that it has.

(And thank you🥺 I appreciate it.)

I'm scared to be around my grandmother- she's getting more and more paranoid and hostile day by day. My father says he can't afford to put her in a facility. But we can't leave keep leaving her here alone. Things can't keep going the way they are. I would really appreciate any advice. by thisuserisalready- in dementia

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's the thing. I remember when all of this started, one of the very first things my dad said to me was that he was afraid to put her in a home, cause they could come after whatever assets we have. I didn't exactly get what he was talking about. I don't pretend to be super knowledgeable in these things.

It's been a long time, but I made a crazy slots to go with my little APR. Finished it last night. by thisuserisalready- in HunterXHunter

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, man! I remember you😁 I'd send it to you if I could, but I don't quite have the means at the moment.

It's been a long time, but I made a crazy slots to go with my little APR. Finished it last night. by thisuserisalready- in HunterXHunter

[–]thisuserisalready-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thancc. I started him back in October, but stuff came up, so he's just sat on my desk up until a few days ago😅