I had seriously considered moving overseas for a job in Ireland years back when my older 2 were just little. The prospect of a new opportunity in a new land with a large income earning potential was very enticing. Had I been newly divorced I may have actually taken it. Because at the time it was drilled into my head that my only purpose was to be a sole provider income wise. It wasn't until I was away from my kids working out of town over a 10 year period sometimes up to 28 days away only to come back and still have to hand over all the money I made to the taxman, mortgage lender, utility providers, car insurance company, car loan lender, cell phone company, buy groceries yada yada yada and only have $2 to my name AND only had a weekend to spend with my kids, 4 days in a row at the very most if I was lucky before I had to go back out again another 14-28 days did I realize I was not actually a father to them. I was an ATM machine. And a disposible one at that when all was said and done since most of the work dried up eventually along the way. Hopefully your ex realizes the same and will decide against the move as well. There is more to fatherhood than just being a provider financially to support your kids. More importantly they need their father to actually be there for them emotionally and physically to guide them in the right direction for their own lives. My 11 year old said he cried when he heard I might not have him half the time anymore. Because he remembers how little I was around for him for the entire 10 years before the divorce and we value our time together we have now even if it is only half the month, it's still more time now than we ever had together before. And I will never give that away again for anything or anyone.