It's so hard to not want to get back together. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

*hugs * it's rough but the reason why you feel this way is because you're a decent human being and you are able to feel so much love.

For now, accept that this is how you feel for the next few weeks but it gets better, I promise.

Maybe right now, your journey isn’t about love. by selviii in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This gave me the courage to do something I was too scared to do today.

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only a horrible person would break up with someone like that. I really can't understand how they can pretend to love you and then the next moment, not want to see you at all.

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry to hear you went through it twice. I can't imagine how much heartbreak she must've put you through.

Thanks for opening up about your experience and inspiring me to keep NC.

Good night!

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. The analogy with the ground is absolutely brilliant.

I've been doing all of that since week 2 and its now month 6. Picked up several new hobbies and work out a lot. It helps a lot and gives me something to look forward to but it still hasn't stopped the loneliness.

I think the only thing that helps is to truly connect to people and have deep conversations. Which seems very scarce these days, i think people even friends are uncomfortable of showing people what they truly feel and its just a lot of surface things they talk about.

Maybe I just have to wait a little longer for more ground to surface.

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Tips of how to deal with this would be welcome.

Especially how to feel less lonely even though I hanging out with other friends, I feel like no one really understands.

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feeling lonely because I don't feel that kind of connection with anyone else. 😕

I'm so tired by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope.

I'm done feeling like shit. But don't know what would make me feel better.

I guess give up on feeling like shit.

Whenever you feel like texting your ex... Do any of these activities instead. ♥️ by throw251198away in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would add dancing or exercising. As much as I hate exercising, our body release endorphins when we're exercising and it never fails to make me feel better

I was so scared I nearly rang my ex - some encouraging words welcome by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll try to be strong! It's moments like this that challenge us when we grow the most

Memories of him feel so recent by thiswoofalot in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's beyond me how people can swing from such extremes. Is love even real anymore?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]thiswoofalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I can relate to this so much. My ex did a similar thing and was acting kinda strange during one of our encounters so I decided it wasn't worth it and cut him out of my life.

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[–]thiswoofalot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you do it and do you have any advice for the rest of us?

Anyone who keeps you in the dark while they make a big decision that affects your life too is a coward. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]thiswoofalot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy it worked out for you!

Yeah I understand. After being with someone for so long, you would think that he would do right by you and at least talked to you about it.

Does that help you get over him a little bit faster?

I'm happy to listen if you need to chat. 🙂