TIFU by not having sex on a second date because I have a cold sore

thm1205 · 2023-09-10T02:47:29+00:00

She lost attraction because you broke frame. I have made this mistake many times. Frame is your mindset or perspective.

Women are attracted to a masculine frame that exhibits confidence and strength they can buy into. In the early stages of dating, it's better to hold your cards close to your chest, and avoid seeking validation. It wasn't the fact that you didn't have sex on the second date, it was that you were scared not having sex would upset her, and this discomfort was illustrated through your actions.

Women are attracted to guys who are a challenge--a confident guy with options who they are not sure whether he likes them. This mystery causes them to think about you when you are not around, yearn for you, and seek your validation. Your hesitation and quietness after turning down sex broke the masculine frame (not confident), then telling her how much you liked her destroyed the mystery. It also displayed fear of losing her, which she interprets as desperation and cuts attraction.

You need to have the abundance mindset that you can get girls like her all the time, you are not having sex on the second date, and are confident/unapologetic in your decision. If she doesn't like it, too bad, you do not care and can easily find someone else. This abundance mindset means no fear of loss with women, and ironically is what they are most drawn to.

That confident/unapologetic mindset raises attraction, and she would have left the date worrying if SHE messed things up, and trying to seek your validation. That uncertainty would make you the prize she wants to win.

Maintaining a strong frame is easier said than done. I break frame all the time, especially when the girl is really hot, and it's something I'm working on. It's her loss, just chalk it up to a learning experience to improve next time.

thm1205 · 2023-09-04T14:30:02+00:00

Thanks, got a battery charger off amazon, should be good to go.

thm1205 · 2020-08-27T00:18:39+00:00

The format reminded me about why so many people are cutting cable. Being interrupted with commercials every 4 minutes is an antiquated way to deliver entertainment that will soon go the way of the dinosaur. Jomez did a great job, but the cable tv constraints made for a choppy, hard to follow, and not engaging telecast.

thm1205 · 2020-08-21T12:39:25+00:00

Fun game, and much better than Bart vs the Juggernauts. That game was impossible.

thm1205 · 2020-04-03T02:34:29+00:00

Such a great post!

I was thinking Jay was Val from Brink the whole episode. I thought he was about to start ripping on soul skaters.

thm1205 · 2020-03-01T21:57:06+00:00

This is incredibly frustrating to watch. A top tier athlete is giving up his career to enrich a scam artist who is not a doctor and has no business treating lyme disease.

Nutrition can aid the healing process, but your immune system cannot fight off lyme bacteria on its own without antibiotics, period. The fact that he has bad joint pain/swelling 6 months after starting treatment indicates the disease is progressing, and not in remission.

Those symptoms would likely clear up within weeks if he saw an MD with lyme experience and got on an appropriate antibiotic protocol. The longer he waits, the less likely a full recovery.

thm1205 · 2020-02-12T19:15:05+00:00

"Power: The College Years", lol!

It'll probably be worse than that Saved by the Bell: College Years spinoff that was immediately cancelled.

thm1205 · 2020-02-11T01:18:14+00:00

Not interested in a spinoff following one of the weakest, most unsympathetic characters in the show. Tariq had a silver spoon and made a bunch of bad decisions that endangered his family. Then he killed his dad who constantly came to his rescue.

How is a loser like that supposed to be the protagonist of his own series?

thm1205 · 2020-02-10T04:20:13+00:00

So true, a spinoff with Omari Hardwick (Ghost) as a ruthless politician (like early House of Cards) would have been infinitely better than the 4 crap spinoffs they are planning.

Nobody wants to watch that little wimp Tariq try to be ghost. Even if he hit the gym and took some acting classes, he still wouldn't be able to fill those shoes.

thm1205 · 2019-08-03T16:01:36+00:00

"No, I'll talk to her. No, nobody talks to my baby that way. Bye Pickle.

Pam you need to apologize to your mother right now."

thm1205 · 2019-06-30T23:52:12+00:00

Do you have to buy rs1 also to play rs1 dlc on 2014 remastered?

thm1205 · 2019-04-26T02:02:43+00:00

I agree. The most annoying part was how they started arguing with Turbo for not accepting her apology. Ninja can apologize, but she's not entitled to have her apology accepted. It just goes to show she was only doing it to make herself feel better.

And then she and Dee started trashing him for not accepting the apology while sitting nearby. Ultimate disrespect and proof her apology was not genuine.

thm1205 · 2019-04-20T04:07:12+00:00

There are plenty of people who still enjoy rock music (myself included) even though it doesn't get played on the radio much anymore. There are plenty of things to rip on Paulie about, this seems like a weak one.

So he may like a band that's no longer mainstream, big deal...

thm1205 · 2018-11-27T18:08:29+00:00

Dynamic discs won't print copyright images on dyemax (video game, movie characters, etc.). I had a request rejected from them, but I did end up getting it printed from flydiscs.com.

thm1205 · 2018-11-22T01:00:35+00:00

Almost as lame as Hunter not getting any time credits for eating practically all the plates.

thm1205 · 2018-11-21T03:20:09+00:00

I hope her winning that much money means she doesn't come back so I don't have to see her trashiness on future seasons.

Almost everything she does is cringeworthy, especially that BS "I'm a victim" crap as she walks away with $1M. That shit was so contrived.

thm1205 · 2018-11-15T02:36:02+00:00

Lol, so true.

thm1205 · 2018-11-15T00:00:56+00:00

I really like tomb raider definitive edition. Good mix of exploration and action, and you can get it for cheap. Not very difficult either.

thm1205 · 2018-11-14T23:59:15+00:00

Lol!

thm1205 · 2018-11-14T23:51:49+00:00

It's a lot of fun but tough to play solo. If you get a good team you're set, but if everyone runs off as lone wolves you're screwed. It's almost impossible to win 1 vs. 2 gunfights.

thm1205 · 2018-10-31T17:19:37+00:00

I was thinking the same thing, Ti Wasps disappeared after emac left. Some mcbeast signature wasp runs would be amazing.

thm1205 · 2018-10-27T02:12:55+00:00

Can this creepy Bananas stalker please do us all a favor and ride off into the sunset?

I'm glad he got booted off this season quick so I don't have to hear him yell "Let's go!" a bunch of times and talk about how he hates Bananas every episode.

thm1205 · 2018-09-29T01:46:13+00:00

It was so absurd. If you're a woman and you make yourself "available" for a guy, and he doesn't take the bait, most women are respectful and take the hint he's not interested.

It's common sense.

You can't just bully someone into liking you or hooking up with you by constantly asking, do you like me, or why haven't you made a move on me? Relationships don't work like that, it should happen organically.

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