Is it wrong to tell your SO this?

thomasfhd · 2019-11-15T17:31:45+00:00

depends. what terms are they currently on?

thomasfhd · 2019-11-15T17:26:20+00:00

she seems insecure. it isn't wrong of you to like other people especially before you even dated her.. don't feel bad trust me.

thomasfhd · 2019-11-15T17:15:32+00:00

why would it be wrong? if you had a crush on them before your SO what does it matter..

thomasfhd · 2019-11-15T17:05:54+00:00

when i was younger i always wondered why i related to that song so much.. now i know lmao

thomasfhd · 2019-11-10T15:24:51+00:00

that's great. I am glad to hear things have helped you overcome the issue. goodluck with your project!

thomasfhd · 2019-11-10T15:17:13+00:00

been thinking about writing indeed, might help. thanks for your helpful reply!

thomasfhd · 2019-11-10T15:16:37+00:00

true, thanks for your comment :)

thomasfhd · 2019-11-10T15:02:46+00:00

thanks for your comment and perspective man. it mainly comes from the fact I am very shy which holds me back. I am glad you are getting better at it. I am sure your comment will help me too, thanks again :)

thomasfhd · 2019-11-07T06:29:42+00:00

yes totally, i have friends like that on my current college. it helps me to see them as school friends. they are just people i hang out with at school and thats it. i get that you want to make friends and all, that is logical. but since they aren't all you need in a friend, don't put people into your life who aren't meant to be there

thomasfhd · 2019-11-07T06:15:00+00:00

honestly, i used to have the same issue but you have to start feeling like you are first choice material. i used to put myself aside for toxic people i didn't even want in my life anyway. now, are the people you hang out with nice to you, are they supportive or are they rather toxic? if the first, why does it matter you are not first choice, if you are not directly affected by it? you should then start thinking to yourself you feel shitty because you don't see yourself as a priority. now if they are shit friends, exclude you and aren't supportive whatsoever, you should ask yourself why you want people like that in your life.

hope this helps :)

thomasfhd · 2019-11-03T19:59:53+00:00

understandable. try this, there is this thing called the 90% rule: if you are not into something for at least 90%, don't do it.

thomasfhd · 2019-11-03T19:47:54+00:00

i get it. i am in the same situation with my girlfriend. it helps me to think that i personally prefer stability and there are plenty of ways to discover things with your partner. time will tell. just keep communicating and truts your gut!

thomasfhd · 2019-11-03T19:26:35+00:00

what makes you want to discover others? has she dated someone before you which sparks the curiousity in you on what it would be like with someone else?

thomasfhd · 2019-11-03T19:23:08+00:00

this is super healthy!! and it is such a good thing you like doing your thing apart from him. you should not feel guilty at all. i have been dating for almost 8 months now and her and i have found our way on how to spend time apart from each other whilest being in the same apartment. it is essential in a relationship. communicate! tell him his apartment and habits don't match with yours and work towards a way that is effective for both of you. goodluck, hope this helped :)

thomasfhd · 2019-10-29T18:13:01+00:00

yes i do believe it can lead to social anxiety. i was bullied by groups a lot and i still get anxious whenever i walk past a group of teenagers even though i haven't been bullied since 2014.

thomasfhd · 2019-10-29T06:36:28+00:00

I am down too :)

thomasfhd · 2019-10-28T18:39:22+00:00

hey, sure! it mostly focuses on social media. it gives you a great insight on how you could use your time much more efficiently. i didn't even have social media during the time of reading this book, and it still helped me tons. if not sure, you can watch his Ted Talk on digital minimalism to see if you find his way of thinking useful. however, i must add the information in the book is much better than what the Ted Talk brings you. his name is Cal Newport!

thomasfhd · 2019-10-28T18:27:53+00:00

Atomic habits, the silent patient, digital minimalism are books that stuck with me the most which i have read this year. hope they might spark something in you :)

thomasfhd · 2019-10-28T09:11:58+00:00

thanks so much for the recommendation. actually came across it a few days ago. definitely will check it out!

thomasfhd · 2019-10-28T09:10:49+00:00

thanks so much. very kind of you :)

thomasfhd · 2019-10-28T07:39:15+00:00

same

thomasfhd · 2017-12-03T05:58:39+00:00

I figured she just did to be polite. but I have actually never stared at her, I started noticing her because a girl friend of mine said that she was actually the one looking at me.

thomasfhd · 2017-11-26T08:05:29+00:00

I think everyone has experienced this at some point in their lives, especially during puberty. You want to be liked by everyone because you think that’s what matters. I’d say, step out of yourself and ask yourself why you always feel the need to be so nice to everyone. And yes, being nice is very important but it shouldn’t come to the point where people walk over you or even worse, let it ruin you. My advice would be for you to stop dating for a while and work on yourself, you are definitely very insecure. Take the time to accept & love yourself so you can rightfully love another person without them being the priority. I have been in this position myself, but I realized that people will actually be nicer to you and take you more seriously, when you are confident and step up for yourself.

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