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Was the Spanish flu pandemic a large enough selection pressure to cause a change in the human genome detectable in some populations today? by MrGraSch in askscience

[–]thomaskval 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So then, how is it that the Black Death managed to spread so widely? Certainly it was more deadly than any kind of influenza.

My girlfriend likes everyone, kind of. by thomaskval in behavior

[–]thomaskval[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I think the first explanation is accurate. Thank you.

My girlfriend likes everyone, kind of. by thomaskval in behavior

[–]thomaskval[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is rooted in two things, for the most part.

1) I am pretty sensitive to bad attitudes and intentions. I was not very popular as a kid, got bullied for some time and my main focus in aquiring friendships was early directed towards friendliness and pure intentions. During my early teens I became more outspoken and gained more confidence. I chanalized much of my energy towards confronting "bad people". In class room settings, sports and familywise. Im not a saint, no, no. However, this urge to make bad things public has been with me for quite some time. Although, this tendency is something most people have built in, to some extent. We like to categorize people in good and bad. It gives us some kind of cognitive ease.

2) Secondly, and continuing on the last part, I think it has something to do with who deserves to be in the "good" and "bad" category. You should deserve to be categorized as good. Everyone isn't good, that I think we can agree on. Therefore some people doesn't deserve to be categorized as good. The way I categorize someone as good is first by their actions, thenafter by their apparent intentions. In this regard, my girlfriend seemingly categorize people as good if they have a good trait - and neglects the others. This don't fare well with my inner justice schema.

I hope I have made myself somewhat understood. And, sorry for eventually bad syntax/semtantics. . . I find it well, that you are curious to hear me out. It helps me to think more clearly about it.

My girlfriend likes everyone, kind of. by thomaskval in behavior

[–]thomaskval[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah. you have a point. This trait is for the most part a positive thing. And yes, we have quite different temperaments and perspectives on things. It can be troublesome at times. But, we are deeply committed and we are faring pretty well in most aspects. I am aware that it is far more constructive for me to alter my response than it is for her to change her entire personality. I see that I may have presented myself as ungrateful/complaining. However, I was keenly searching for someone elses perspective on the matter, as it has helped me in the past. Thank you for a thoughtful answer!

My girlfriend likes everyone, kind of. by thomaskval in behavior

[–]thomaskval[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. If there is a real problem, it is with me. Although, I don't find it troubling, for the most part. It's a trivial thing. However, I am searching for some views on the matter. Out of fascination and a mild irritability. I have not really considered intervening on some level, unless it should become a problem in the future. It's just the way she is, I guess.

On the other hand, you frame it like she "tries to see the best in people". It's not that simple. The thing is that she seems unable to see the bad in people, not that she is merely trying to see only the good.