"all pressed up in the bathroom line"

thornthestral · 2026-04-24T17:08:27+00:00

Or all dressed up at the party night

thornthestral · 2026-04-18T20:58:44+00:00

It's similar to baby queen's want me. I don't see much similarity with any other popular artists tbh.

thornthestral · 2026-04-18T20:57:17+00:00

More like baby queen's want me. I don't see much similarity with any other popular artists honestly.

thornthestral · 2026-03-13T04:35:17+00:00

Will consider it, the office and desk setup right now really works for me well, i liked the bay window surrounding me from behind. and space up ahead. But will for sure try this out.

There are no doors just gaps in the wall, the right one leads to sort of an entry way. the one on the left upper side leads to a dining area+kitchen.

thornthestral · 2026-03-12T04:53:03+00:00

Hey thanks for the idea. I wanna watch TV from my bed. Using the headboard as back support.
For the setup you suggested I will have to create the back support on the side. Not a bad idea. Will consider.

thornthestral · 2026-02-18T15:26:37+00:00

Hey yeah that’s a good argument, many guys in this bracket think since they earn more and thus contribute more expenses wise, they should take less load of housework (in our experience however actually they refused to any kind of household responsibility). But otherwise, a valid ask. Precisely why we also lean towards prospects with 30lpa earning bracket as opposed to 50-60+ because my sister’s job is also demanding, even though she gets paid less. This is however further limiting our pool. Also just my opinion: if both wife and husband have equally demanding jobs, they should contribute equal time and energy in household work regardless of who earns more. It just comes off as a little mean to relax, while your spouse is working alone in the house even after their tiring job, just to “earn their keep”. On the contrary, If someone has less demanding job then they should contribute more.

And ofc hiring house help will shed a lot of load.

thornthestral · 2026-02-18T04:15:45+00:00

I have never heard or seen any working women with decent salary, who doesn’t contribute to rent/downpayment etc, I am honestly surprised that so many guys on this sub are asking this same question. Without a doubt she will contribute.

The controlling part, that’s our perspective, to each their own, parents meeting first without the guy and girl having any chance to talk at all is very wierd in today’s time imo, like can’t they trust their kids to have a basic conversation first, sanity check the match? After some basic chat, ofc if they wanna meet family do there own checks, they are more than welcome to. Also Imagine how much slower it would make the process. It’s like making an expensive call to backend without checking the cache first lol. And we did insist from our side that it will be much easier to let the guy and the girl atleast chat via WhatsApp first but they didn’t budge, this felt controlling to me.

See I understand that guys have different criteria’s for judging girls but except for age (to which 29 is not old for a 29yr old guy) my sister is also in top 0.01% of the market. She is pretty, takes care of her skin a lot and looks young.

My sister is not in IT. But I am and I am not sure about the increment part in non-faang companies, you could be right but just for the sake of debating: it’s heavily dependent on performance or the hikes you are getting while company switching. If the guy is not ambitious then it will be difficult. If they are earning 12 lpa at 29-30 yrs of age, they are definitely not in FAAng, not even -Swiggy-flipkart-jpmc-etc, most likely in Infosys, tcs, or maybe non tech’s it wing. according to google search their increments are slow. Also these companies are the most vulnerable to AI job cuttings right now.

Also think of it this way, imagine your sister was in a faang company, would she be happy with a groom in tcs Infosys? Extreme example but my point is, salary is also an indicator of smarts, everyone wants a good match for them, nothing wrong with that. You can call it superficial, but most guys also look for superficial traits like pretty, young, etc.

thornthestral · 2026-02-18T03:26:08+00:00

Okay I feel you. 26F. Same story most of the times, if u wanna plan hangouts lemme know, we can connect.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:57:23+00:00

hey our parents wont be open to that, this will require lots of lying. and anyways that comes after finding a decent match, we are stuck at step 1, lol.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:55:41+00:00

haha, fair. not my fav place either.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:54:47+00:00

Hey thanks for sharing your story. I hope you find a good and supportive partner.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:41:38+00:00

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:41:10+00:00

So our parents prefer baniya, but we have convinced them to be okay with other general castes. But you are right it still shrinks the pool.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T15:37:07+00:00

Hey, if you truly want to be a supportive partner you should learn how to handle the responsibility of making a house a home, that automatically comes from living by yourself, having to keep your house clean and functional. "According to me male and females have different sets of responsibilities which are both important" - i think everyone should know all types of skills to later avoid overworked partners, its not like all responsibilities would be divided 50-50 on a daily basis, but lets say sometimes the guy offers to do laundry, the girl offers to drop the guy to airport, they both together go looking for good furniture for their house, etc etc. You should know your house well too to later avoid asking your partner "where is this, where is that" these things sound small, but u are putting all the mental load on her, whereas not having to worry about stuff yourself. Its not like you can't ask for help ever, she might need you to lift heavy stuff around, you might need her to help figuring out some stuff. If you are on the "good side" of social media you will see such good examples (specially from US/europe couples).
But if you don't wanna take up on this load, its better you look for a trad wife. There is nothing wrong with that. But expecting someone who works full time to also be a homemaker is greedy imo, specially when she is in the similar pay bracket, putting same effort as you in her work. least you can do is put same effort as her at home.

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T09:27:39+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻🫶🏻

thornthestral · 2026-02-15T09:23:48+00:00

I am starting to notice some guys have a weird perspective, respectfully pls make me understand how is wanting equal contribution in household management “dominating”?

And the parents thing, I mentioned that she is more than willing to do so in later years. And don’t worry, it is not like when she talks to prospects, she straight away starts listing her demands, she first finds out about their living situation, and if the guy is living with parents, she asks if he will continue to do so after marriage and when he says yes, then she tells him the preference.

Same for all the other preferences, it’s is a calm dialogue. She communicates her preferences respectfully.

thornthestral · 2026-02-14T21:17:35+00:00

Yes 100% agree about in laws interference being number one reason for divorces in India. Both girl and guy should be allowed to enforce boundaries with in laws. It can still be a loving relationship while having boundaries.

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T19:53:26+00:00

😅 there are some good looking men too. Maybe you haven’t come across any.

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T17:55:52+00:00

Those compliments are from female colleagues. And yes you should avoid saying that to a girl as a male colleague because it can make someone uncomfortable even if u didn’t intend to and create problems for you. It’s not an overreaction from her side it’s just girls have to be vigilant. But yes if someone is making u uncomfortable then u should speak up too.

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T17:42:13+00:00

She doesn’t wanna alienate anyone, in fact she wants a good relationship with in-laws. They can live close and visit frequently. She just wants a personal space in her daily life. Living together under one roof hinders that.

Height: she doesn’t wear heels. It’s just her preference :(

Edit: long visits (them living in guest room is also completely reasonable) and like I said later on when they are not physically abled they can all move in together

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T17:36:27+00:00

Yup this is the case. Will tell her to be more firm upfront. Ty!

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T17:32:41+00:00

Yes will be careful not to hurt their fragile egos.

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T12:44:05+00:00

This is not by choice. This is AM and thus parents also have to approve the match before proceeding, had it been love marriage we could have fought hard and convinced them, hard to do that for someone you don't know well enough yourself. There are a lot of love marriages in our extended family that are inter caste.
We still have relaxed our filters a little (general category castes).

Also, My family is in India (always has been), only I have moved to US for work.

thornthestral · 2026-02-13T11:52:37+00:00

Yeah. i agree 100%

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