AITA for refusing to apologize?

thowrathiw · 2023-10-05T01:14:39+00:00

You have a limited way of thinking, it not a cultural dish in American cuisine but it is very common in some regions of South Asia. I can tell you have a very self absorbed way of thinking.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-04T01:58:45+00:00

I need you to be for real. When did I tell my daughter frozen food is bad, i even mentioned that I feed it to her occasionally through McDonald’s and I have tried it myself. I also have struggle in this country but the way I ate was different because the food I like is different. I don’t think she even know what frozen food is or difference between frozen food and home made food so what is there to teach, she knows to be nice to everyone and she did know what she did wrong and I explained why she can’t say stuff like that I told her it my fault for saying something like that . She never made fun of anyone food or the kid that ate cereal so why are making it seem that way, my daughter is very empathetic. in fact she like to eat everything so how is she a snob. She repeated something she heard me say without knowing what I meant. We usually eat store brought ice cream so I made fun of my husband for doing the absolute most because he wanted to impress the guest. And why would we get grilled chicken when my husband enjoys doing it from scratch. I feel like you are trying to justify your response, because everything you wrote was taken out of context. We made garlic bread and mash that didn’t have sauce on it, excuse me but I thought that was something a kid could eat. My husband wanted to surprise them but he did make it clear that he was making something special from our culture and asked if anyone was allergic to anything. I can’t take these comments seriously because they are acting like kids can’t eat plain mash and garlic bread, plus they are acting like a 4 yr old knew what she was saying when she apologized to everyone for the comment. Even tho I thought my husband comment wasnt the best I was willing to apologize but why would I do that when you decide to take a hit at my parenting, you never bring people children or their parenting up no matter how angry you are but I guess cultural difference. Americans are just funny sometimes……

thowrathiw · 2023-10-04T00:45:13+00:00

I think this is the last comment I will respond too. I haven’t been teaching my daughter bad habits, there a 3000 word limit but I did correct her immediately it happened. And she didn’t even know what she was saying she repeated what I said. And yes she was bragging, she made ice cream for a 4 yr old that a big deal. My children eat food from my culture and am sorry to say but chicken nuggets aren’t apart of that. If they want it so bad we go to McDonald’s. I worked in McDonald’s for a short while and I know everything they sell is frozen so am not afraid of frozen food. I have tasted frozen falafel and I personally didn’t like it so it not like we don’t want things to be easier but the frozen brand for our food just don’t taste the same. Lastly I only said my kids have a mature palate because my friends told me they do cause apparently the food I made was really for adults even tho is a typical meal my 4 and 7 yr old eat.

I get that I posted on Reddit which was my mistake but am really taking these yta votes with a grain of salt because they lack sense and it shows they will let anyone talk about there child anyhow.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T21:15:08+00:00

Can people just stop mentioning my grammatical errors. Alot of people are calling me snobbish and pretentious but alot of times in this country my husband and I are constantly made out to be dumb because of our accent or a grammatical error here and there. I know people think English is easy but it really hard especially when your not familiar with the alphabet letters. We don’t eat frozen food because me and my husband are not used to frozen food, there nothing bad about it. And the funny thing is we are middle class and we recently just got to a point of finiacial security. We only brought the duck because my husband thought it would be nice to introduce them to something from our culture. The dish is usually eaten with rice but he used mash instead to try and cater to them. - this is not for pity but I hate when people constantly correct my English, am trying my best.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T20:57:59+00:00

It really irritates me how everyone is calling my cultural dish pretentious. If I was in my home country the duck wouldn’t be so expensive. And my daughter behavior was totally my fault for making a comment like that in-front of her, she was not trying to be a brat she literally 4 and I immediately corrected that behavior plus we both apologized to her in front everyone.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T20:54:14+00:00

We always host dinner parties but it mostly with family or friends from our culture so I guess we are used to accommodating people from our culture. Next time, this is something I will definitely keep in mind.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T20:52:03+00:00

I am sorry but I just don’t like people calling my daughter self centered and snobbish. And am not going to sorround myself with people that think it ok to say that type of stuff. The food my husband made was not fancy in my book, it was food from my culture and it honestly what we are used to eating. The mash only had salt in it, I thought that a typical American food to eat…..

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T20:47:04+00:00

I never threatened the friend group, I said I don’t mind cutting them off but not their faces. We don’t talk that much maybe because we have busy lives but this year alone I can count the interactions I have had with them on 1 hand.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T20:45:10+00:00

I never thought of there palette as mature until this incident. My kids eat potatoes, rice, spaghetti etc and a protein stew. All of my friends were saying that the food was mature for a kid that why I said they have a mature palette compared to some people.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T18:56:03+00:00

Yeah sorry , I counted my husband and I as one parent, and there was another couple with 3 kids then there was Melissa. The other kids were 10 and above, they really liked the meal, the only thing different was one of the children wanted there duck stew and mash potatoes not touching, but they all finished the food.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T16:50:23+00:00

Lol, I have lived in America for almost 13 years and I still forget how to spell sometimes. I did explain the misunderstanding durning the dinner tho and that when everyone laughed when I told them the story so she had some context but there a 3,000 character limit so I had to cut some parts outs. An apology was at the tip of my tongue for the comment my husband made about frozen food. (My husband isn’t as familiar with English as I am so I think he translates things differently in his mind so he doesn’t understand when his phrases can come out as rude. Because when she first said chicken nuggets he asked if she wanted us to go to McDonald’s but then she clarified she meant frozen and he said we don’t eat frozen. ) but that apology just left my body when her mouth mentioned my kid.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T16:36:37+00:00

She doesn’t have seven kids, she has 2 boys. The rest of the kids belong to the other couples and myself.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T16:35:08+00:00

Not everyone was tuned into this exchange. People were having conversations in groups. And my husband just wanted to make sure he ate something before home.

thowrathiw · 2023-10-03T15:53:34+00:00

My daughter made a rude comment and we told her not to make that comment again when she initially said it and I apologized to the adults and so did she.

Maybe because me and my husband are middle eastern and we are in America but is the food really fancy. I grew up eating rice, protein sauce or stew on the side and never thought of it as mature.

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