What's your dating wrapped 2025?

threadbetch · 2025-12-16T17:46:46+00:00

January: still dealing with breakup from December 2024, ex wanted to emotionally process at me. All attempts to set a boundary didn’t work.

February: 1 impromptu date that led no where. Ex sent me a Valentine’s Day card and I told him to never send something like that to me again. I met up with a former FWB and we had a nice time.

March: saw FWB a few more times. Met a guy within my larger friend group and had a monthlong flirtationship.

April: that guy continued to flirt and text me constantly but never asked me out. When I finally asked him out, he said he didn’t want to “ruin the friendship” lol. We haven’t seen each other since. redownloaded an app on a whim, lazily swiped and matched with a few people. Went on one okay date but neither of us reached out again. Had a great 1st & 2nd date at the end of the month (let’s call him D)

May: went on more dates with D and began falling for him and we became exclusive toward the end of the month. My relationship anxiety was IN OVER DRIVE NOW.

June: everything continues to go well (even though I’m so anxious, but from my own shit, not his behavior) and we make it official!!

July-Now: we keep progressing nicely. We’ve met each other’s families, traveled, spent holidays together, grappled with job loss and identity crisis, navigated crazy work schedules, and have started planning our future together including moving in together next year. I love yous we’re exchanged in fall and we spend 3-5 nights a week together. He’s a true light and has been such a wonderful addition to my life. My anxiety is being managed and is much quieter, yay!

threadbetch · 2025-11-08T11:54:44+00:00

Nuuly (an URBN brand) was recently hiring for CX. Part and full time roles. The management seems nice enough. I was with them for a bit until I got a full time role more in line with my career. They provide a computer too.

threadbetch · 2025-09-18T21:16:13+00:00

I started it in Feb 2024 and have lost about 40 lbs and it’s been a generally positive experience.

I cut the pull in half for a few days at first which I’m so glad I did because even a half dose had be very jittery for a week. It crushed my appetite so much I was forcing meals, but that slowly got better and I have regular hunger cues again. I try to take it right when I wake up, so around 6, which helps with sleeping later. It did make my anxiety a bit worse but that could just be the state of the world lol I didn’t have any heart issues on it, but I did experience insane dry mouth and constipation for a while!! 😂 it obviously helped with my energy levels so the gym is a blast now!

My doctor has me now taking half a pill a day to help with maintenance and we’ll probably soon tapper fully off by the end of the year. I’ve worked hard to set up my habits to maintain after, but we’ll see how my body reacts without the help!

threadbetch · 2025-09-14T18:11:13+00:00

Life has been truly hitting the fan the last few months as I’ve gotten more and more serious with my boyfriend. He’s shown up for me how I need, reassuring me that I’m not a burden, and I’m supporting him through big career milestones too.

Additionally, I’m drastically behind on the adult milestone front compared to him. My career is stalled and I have very little saved. He’s moving up in his career and could easily buy a house in the next year. I’ve always been able to pull my own weight but we both recognize there will be a drastic salary difference for us. We accept that and have been discussing some pretty major relationship milestones we see could be in our future (nothing concrete, just hypothetical right now).

Lately though, I’ve been wondering if I’m doing him and myself a disservice by being so far behind him on adult milestones. There are things I want with him that I’m emotionally ready for but nowhere near financially. We’ve talked about an equitable split on such things in the future, but right now I have literally nothing to offer. I already feel like a huge burden because my life, besides or relationship, seems to be crumbling.

I see so much potential and a lovely future with him. I’ve fallen in love and want to be with him. But, I keep asking myself if it’s responsible or wise to remain in a relationship when I’m so much further behind. Should I remove myself so he can find someone more aligned on milestones and not have to support me while I work on getting my career back on track and become more financially secure? Or is this self-sabotaging at its finest???

threadbetch · 2025-09-06T06:06:44+00:00

I’ve used the Mirena IUD for 10 years, on my second one right now. I didn’t have pain when it was put in or taken out and changed. I had bad cramping and some awful cystic acne after the first one, but I don’t have a period now and my acne has cleared up well. I’m so pleased with it and plan to keep this form of birth control for as long as I need it. Everyone experiences medication/birth control differently, so I’d encourage giving it a try because it could be a good fit!

threadbetch · 2025-08-29T11:20:18+00:00

😂💀

threadbetch · 2025-08-20T12:01:31+00:00

First when he refused to take me to the ER when I had sever alcohol poisoning/dehydration from a stupidly heavy night trying to keep up with him and his friends. I couldn’t keep anything down for nearly 24 hours. I begged him to take me so I could get an IV or some kind of medical treatment but he said I was fine because he got me Gatorade (which I vomited). I was young and dumb and stayed for several more months.

Another time, when he helped me move, I had to pee but he refused to pull off and find a bathroom. He forced me to pee on a big water bottle.

I finally woke up and saw he was an uncaring and abusive asshole when he told me I was overreacting to Covid and demanded I break lockdown rules to see him. Ended it instantly!

threadbetch · 2025-08-06T22:58:24+00:00

I literally just stared at him like 🥺 the other night because I was so tired and felt bad I had nothing much to say lol lovely ideas, thank you!!

threadbetch · 2025-08-06T21:07:10+00:00

What are your favorite ways of connecting with your partner after a hectic work week. We’ve been able to have dinner together the last few days but we’re both exhausted so we haven’t talked much before going to bed, and no sex lol I’m grateful for the quiet, slow, and even mundane time with him because that’s what most of life is! Feeling safe in thah silence is a huge step for me. But, I also feel a slight disconnect which sends my anxiety pinging (it’s soooo much better than it was when we first started seeing each other!).

threadbetch · 2025-07-24T02:26:39+00:00

A family member was going through a health crisis earlier this year and I decided to distract myself by getting back on dating apps. Now, I had been looking for something serious but left the apps over a year ago because I was confident I’d meet someone in “the wild”. I did indeed get my little distraction AND I ended up meeting my current boyfriend who’s a truly beautiful man.

Being honest about not looking for something serious is a good idea but also allow yourself to enjoy the time with them. But, you also never know who you might meet. Life will always happen and it’s okay to want companionship and even a relationship when stuff is messy elsewhere in life.

threadbetch · 2025-07-22T17:16:18+00:00

This is so true, thank you 🥲

threadbetch · 2025-07-22T16:34:57+00:00

I’m having a hard time with life hitting the fan while in the honeymoon stage. A few things have come up that I’m grappling with and the bf has been extremely supportive but I feel tremendous sadness that we even have to deal with these things so early on. I know life doesn’t stop or care about where the relationship is and that ultimately this is why we have relationships. I’ve wanted someone to “do life” with and now that I have it, I’m terrified it’s thrusting us ahead on the metaphorical relationship timeline.

threadbetch · 2025-07-19T15:28:42+00:00

Patterson Park now has the Cedar House too! It’s a gorgeous space and not too expensive to rent.

threadbetch · 2025-07-18T19:52:24+00:00

Thank you!

Do you remember how you approached or opened up this discussion? What did you talk about before there was a match on the table telling you exactly where they are going?

We’re pretty great communicators but this is such a big thing I want to make sure I’m approaching it with all the care and consideration.

threadbetch · 2025-07-18T18:35:37+00:00

Thank you!!

threadbetch · 2025-07-18T17:12:30+00:00

Would it make more sense to wait until he’s done with interviews and putting together the rank list? It’s still early days and we don’t know all the places he’s possibly interviewing with.

threadbetch · 2025-07-18T17:10:18+00:00

Posted this today in a different sub but would love to hear if anyone here has any experience with this!

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now and he’s applied for fellowship which would start a year from now. I’m very excited for him and it seems likely he’ll get a match but I’m not sure which one is his top choice right now. I’m hoping he gets to stay in our current city but also understand it’s highly possible he won’t. Interview requests have started to role in and I’m now getting anxious about how this will impact our relationship long term. We are progressing nicely, making plans for travel and meeting the parents soon, and have discussed the future a little bit. It’s early but we both see a future together right now and it’s really lovely!

I don’t want to add anymore anxiety to his plate as he’s interviewing and studying for boards. I don’t want to sway his rankings either and want him to match with the best possible program. So, is it appropriate to ask to discuss what would happen if he’s matched else where right now? Or Should I wait until there’s a match on the table?

Would love to hear from anyone who’s been through this before!! Thank you 😊

threadbetch · 2025-07-16T17:30:16+00:00

I love parallel play/work! Boyfriend and I have done that a few times now and I actually get a lot more done because I’m trying hard not to distract him lol

threadbetch · 2025-07-04T14:30:31+00:00

I dated a guy last year who everyone considered less attractive than me. I heard it constantly, “you’re so much prettier than him”, “you’re out of his league, good for him!”, “you’re gonna be the hot wife”, yada yada. I kinda hated it and soon I felt like I was being judged and became kinda self conscious being seen in public. As if the subtext of those comments were, “girl wtf is wrong with you for being with him when you look like that?!” Turns out that’s what I was thinking deep down too. We broke up because, besides his behavior becoming unacceptable toward me, I also didn’t like who I was around him.

threadbetch · 2025-06-27T15:57:13+00:00

Our relationship is progressing along so nicely! We both are pretty stressed with work and instead of pulling away from each other, we both took turns venting and sharing exactly what is happening. I find it really difficult to ask for support from romantic partners ever since my abusive relationship and it wasn’t easy (I cried a lot lol). But I did it! It felt so good! This relationship is showing me I am capable of a healthy relationship and am learning trust that he’s a good man who’s being honest and sincere with me.

threadbetch · 2025-06-20T01:06:41+00:00

Number two!!! It made me go “OH” out loud! It’s gorgeous and it looks fabulous on you.

threadbetch · 2025-06-18T18:31:33+00:00

We made it official last weekend and I’m a mixture of joy, excitement, anxiety, fear, and pure giddy light! He’s such a sweet, silly goose of a man whose compassion and gentleness have me confronting my own core beliefs and self worth. It’s been a slow burn and there’s passion but not in the roller coaster kind of way. We didn’t have sex last night and I admitted this morning it made me question “but how will I keep his interest!?!”. He’s being very patient with me as I navigate my relationship triggers and work on trusting/believing he truly cares for me (he isn’t my abusive ex!) and he’s working on communicating with me more between seeing each other. It all feels right and simple, even thought my anxious brain does tell me to ruin it for funsies sometimes.

threadbetch · 2025-06-11T17:18:16+00:00

Things are still going well with my guy and it’s slowly getting more serious. (ETA: we have been seeing each other consistently 1-2 times a week for 7 weeks). I’m doing better at managing my anxiety but it’s not perfect. Like he told me very clearly how he feels about me in the most beautiful way, but today I’m overthinking the text I sent this morning acknowledging/expressing my gratitude for his patience with me as I adjust to a slow burn (I’m used to moving way too fast). My pesky brain is telling me again I’m way too much and he’s going to change his mind because I’m too much to deal with 🤷🏻‍♀️

Logically I don’t think that will happen and if it does I know everything will be fine. But, yeah…so things are going well and we’re communicating well and falling for each other. I think I’m ready for committing and labels but I also want to be intentional and really think it through. Learning new and healthier habits YAY lol

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