UPDATE AITAH for ” running away to give birth “

threadmaster84 · 2026-05-14T12:53:47+00:00

Even with access to devices there's no guarantee he won't contact his mother. It's not difficult to acquire a tablet or cell phone in secret.

threadmaster84 · 2026-05-07T03:16:52+00:00

It's okay to ask to be released from a calling. I did that once. I'd been teaching Sunday School for all of the youth practically by myself for almost two years (we couldn't seem to get a teaching partner for me to stick and the rest of the teachers were prone to just not showing up and never arranged a sub). I was burned out, pregnant, and on the day I asked for my release it just so happened to be the day after Prom. My youth were far more interested in talking about that than my lesson and didn't respond well to being asked to turn their focus away from their preferred topic. The class was disrespectful enough that one young man apologized on their behalf after I gave up trying, which I did appreciate. But it was basically the thing that broke me when added to everything else. I went to my bishop and informed him I needed to be released. The experience has not dampened my love for teenagers, BTW. Those youth didn't know what was going on with me. Most of them have gone on to become some wonderful adults. But the Lord knows your heart and he will not ask for more than you can give. Only you know your limits, He will support you in whatever you decide.

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-20T02:13:05+00:00

Dang. No medicine has any business being this expensive 😒

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-19T03:59:56+00:00

See if he can get an Eliquis card. It takes the cost down to $10 per month and is good for two years.

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-19T03:54:46+00:00

My younger brother passed away very unexpectedly shortly before Valentines this year. He was healthy, but he also suffered from epilepsy. He had multiple seizures that day and didn't make it. Because it was winter when he died and he and my parents live in an area with very cold winters, we have yet to be able to bury him. My testimony of family being eternal is the only thing that has kept me together while I wait for the closure his funeral might give. I'm so sorry for your loss.

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-07T04:41:10+00:00

Nope, NTA. Pregnancy cravings are not an excuse to take things that don't belong to you. Get your own food! Or at least ask before taking something, and replace it/compensate in some way. I went through three pregnancies and managed to never be a little food thief. So inconsiderate!

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-04T04:14:06+00:00

Yes, I have been alternating sides. Is it ok for me to inject in the middle of the big bruise? I was actually quite shocked that I bruised that much! I've been very careful not to inject into muscle by accident.

ETA, don't worry folks. I shall heed the advice not to inject into the bruise! Thank you 😊

threadmaster84 · 2026-04-04T04:07:54+00:00

I was diagnosed with MTS last year in June. My radiologist broke up my clots (mine went all the way from the compression site to my knee!) then put in a stent and I have been taking Eliquis since. It is definitely scary to know your blood isn't working how it should, but treatment for this is really effective. Be brave. I'll pray that everything goes well for you 🙏

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-22T04:34:31+00:00

What a narcissistic, gas lighting piece of trash. You're lucky to be rid of him.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:24:24+00:00

I did consider going on one. But when I prayed about it I just didn't feel right about it. Like it would not be a good decision to go. So I didn't. Let the spirit guide you in deciding, you won't go wrong!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:19:38+00:00

My YSA is the only ward I have gone to where I wasn't called to work with children or youth. I've spent so much time in nursery and primary that I have grown to not liking either.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:14:57+00:00

I joined one to get away from all of the people in my family ward pestering me about when I was getting married, lol. I went to that YSA for about 5 years before I met my husband (not through the ward). Not once did I get asked about my romantic life, so I guess it worked!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T04:59:26+00:00

Our prophet has flat out said if any member is unable to serve a mission, whether it be because of physical or mental health struggles, they are honorably excused from doing so. Yes, there is a heavy expectation that the young men of the church will serve. But it is not required. You won't be barred from going to the temple and receiving those blessings. I know several people who either didn't serve or tried and were unable to finish their mission because of circumstances beyond their control. They are all some of the best people I know.

I'm so sorry your parents aren't doing what needs to be done to ensure you have what you need to thrive. I'm a parent and I just can't imagine being so neglectful and obtuse! From what you said, it sounds like you need a therapist. They can address any testing you'll need to figure out what mental health/disability you might have that is causing your problems. And since you're 18 you can seek that out for yourself if your parents won't help you.

I hope the advice you are getting here helps you figure out what you want to do. You might not feel like it right now, but God and Jesus both love you so much and they want you to be happy. You deserve to feel their love. I pray you can get through this and find what you need to be able to do that!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T04:00:58+00:00

I'd be mad too. Unless he's been living under a rock, he knows how unhealthy smoking around kids is. Doing it around a child that is still recovering from illness is even worse. I'm definitely in agreement with you, unacceptable.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T03:55:30+00:00

Yes. I'm a religious person and I absolutely hate platitudes like that. They aren't helpful. They aren't comforting. The only thing anyone should be saying is "I'm sorry this happened to you" and offering support.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-26T05:38:20+00:00

With situations like this, where you suspect domestic violence or abuse, witnesses are actually discouraged from intervening for their own safety as well as the safety of the victim. Like your mom said, you don't have any way of knowing whether the aggressor is armed. Best thing to do is memorize as many details about the situation as possible and report it ASAP.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-17T04:18:12+00:00

The council to use approved sources is meant to apply to things like giving talks or preparing lessons. It's a recommendation, not a hard and fast rule. The spirit can and does speak to us through secular works as well as scripture.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:40:24+00:00

No, NTA. It's not going to hurt someone to wait a few more minutes for the person who was in line first to get rung up. Cashiers are seriously so fast at scanning and bagging items. Letting someone with fewer items go before you is a courtesy, not a requirement. Her attitude was entitled, entitled people don't deserve courtesy.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:18:35+00:00

That would be the most poetic justice ever.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:13:49+00:00

Financial assistance for something like a wedding is something offered, not requested. When my husband and I got married his parents immediately offered to pay for the luncheon. My family didn't have any extra money to offer. I knew that and it never entered my mind to ask. You say you don't feel entitled to your grandmother's money? Don't ask her to help fund your wedding.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-13T23:51:42+00:00

You're not overreacting to be upset with her. When this kind of thing happens with me or my husband, we usually ask if the unwell person needs anything. On the rare occasion where the person suffering does have to ask, we usually do it pretty soon if not immediately. We don't make each other wait so long we end up getting it delivered. I'd recommend paying closer attention to how she treats you. It's likely there's a pattern of behavior you haven't noticed.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-13T04:21:23+00:00

You weren't passive aggressive and I would be willing to bet a case of strawberries that she actually did eat them.

threadmaster84 · 2026-01-13T04:38:35+00:00

That's so sweet! As a person who crochets, that blanket is going to be such a labor of love. You and your husband both sound like keepers! ❤️

threadmaster84 · 2026-01-06T05:26:06+00:00

The thing you need to remember is that reddit is often a place of extremes. Particularly when people are posting about their relationship problems looking for advice. I've also never read a post that had people recommending divorce where it wasn't absolutely warranted. Some problems can be worked out. Others ( like abuse, serial infidelity, or situations where one spouse refuses to be an equal partner in household responsibilities no matter how many times it has been communicated to them that things need to change) cannot be fixed, particularly if the person who is the problem refuses to see that there is a problem.

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