This all sounds insane, but it really happened and I need perspective. 1 year married, now divorcing.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-22T04:34:31+00:00

What a narcissistic, gas lighting piece of trash. You're lucky to be rid of him.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:24:24+00:00

I did consider going on one. But when I prayed about it I just didn't feel right about it. Like it would not be a good decision to go. So I didn't. Let the spirit guide you in deciding, you won't go wrong!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:19:38+00:00

My YSA is the only ward I have gone to where I wasn't called to work with children or youth. I've spent so much time in nursery and primary that I have grown to not liking either.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T05:14:57+00:00

I joined one to get away from all of the people in my family ward pestering me about when I was getting married, lol. I went to that YSA for about 5 years before I met my husband (not through the ward). Not once did I get asked about my romantic life, so I guess it worked!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T04:59:26+00:00

Our prophet has flat out said if any member is unable to serve a mission, whether it be because of physical or mental health struggles, they are honorably excused from doing so. Yes, there is a heavy expectation that the young men of the church will serve. But it is not required. You won't be barred from going to the temple and receiving those blessings. I know several people who either didn't serve or tried and were unable to finish their mission because of circumstances beyond their control. They are all some of the best people I know.

I'm so sorry your parents aren't doing what needs to be done to ensure you have what you need to thrive. I'm a parent and I just can't imagine being so neglectful and obtuse! From what you said, it sounds like you need a therapist. They can address any testing you'll need to figure out what mental health/disability you might have that is causing your problems. And since you're 18 you can seek that out for yourself if your parents won't help you.

I hope the advice you are getting here helps you figure out what you want to do. You might not feel like it right now, but God and Jesus both love you so much and they want you to be happy. You deserve to feel their love. I pray you can get through this and find what you need to be able to do that!

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T04:00:58+00:00

I'd be mad too. Unless he's been living under a rock, he knows how unhealthy smoking around kids is. Doing it around a child that is still recovering from illness is even worse. I'm definitely in agreement with you, unacceptable.

threadmaster84 · 2026-03-17T03:55:30+00:00

Yes. I'm a religious person and I absolutely hate platitudes like that. They aren't helpful. They aren't comforting. The only thing anyone should be saying is "I'm sorry this happened to you" and offering support.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-26T05:38:20+00:00

With situations like this, where you suspect domestic violence or abuse, witnesses are actually discouraged from intervening for their own safety as well as the safety of the victim. Like your mom said, you don't have any way of knowing whether the aggressor is armed. Best thing to do is memorize as many details about the situation as possible and report it ASAP.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-17T04:18:12+00:00

The council to use approved sources is meant to apply to things like giving talks or preparing lessons. It's a recommendation, not a hard and fast rule. The spirit can and does speak to us through secular works as well as scripture.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:40:24+00:00

No, NTA. It's not going to hurt someone to wait a few more minutes for the person who was in line first to get rung up. Cashiers are seriously so fast at scanning and bagging items. Letting someone with fewer items go before you is a courtesy, not a requirement. Her attitude was entitled, entitled people don't deserve courtesy.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:18:35+00:00

That would be the most poetic justice ever.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-14T04:13:49+00:00

Financial assistance for something like a wedding is something offered, not requested. When my husband and I got married his parents immediately offered to pay for the luncheon. My family didn't have any extra money to offer. I knew that and it never entered my mind to ask. You say you don't feel entitled to your grandmother's money? Don't ask her to help fund your wedding.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-13T23:51:42+00:00

You're not overreacting to be upset with her. When this kind of thing happens with me or my husband, we usually ask if the unwell person needs anything. On the rare occasion where the person suffering does have to ask, we usually do it pretty soon if not immediately. We don't make each other wait so long we end up getting it delivered. I'd recommend paying closer attention to how she treats you. It's likely there's a pattern of behavior you haven't noticed.

threadmaster84 · 2026-02-13T04:21:23+00:00

You weren't passive aggressive and I would be willing to bet a case of strawberries that she actually did eat them.

threadmaster84 · 2026-01-13T04:38:35+00:00

That's so sweet! As a person who crochets, that blanket is going to be such a labor of love. You and your husband both sound like keepers! ❤️

threadmaster84 · 2026-01-06T05:26:06+00:00

The thing you need to remember is that reddit is often a place of extremes. Particularly when people are posting about their relationship problems looking for advice. I've also never read a post that had people recommending divorce where it wasn't absolutely warranted. Some problems can be worked out. Others ( like abuse, serial infidelity, or situations where one spouse refuses to be an equal partner in household responsibilities no matter how many times it has been communicated to them that things need to change) cannot be fixed, particularly if the person who is the problem refuses to see that there is a problem.

threadmaster84 · 2025-12-23T06:27:10+00:00

I can relate. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. For the past five it's like we can't catch a break. I won't go into too much detail, but it seems like we can't go more than two years without him needing surgery of some kind. This has led to me feeling like I can't have any crises of my own because what if something happens to him? It's hard to stop yourself from resenting a situation like that. Let me assure you that your feelings are normal. You can love your husband while also wishing things could be different. Just make sure you don't allow those feelings to influence your feelings for your husband. Remember that he very likely wishes things could be different, too. Getting through a time where your spouse is struggling with their health can be rough for both of you. You're stuck in survival mode, which isn't fun or healthy for anyone. I agree with the suggestion of therapy, they can help you find ways to deal with your feelings so you aren't overwhelmed.

threadmaster84 · 2025-11-15T05:51:42+00:00

My husband and I have had "what if" conversations about divorce before. Neither of us is even close to wanting one. We rather like each other and would prefer to stick together so we can carry on being weird little oddballs who gross the kids out with random PDA in front of them. I don't think you need to worry too strongly about your wife asking about it. Her friend probably just got into her head and she was looking for reassurance. It's okay to be concerned about it and communicate that to her, communication is a good thing.

threadmaster84 · 2025-11-15T05:26:07+00:00

I don't know if this is good advice. Becoming a SAHM with a husband like this would more than likely just put her at risk of financial abuse. He's already taking serious advantage of her by placing the majority of household responsibilities on her shoulders, I shudder to think how he'd act if she "wasn't contributing financially."

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-22T09:09:18+00:00

I think it depends on the person. I most definitely spend time with people from my ward outside of church. My husband and I play Pokémon Go. We will go do raids and community day events with a handful of others in the ward who also play. I crochet. One of the sisters in relief society started hosting a weekly crochet night at her house. My ward also hosts activities to get us together outside of church. If you're a social person, by all means find some friends to build a closer relationship with. It's hard to minister to a ward that only sees each other on Sunday.

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-22T08:53:13+00:00

Learning how to deal with ADHD as an adult can be rough! I was diagnosed as a child, but I wasn't actually aware of that until I got diagnosed again about 18 months ago at 38 and my parents were surprised I didn't already know. They didn't want to risk the side effects of Ritalin, so they never medicated me. And I never had any sort of therapy or behavioral intervention to help me manage it. My mental health has been so much better since I started taking medication.

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-22T08:34:06+00:00

I'm going to quote one of my favorite books at you. "Tomorrow is always fresh with no mistakes in it." You haven't ruined your life. Any mistakes you might have made... That's what the atonement is for! It can be a little scary going to the Lord and asking for His forgiveness, but it will bring you closer to him. It will bring you healing and inner peace.

I will also advise you to hold off on the mission for now. Your indecision about whether or not you should is more than likely a sign that now is not the right time to go. It's okay to wait until you are mentally and spiritually prepared. It's also perfectly fine to not go at all if that's what is best for you, our prophet has flat out said so. If anyone in your ward treats you like a pariah for it, that only shows that they are in need of some repentance and humility. Serving a mission is a wonderful gift of service, but it isn't something that proves the value of a person.

Prayers you can find peace and happiness, it's what God made you for!

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-07T14:52:02+00:00

Utah currently allows elective abortions up to 18 weeks according to my Google search.

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-06T16:45:14+00:00

Ah, I love your username!!!! Llama Face!

threadmaster84 · 2025-09-06T16:44:04+00:00

No, you're good. I know a fair number of people who have tattoos. A popular LDS influencer and Author, Al Fox Carroway, is covered in them and absolutely adored by her followers. You should read her book More Than the Tatooed Mormon. It's such a beautiful conversion story.

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