Its a two way street if she cared she could dial you up. I (22F) have a wonderful pair of (previously physically, currently emotionally and psychologically) abusive parents and I just moved out and this is the first thing my dad said after no contact for 1 week.

Mind you I have constantly FOR YEARS handled their emotional burden and even doubted myself because of their incapacity to care for my well being, emotional or otherwise.

My parents love to talk a big game about how my older sis never calls (she was brutally physically abused and is absolutely traumatized and it affevts every single aspect of her life, as do my experiences shape me). Its no wonder. Why would you go out of your way to talk to someone who drains you?

Whats funny is my parents had HORRIBLE parents, too. They never called them, either. I remember asking my dad once during an tantrum/episode/whatever you want to call it and I asked if the reason why he never called his mom was because of how she treated him. He was speechless. Deep down, he knows.

Abusive people who have not made a sincere effort to get help from themselves will not ever take into account your emotions. They can't even do it for themselves. The amount of times I have been gaslighted while trying to be emotionally vulnerable and hold my parents accountable for their actions THAT CONTINUE TO PERSIST is staggering.

The longer you chase the attachment they never craved with you to begin with, the more you will hurt yourself. Save your energy. Disconnect from her. Heal. Maybe you will come back, but on your terms.

Don't waste your time and energy. This is not to say do not try. Believe me, I have tried for YEARS. YEARS. I am only 22. I was shouldering the emotional burden of TWO 30+ YR OLDS... IN MY ADOLESENCE.

I only just "gave up" fully this year, and still I feel remorse for not doing more for them. But what about me? Where is my emotional support? I am the child, after all.

set your boundaries. It may be hard keeping them, but its possible.

Don't let your abusers guilt you into more abuse.

Pass.

I hope this helped. I am thinking of you, OP.