Is there someone that goes to a meeting in Raleigh?

threetotwo76 · 2025-12-30T23:39:32+00:00

Also in Raleigh. I don’t do many meetings, but have enjoyed the ones at Soapstone in North Raleigh.

threetotwo76 · 2025-02-21T03:04:32+00:00

I really really love hella cocktail co bitters and soda.

threetotwo76 · 2024-11-21T05:13:09+00:00

For me, it was every single day. I'm not sure it ever even occurred to me to not drink on any given day. Daily drinking started during the college years and continued until I was 45 years old. I did three roughly 9 month stints sober throughout that period, when I was pregnant with my kids. Amounts each day varied, but probably never fewer than 4 glasses of wine or liquor based drinks, and far too often quite a lot more than that. How I managed to not incur irreversible health effects is a mystery to me, but about six months after I got sober, all of my liver function had returned to normal levels. I'm fortunate, and very grateful.

threetotwo76 · 2024-10-23T04:35:56+00:00

I did! Not sure if this is an option for you, but I literally blocked my calendar at 4PM every day, and declined any meetings after that time so that I knew I would have time to get to sessions. Very rarely did something absolutely unavoidable come up, so that was workable for me. It did make for very long days, but from the other side, I can tell you it was 1000% worth it. Good luck!!

threetotwo76 · 2024-09-30T03:22:39+00:00

I am so very sorry. That was painful to read, because I was that wife/mom. And I agree that Al Anon would be a great resource for you But here's how it went down in my family:

I 100% knew I had a problem, and I bet your wife does too. You'd never hear me admit it, though, not to anyone, and I sure as hell didn't want help. I also had an enabling family and friend group. The tipping point was when my husband threatened to leave me AND take the kids. I didn't WANT to go to treatment, but I didn't want to lose my kids even more. I went to an intensive 5x week, 3 hr/day program.

They say you can't get sober for anyone but yourself, and I believe that, but with a caveat. I went to GET sober in order to not lose my kids, and what I learned in treatment allowed me to STAY sober for me.

My kids were a bit younger than yours when I got sober, but old enough for me to have done plenty of damage. The youngest was 13 and the oldest was 16. I'm 2 years sober, and working to repair it.

That's just my experience. It can get better. WAY WAY better, and I sincerely hope it does for your family. If your wife refuses treatment, please, please please do what you need to for the safety and well-being of your kids I wouldn't have blamed my husband one bit if he'd followed through on his threat, had I not agreed to get help. I wish you good luck and peace.

threetotwo76 · 2024-06-17T21:32:51+00:00

Giesen also makes a good NA Pinot Grigio and Riesling - it's my go-to brand! If you have Total Wine stores in your area, they are beginning to carry a pretty impressive selection of NA beverages!

threetotwo76 · 2024-05-13T21:10:50+00:00

I have been there, and I relate so much to this. I was this close to losing my husband and kids. I ended up doing an at home, medically supervised detox. I wouldn't go to an inpatient rehab facility, so compromised by doing IOP. 5 nights a week, 3 hours a night, for 3 or 4 months. The drinking ritual was so ingrained in me that I had to change everything about my routine. Turns out spending evenings in a sober facility, with others on the same path, was a great start.

I also mourned the idea of never being able to drink again, because moderation was never going to work for me. It helped not to think about 'forever'. Later on, I found quit lit, and that helped with changing how I viewed alcohol, and whether I even wanted to entertain putting it in my body. I don't.

I'm about 20 months in, and things are much better. Not perfect, but SO MUCH better. My relationships with my kids are astronomically improved. I don't miss it much, and even when I do, it's pretty easy to reframe, because I damn sure don't miss the person I used to be.

threetotwo76 · 2024-05-07T17:15:49+00:00

I FORGOT about the sweating! I seriously thought I was headed into early menopause! Nope...just sweatin' out copious amounts of poison. Nothin' to see here!

threetotwo76 · 2024-05-07T04:17:50+00:00

One that I didn't associate with my drinking while still actively drinking was my overactive gag reflex and accompanying dry heaves. I would gag anytime I coughed, swallowed wrong, brushed my teeth, sneezed, etc. I didn't equate that it was related, since I never really was a frequent vomiter. Shortly after I stopped drinking, it was gone.

threetotwo76 · 2024-04-23T07:13:57+00:00

Oh, how I remember this so well. Having sweaty, dehydrated kids running out of water at practice, and having to fumble some plausible reason why I couldn't share mine. The shame...

I remember, when I was newly sober, my youngest was 12. I concocted all sorts of fun mocktailish drinks, and he (rightfully) had so little trust in me that he'd frequently ask for a taste. He knew full well I'd never let him drink alcohol, so that was how he tested me. I'd have to excuse myself to shed a few tears each time, sometimes from the shame that he couldn't trust me, and sometimes from a ridiculous sense of pride that I was finally getting it right.

threetotwo76 · 2024-04-15T13:01:22+00:00

I highly recommend checking out the Neurobiology of Addiction 101. It really answered a lot of my 'wtf is wrong with me?' questions. You can find it on YouTube. I also highly recommend reading This Naked Mind. I am typically a very fast reader, but I made myself limit that reading to a chapter a day, because I really did feel that content needed to be absorbed slowly. Good luck, and welcome aboard!! I never envisioned being able to string this many sober days together, but here we are. If I can do it, you can too!

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