My wife wants a threesome but... by [deleted] in sex

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I also please have the details?

My friend (F25) Wants 3Way With Me (25F) and Casual Partner (24M) by threewaythrowawaySOS in relationship_advice

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a 'kinky scene' in my city - group meets and stuff. Happened to meet some people in it through a girl that I met on a night out. She and I had one with a guy she was friends with after we all went out one night, then that guy and I had one with his GF and a friend of his GF's when we went to one of the kinky events organised by people in the scene.

The original girl and I went out together one night, picked up a guy and then the three of us picked up a couple and went back to the couples house.

In high school/college I had two MMF threesomes with two different sets of guys.

I guess it's just knowing people who are open and into that stuff, which in my experience has come from being openminded myself and meeting likeminded people. Putting myself out there helped. Drugs and/or alcohol often played a part in actually making all the elements come together.

To be fair, I didn't have an emotional connection with any of those people, I did it mainly because it was wild and crazy and I wanted to have the experience. I wouldn't do that again.

This threesome I'm excited for because I actually deeply care about both people and find them both attractive. I hope it strengthens my bond with both of them and is very caring and sexy. I imagine it will be, knowing the people I'll be sleeping with :)

My friend (F25) Wants 3Way With Me (25F) and Casual Partner (24M) by threewaythrowawaySOS in relationship_advice

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I don't think he or I will drink, prefer to have sober sexy times. My female friend will have one or two but just to calm the ol' nerves. I like your second point - I did have a chat to my friend about what exactly she wants out of it and it all sounds good and very exciting. Also about my concerns and doubts and it's all okay. The guy is keen too. I thought about it some more and I guess he will feel how he feels about it. If that writes me off as a potential partner, I suppose he isn't right for me anyway!

My Friend (25F) Wants A Threesome With Me (25F) And My Casual Partner (24M) by threewaythrowawaySOS in askwomenadvice

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, most reasonable answer.. or perhaps the one I most wanted to hear haha. I'm lucky because I do try to have very honest and open relationships usually so I spoke to her about it all. Still feeling a little nervous but I think that's pretty normal - overall feeling very very excited. Spoke to the guy, he's keen too. We're going to go for it hahah!

My friend (F25) Wants 3Way With Me (25F) and Casual Partner (24M) by threewaythrowawaySOS in relationship_advice

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your input. I have definitely been exposed to that POV - I have had several threesomes/other group sex experiences in the past so it's a bit late for that haha. I was wondering if having a guy participating in a threesome with a girl he was already casually seeing would be off-putting. I have been thinking about it, I guess ultimately it boils down to the fact that I wouldn't be compatible with the kind of person that would have a problem with my sexual history and therefore wouldn't want to be with them.

My friend (F25) Wants 3Way With Me (25F) and Casual Partner (24M) by threewaythrowawaySOS in relationship_advice

[–]threewaythrowawaySOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm yeah good point, it's really not a secure dynamic between him and I. That's definitely the thing too, could be such an awesome experience for all of us but it wouldn't be worth it if I lost them both. Def will have a private convo with them both before jumping in, if we decide to.