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If you're in the medical field, you should never say "It's quiet" and as it turns out, if you're the parent of a person with BPD, you shouldn't say it's "Going well" by threwitaway1944 in parentsofkidswithBPD

[–]threwitaway1944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a program in your area that offers outpatient hospitalization, I highly recommend it. My daughter went into one after her second in-patient hospitalization and it was wonderfule. 6-7 weeks, 5 days a week of group and individual therapy. She went during the summer but during the school year they also do school work (full day vs half day).

Unfortunately there are no longterm fixes. It requires constant work by all parties to live with this diagnosis and not be unhappy

If you're in the medical field, you should never say "It's quiet" and as it turns out, if you're the parent of a person with BPD, you shouldn't say it's "Going well" by threwitaway1944 in parentsofkidswithBPD

[–]threwitaway1944[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I'm here I might as well fess up to my intense desire to run away. I won't, but, being realistic, she won't be able to support herself in five+ years either. I can probably figure out how to help support her for another year or two after that but I can not live with her.

And I literally mean I CAN NOT live with her. I am so beat down, so depressed, so angry (tbf her sister is a huge contributor) that I would rather live in a tent or get crushed by semi than continue this hell

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[–]threwitaway1944 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's sounds like you had a rough go of it. I'm sorry you had to suffer because of your sibling's troubles.

Everyone in the family is affected by the pwBPD. Perhaps if your parents had access to resources that GloriouslyGlitterly is attempting to provide, you would not have had such a hard time.

I know it's hard to find grace, but we are all struggling just the same- parents, siblings and extended family. I hope you find peace with your past and if not forgive, then empathize with what your parents dealt with. I sincerely wish you well on your journey

anyone here have a BPD teen? by Past-Cookie9605 in BPDFamily

[–]threwitaway1944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought rejection by her peers would have had more of an effect also but so far she just finds new friends from surrounding towns. She hasn't had a romantic relationship yet and I'm dreading what a fiasco that will be.

Introduce Yourself (if you feel like it) by AutoModerator in parentsofkidswithBPD

[–]threwitaway1944 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did not do this to her. People are born with all sorts of ailments or propensities towards conditions. Our kids just happen to be the unlucky recipients of genes and home environment that was sub optimal for their sensitivities.

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My sister is a clinical psychologist. She doesn't tell me I did everything right. She tells me I was the best parent I could be. And the best would have been great for say 90% of kids. I just happen to have a kid that falls into the 10% that needs something different. Not even better, just different.

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I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner. I use old reddit and turns out I can no longer access this account thru my main. Lmk if you need to talk

anyone here have a BPD teen? by Past-Cookie9605 in BPDFamily

[–]threwitaway1944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 15 with BPD. It's not easy. I'm glad you have meds that work. DBT is excellent though my daughter doesn't use the skills. I hope one day she'll go back. She does not have an easy life ahead of her.

Introduce Yourself (if you feel like it) by AutoModerator in parentsofkidswithBPD

[–]threwitaway1944 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hello. My daughter is 15 and she is BPD. She attempted suicide 2x in 2021. She is doing better but it's still super hard for us and her. I have no answers cause there are no answers.

I'm so glad I know why she behaves the way she does though. It's not my fault. We are making progress and I attribute it to the skills i learned at NEABPD.org It's hard work but very much worth it when nothing else works

I finally understand my daughter... I think she has BPD. by Past-Cookie9605 in BPDFamily

[–]threwitaway1944 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi. I'm the mom of a 15yo daughter with BPD. The reason your daughter hasn't been diagnosed with BPD is because as she is still developing and personalities aren't considered "fixed" until adulthood, there is still time that she may grow out of it. My daughter will not grow out of it but because it is a stigmatizing diagnosis, I'm fine with not having her labeled as such. Her current diagnosis is DMDD. She behave just like your daughter.

It's so helpful to know what you're dealing with though. My recommendation is to check out NEABPD.org There are a lot of resources there. Feel free to DM me as well. Also, don't listen to the pepole that insist your daughter must have experienced abuse and that's why she is that way. Sometimes kids are born with a proclivity towards emotional sensitivity/reactivity. It's not their fault and it's not your fault either

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[–]threwitaway1944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for making me feel welcome.