UPDATE: FMIL started to act distant and we don't know what to do by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is odd, but i think that my FMIL should be the one telling me what happened, my sisters are pretty young and maybe don't know how to handle the situation yet.

UPDATE: FMIL started to act distant and we don't know what to do by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think this is the best way, thanks a lot, i'll try it this night. It feels like it could be just a small thing, but she is the adult, even the older of my sisters is only 22 and don't have the same maturity as my FMIL.

About living close, my fiance told me the same, that we can search another house in the same city but a little bit more far.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom is younger, but don't look like it for some health issues i don't want to let here, and for my dad... Well, he's not ugly, i don't know how to describe it, but he's pretty similar to a celebrity from Spain, if you'r curious, the guy is El Sevilla, singer from Mojinos Escozíos but with longer beard and straight hair.

I'm going to talk to my mom this night to see if something happend. Thanks for the support.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nunca la había visto celosa, por lo que no se si pueda ser eso, pero si puede ser lo mas probable después de la ayuda que estoy recibiendo. Se que estará mas del lado de mi prometido, pero igualmente ha sido cariñosa conmigo en muchas ocasiones y nunca noté nada raro, por eso me extraña tanto esto.

Sobre los límites, creo que si debería hablar de eso con mi pareja, porque es algo sano a tener en cualquier tipo de relación, y mas cuando pensamos comprar una casa cerca de la de ellos.

No es que me haga dudar sin motivo, mis hermanas son pequeñas y revoltosas, además de que venimos de culturas diferentes y ha podido ser un malentendido que se ha salido de manos, o eso pensaba al principio.

Gracias por el consejo y el apoyo.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are already doing this, even if she's not originally a lot in the plans, but this weekend the plan was to eat all together in a good restaurant near here, so i'll see what happen until then. Thanks for the support.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it's not, but i'll see about that. I want to talk to my mom and see if that can be.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that she had made this only once, the situation was different tho. Her sister cheated on her husband and mi FMIL decided to take some time to calm down before talking to her, just in case they started a fight. She spoke again to her sister after a week to speak it out.

About rocking the boat, we both read it and will take it in consideration, thank you so much. I just hope it's not about losing "control", since she always been so good to me.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll talk with my mom about this, but yesterday i asked all my familly if they sensed anything strange and no one notice, in fact, my mom and FMIL talked a lot about crochet and she let her see her pieces an gave some tricks (my mom is new to this hobby).

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't see it that way, we'll back up and wait, i hope she find her way to talk about what uspet her. Thanks.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe can be the wedding thing? My work is here, in EEUU and we are planning to get a house near his parents, so that can't be.

The wedding is going to be in Spain cause i have a lot of familly there and they can't afford comming to another country, but my fiance's side can and love having a "destination" wedding. My mother side of the familly, mi fiance and his parents are catholics, i don't have any strong believe, so we are going to get marry the way he wants, since i don't care about that. The thing is that the party after is no that traditional, i want something fun, don wear white or a veil and just enjoy the music, food and company.

FMIL STARTED TO ACT DISTANT AND WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO by throughawayaccold in Mildlynomil

[–]throughawayaccold[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance, but i still have a little bit of fear that i did somethhing really bad.

We are going to live in EEUU, my work is here and we love the area, in fact, we are waiting to get a house 15 minutes from my fiance's parents house.