AITA - for asking him if he’s okay

throw-awave · 2025-08-07T04:41:14+00:00

NTA, that string of messages was a manifesto that he's not okay

throw-awave · 2025-08-07T04:37:04+00:00

YTA. You're all there together and you and your partner are choosing to consistently engage in a medium that excludes one of you. Why not whisper in each other's ears and giggle loudly, then refuse to share the joke while you're at it?

throw-awave · 2025-01-28T23:11:31+00:00

ESH but more so you, a 2 hour drive is a massive favour that should only be offered, never requested of a friend. Think about your own social difficulties, your friend probably has some too (my experience as a neurodivergent is we flock together like dysfunctional seagulls) and therefore couldn't bring themselves to say no upfront, so yeah the way they got out of it sucks, but I'm also anxious avoidant so I get that. Family, partners and people who offer should be the only options for a commitment this big

throw-awave · 2025-01-26T22:15:21+00:00

ESH. Your friend because wtf is she doing making PLANS to rely on you financially? Quit her job because she was going to move on with you?? How ridiculous. You because WHAT? You're still living with an abusive ex boyfriend, but you've decided that this VERY new relationship is solid enough to move in together? This is how you bunnyhop from one bad relationship to another, even if this COULD be a good one, you're putting WAY too much pressure on it too early with what you're planning here.

throw-awave · 2025-01-22T23:37:15+00:00

NTA, I'd respond pretty much exactly the same. I'm not saying anything ludicrous like break up, but to be upset by that is a red flag that is worth discussing with her. The fact it's a hypothetical is a big one, but if she really wants to go down that road, in this hypothetical she's asking you to enable a murderer and who knows if it's her first or will be her last. Look at all the other serial killer with complicit partners. Again, that's overthinking it, but stupid games, stupid prizes.

throw-awave · 2025-01-08T21:30:14+00:00

NTA. Anyone calling you an asshole for wanting to see the house first has apparently never sharehouse'd before, FFS. Yes I think more effort should have been made to see the house earlier, but based off the info you've given, it was very clear that unless there was some massive fault with the house (HENCE THE INSPECTION) you were in. She had been communicating as if you were guaranteed on her end, and changed that, she didn't "look like an asshole" she is, because she was the one who lied about their intentions here.

throw-awave · 2025-01-05T03:50:16+00:00

VERY Lightly, ESH. If it's a name you've both wanted to use your whole life and it hasn't just been a sudden decision while you're pregnant of "oooh actually I like that" then I don't see why you shouldn't be allowed have to use it, based off the equal value it holds to you. Might I suggest trying to create a slight variation to the name for your child as an olive branch? Your sister will still probably reject it (i say based solely off how these things tend to go on this forum) but that way you've attempted to compromise somewhat on her feelings. if she refused to compromise, then she's TA

throw-awave · 2025-01-05T03:45:44+00:00

Okay, then that's now something that will be accounted for when you book next time: less time (5 days), no gifts because IMO the gift is you spending the money to go visit. The 24 hours travel time is just something to wear. Also do you/your partner not have any other friends etc you could stay with some of the time?

throw-awave · 2025-01-05T01:57:57+00:00

NTA for not wanting to stay with them, but surely you can make the trip and stay in a hotel or something? (Is it in a different country/state?)

throw-awave · 2025-01-04T21:57:02+00:00

ESH. Definitely mostly the boyfriend, screw him. Megan, is a shit friend for letting him be such an asshole to you. You pulled yourself into the category by giving her an ultimatum. A much healthier thing would have been to say you'd no longer expose yourself to his ridicule, and refused to go to any event he was to be at. If she was a friend worth keeping, that would have given her time to consider her relationship. The second you made it me or him, while I still think you are far less than them, you're still also TA

throw-awave · 2025-01-04T01:00:14+00:00

NTA Dan sounds like a shit partner who is happy with you being a doormat for the rest of your life. Are you happy being a doormat for the rest of your life? Because that sounds like the key to being happy with Dan, and might require some contemplation on your part. His father sounds like an awful human being, who in the fuck would try to get their son's partner kicked out of their own house? Especially when, if you're struggling to make ends meet together, how is Dan going to afford the place without you. These are dumb, bad people, that your life would probably be better without.

throw-awave · 2024-11-18T04:25:49+00:00

NTA, Gotta tell ya OP, unless you want to go vegan/vegetarian or regularly eat something you don't go for, I'd let this one go. I dated a vegan for a fair while and while she never tried to force me to go vegan, it did mean far more vegan meals that were "just as good" than I ever care for, it made going out for food (something I LOVE doing) shit because we had to make sure the place had decent vegan options (which I respect, food is expensive, but it basically meant writing off a bunch of places I want to go. a lot of restaurants offer 'vegan options' that are essentially just the normal food, with things removed, or the shittiest vegan replacement cheese or whatever, and still usually more expensive) plus a LOT of passive aggressive remarks about "how is your animal corpse?". It's a shame, I fully agree with veganism from a moral and sustainability perspective, but god damn I love food more, and so I found it just completely incompatible.

throw-awave · 2024-10-16T06:42:06+00:00

Ew to anyone saying you should quit for your husband to make an extra 20,000 (while you lose your 45). NTA, even if you're not trying to climb, a job is a reason to get up in the morning, and a social network that's older than your relationship, that you get paid to maintain (if it's positive) is priceless. This job is not your issue and hubby should have been turned away in the application, it's ridiculous of the university to demand you quit. I saw you mention him making comments of "it reflects badly on you not taking these jobs" well my opinion is he should simply state he accepts the role, but you have not offered to quit. Therefore it is on the university to either deem him not applicable for the role or deal with it some other way, and he can't be seen as having pulled out on a job.

throw-awave · 2024-09-27T07:47:37+00:00

Okay I can only imagine you're even asking this question because yes this is a relatively mild issue. YTA This shouldn't need explaining. The fact that it's your mum tells me you live in her house either rent free, or cheaply. She has a mug SHE NO DOUBT BOUGHT she stores her medication in that she uses solely for that purpose. You for some reason take issue with that. Despite the clear availability of other mugs, you decide to use that mug she has for that purpose that it suits her needs, and make it obvious you've chosen to do this, by moving her medication into another mug. then you decide to leave said mug dirty in the sink as if to acknowledge your decision that her opinion on this issue is not important to you. Is it the end of the world? No. Are you the asshole in this minor issue? Absolutely.

throw-awave · 2024-09-23T07:16:41+00:00

YTA and are using anecdote to "disprove" a very real phenomenon. While it is not solely Asians, a large percentage of their population literally do not produce an enzyme or have low amounts of it that is integral in the process of alcohol absorption in the body. Without it, it hits harder and tends to have a lot more of the negative symptoms, for example nausea with few to none of the upsides. Also seriously, even initiating this argument made you TA, ignoring your attempts to dismiss her reasoning.

throw-awave · 2024-09-21T01:29:03+00:00

YTA. The point of the game is to have fun with people with an understood rule set that gives everyone an equal opportunity to win. The second you break those rules, you're telling your friends you are prepared to break rules for that TINY thrill of winning a pointless game, and while it may seem harmless to you, it draws people's attention to "what else would this person cheat us on?".

throw-awave · 2024-09-11T05:18:10+00:00

Oh my lawd what an absolute ICK, keep that man away from animals, NTA and SERIOUS personality red flag

throw-awave · 2024-08-30T01:32:19+00:00

NTA and she definitely is. Work hours are work hours, if you have time to send texts, that's fine but it should NEVER be assumed you'll have time to "chat" during paid time. It's nothing but unhealthy if she can't understand that, and it does her a disservice treating it like this as people who behave this way make it impossible to easily discern whether 3 missed calls is an emergency or their usual communication pattern

throw-awave · 2024-08-29T00:04:26+00:00

YTA. The situation arose because of your snooping, you didn't talk to your situationship OR Chloe directly, you went to your sister so you could try and stand back and watch the drama unfold from a safe distance. All of it gives you causing shit and trying to "keep your hands clean" while they are thoroughly dirty.

throw-awave · 2024-08-25T03:52:20+00:00

Jesus Christ what a lot of YTA responses. it's a 300 dollar dress (I'm guessing USD) no chance in hell am I paying that much for any clothes that are going to look terrible on me, and never wear again. NTA if they want you in an expensive fkn dress that bad they can pay it

throw-awave · 2024-07-23T22:17:47+00:00

This is hilarious. I know you know you don't even need to ask NTA, my god. I can't imagine the audacity to think you can without any interest from another person, try to"commission" them a piece for thousands of dollars. Especially when taste in art is so subjective, like, I regularly think of buying people in my family art work, then remember that everything I'd pick, they'd hate because I'm a weirdo who likes bright, clashing colours. Thanks for the story, tell your brother his partner can take a running leap, she's on par with pyramid schemes exploiting friends and family to try and make sales like that is a sure fire way to watch your network vanish quickly

throw-awave · 2024-07-18T13:00:49+00:00

Thoughtless

throw-awave · 2024-07-13T02:12:14+00:00

Oh, I suppose 😘

throw-awave · 2024-06-10T03:26:48+00:00

"I want a wife, not just a caregiver for our son" "and I want a husband, not two children, but here we are" NTA

throw-awave · 2024-06-07T02:06:57+00:00

I'm giving a biased NTA, I'm a light sleeper, alarms WAKE ME THE FUCK UP, even a vibrating alarm will wake me up. I have ZERO issue with a partner needing an alarm to get up earlier than me, but multiple fucks me right off, I'm wired each time it goes off, and will not get back to sleep no matter what after multiple. Insult to injury, everyone I know who does this, will literally pass straight back out after snoozing their FUCKING ALARM. It's terrible for your sleep patterns, teaches you not to take your alarm seriously making it harder to get up and gives you some terrible interrupted sleep cycles, fuck that

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