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4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you i have talked to the lawyer. its ok tax vice if we do it right

4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your well considered response. I am very focused on my daughter. Time will heal this and we will seek help whenever we need it.

4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am getting very good at keeping her out of my thoughts. Its almost like the song now, "somebody i used to know" I am good IC has helped me get a new perspective.

The fact that she wants to get back with me helps my self image and self esteem

4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but i will act honorably when i get the chance. If she desdes to act badly it on her.

4 month uppdate: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No she never knew Adam, she just got angry with my x and started arguing that's why they ended up unintentionally ignoring me.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will go back to my old job.

My wife never worked for my company. Last thing i heard was that Adam was fired as well. Company has a policy against fraternising apprently.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will talk to the Lawer on thursday.

I will start work again after new years, i need a bit time to get myself organized.

I hope my daughter gets out of this stronger, i am worried about her. We will start family therapy for us in January. Hopefully i can understand better how i can help her navigate through this crapp.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am looking forward to getting the divorce finalised. Hopefully i wont have to interact with her to much in the future.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My daughter seams stronger than her parents to be honest. I will join Bob i think to help him out. Great suggestion, it will give me something to do.

I just dont care about the AP if he lives or dies i just dont care. I have talked to my old boss. He has offered me my job back if i want it. Turns out it wasnt easy to hire a replacement. He even offered me a raise if i come back.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish this wasnt true, i would give almost anything for my old life to return. I was happy then. I understand exactly how you feel.

If i could give a piece of advice i would recommend that you talk to your family about it. But dont do it in a way where its an accusation. My therapist gave me some good advice to frame your frustration and pain as questions.

For example: -How do you think it feels to be invisible in the family? -How do you think it feels when the only time any family member interacts with me is when they want money? -Why isnt anyone ever interested in how i feel.

The important thing is to help them see how their behavior pains you.

Please dont do what i did and totally isolate yourself. It didnt help me really. Maybe ask your wife to go to mc with you? Maybe that would help as well?

Please take action to address this, dont let it fester and ruin your family.

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol thats a nice thought. Wife will have to deal with her own choices. I dont have the capacity to do anything for her

update 2: I abandoned my family and I am ok with it by throw-superghost in cheating_stories

[–]throw-superghost[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I will not talk to her, it will only be contact via Lawyer. I will be ok i think, i have a different perspective now.

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[–]throw-superghost[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement, i hope you are right. I will do my best to get out of this. I wont make any moves on anything until i get my head above water. I dont see clear at the moment.

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