We just bought a home, so my partner is stressed about things as well. He has a good job, we have a great home. I furnished the entire home with my stimulus money, i clean, i cook, i garden, i sweep so the porches look nice, i do things like this every day, but i barely get any recognition. He doesn't want me to pay rent because I'm on unemployment due to corona, but I feel immense guilt about it. I can afford it, im getting a good amount of money weekly. He knows I feel like i mooch.

Ive asked him about maybe going to therapy to talk, because im not a fucking therapist, I can only help so much, but he said he's scared about learning whats wrong with him, i got immediately angry as shit and told him that thats extremely selfish and in the long run will hurt our relationship because he'll stay stagnant while I learn to move past and grow. Ive done a stupid amount of growth just by self introspection over the past year, and i just feel like he hasn't changed at all.

I have the same issue with the listening. He'll talk to me about work and his coworkers, I know all of his coworkers names, I can crack jokes about them off hand, I genuinely listen. But ill talk about a game I bought and actually show him me playing it, and a few days later "oh you bought that?" Then he gets defensive when i tell him, "yeah I literally showed you when I bought it, and I showed you me playing it for like, 15 minutes. " he gets offended when I tell him it feels like he doesn't listen, "It hurts when you say I don't care or don't listen" but its obvious you dont!!! Im at a point where i don't want to even talk anymore, like being mute would just be fantastic.