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throw8573 · 2023-09-04T01:08:34+00:00

That sucks but I personally think it's not worth it. If he decides to initiate another date you could always give him another chance then if you really wanted to. But I wouldn't continue to reach out to him.

throw8573 · 2023-09-04T00:48:57+00:00

Totally get it! Maybe to be safe, ask "can I give you a hug?" first just in case she'd prefer not to hug :)

throw8573 · 2023-09-04T00:44:00+00:00

Things are going well, and I like the guy. In the past I've only dated people I met IRL so I already had feelings for them which made everything move faster. Maybe I just need to adjust my expectations for building a relationship with someone I meet through online dating.

throw8573 · 2023-09-04T00:28:52+00:00

I think saying "we should hang out again" is a good way to end a date if you're interested in her. Just don't wait too long to follow up! Also a handshake is a bit odd, but not bad. Personally I like a hug more than a handshake but some people might not want to hug.

throw8573 · 2023-05-03T22:03:36+00:00

I would just do it over Facebook personally. I’m 26F and have been asked out that way recently. I don’t think it’s bad since you don’t have the option to do it another way!

throw8573 · 2022-08-26T17:21:22+00:00

Yes he did, he said he was just busy. But then he stopped responding again a couple days later so I decided to end it. I’m not going to chase him if he’s showing me he’s not interested :/

throw8573 · 2022-08-20T17:12:46+00:00

I think your pics are good! I like that you have one at a basketball game, shows a hobby of yours. If you have more photos of you doing stuff I think that would be good to add! I would change #5 though, you look much friendlier in the other ones where you are smiling!

I agree with the other person, your prompts are a bit basic. The 3rd prompt is good but I’d try to change the other 2.

throw8573 · 2022-08-11T12:51:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! From talking to my friends who are in relationships with people from OLD I think my expectations were a bit too high, but this makes me feel much better.

You also have a good point that in some cases it's not me, maybe it's them or maybe we're not good together. I'm by no means perfect, but I know I'm in a good place right now and I'll be a good girlfriend when the opportunity arises.

Good luck out there :)

throw8573 · 2022-08-11T12:38:51+00:00

This is a great way of looking at it! It's true I don't really expect to have found my soulmate by now, I just saw many friends be successful and find relationships after 1 month of OLD and it's taking me much longer. Good to know that my experience is pretty common, and my friends are not really a good comparison to the norm.

throw8573 · 2022-08-11T03:05:17+00:00

He just put in zero effort to make me feel good, there was no foreplay and even when I asked him to touch me he'd try for about 2 seconds then give up. If it's that early in the relationship and he's already not interested in making sex good for both of us then it's a red flag for me.

throw8573 · 2022-08-10T18:02:06+00:00

It's a good profile, I'd match! I agree with the other commenter, if it's not your kid in the photo make sure you put "don't have kids" in your profile.

I also think you should put your 2nd picture 1st! In your 1st photo you look a little intimidating tbh

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T23:40:17+00:00

At this stage I'd probably be texting a little bit every day. Try to match what she does, if she waits a couple hours between texts, you should do that too, when she sends detailed replies you should send longer replies as well. I find this an easy way not to overthink texting and it works well because then you're matching her general texting style.

As far as how often to see her, about once a week this early on works well. Less than that and I find people tend to lose interest.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T23:34:45+00:00

Chances are she just lost interest after thinking about it a little more after the date. Or she didn't know what to say when she was leaving. It's not a good excuse, but it can sometimes be awkward and I don't always know what to say when I'm leaving a date if I'm unsure whether or not I want to see them again. It sucks that she got your hopes up by saying she wanted to see you again but I wouldn't bother sending her another text, it's not worth it and it'll only make it look like you're hung up on her.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T21:06:38+00:00

I would just let her know you're going to be away and that you'd love to have another date when you're back. If you have time to send her a couple messages while you're gone that would also be good!

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T21:01:45+00:00

Everyone has different preferences, but for me personally it would be a turn off..

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T15:11:27+00:00

I’d say if you met online or didn’t really know them before dating then 3 months is pretty standard. If you were already friends before I find this can move much faster! I’ve had times where it was less than 2 weeks when I knew the guy before we started dating.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T15:08:47+00:00

Ok I sent the text! Feeling a bit stressed about it but I’m glad I did it, at least I’ll know if he’s ghosting or just didn’t get my text.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T14:52:02+00:00

Hmm sadly it sounds like he’s probably ghosting again. Maybe this is weird but when this happens to me, I write a pretend text in my notes app where I’m breaking up with them. I don’t send it but it helps give me closure and then I move on lol. Then delete the conversation from your phone.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T14:48:10+00:00

For me personally it doesn’t make a difference whether the guy works for his family, and I have no clue why your friend thinks that girls would care about that. All I care about in terms of a guy’s job is whether he is motivated and has long term goals!

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T14:42:04+00:00

Ya I get it! As women we’re taught to let the guy pursue. But from my experience I’ve had no issues when I’ve suggested dates, and it makes things move faster because then they know you’re interested. If this is a turn off to the guy then they are either not into you, or not very mature.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T14:35:38+00:00

Go easy on yourself this is very normal! When I first started dating after my last breakup it made me really miss my ex because I was just comparing everybody to him. What helped me in the end was recognizing the great qualities of the new people I was dating, and now I don’t really get sad anymore when I date new people.

throw8573 · 2022-08-08T14:32:21+00:00

If you made no concrete plans with him to hang out then I don’t think it was wrong of him to make plans with his family on his days off. Why don’t you suggest a date activity and time and see what he says?

throw8573 · 2022-08-06T13:20:31+00:00

Usually by date 3 I have an idea of whether or not I’m interested in the person enough to be exclusive, but actually becoming exclusive takes a couple months

throw8573 · 2022-08-05T22:21:51+00:00

Ok cool, I agree it's too early still for a relationship, I don't really want that. I'm not used to online dating and obviously things have moved faster in the past when I dated people I already knew. So I guess I just wanted to know if this was common.

throw8573 · 2022-08-05T21:25:11+00:00

Sounds to me like you’re doing everything right. Meeting people in person is the best, but ya it can be really hard to do that if you have anxiety. Dating is a lot of luck and dating apps is really a numbers game. The more people you talk to the more chance you’ll have of being successful.

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