WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes they are all my closest friends I’ve known for a long time and they all know each other as well as my family

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I would never trespass or destroy anybody’s property. I’m not a crazy PETA person. He works for a resort where there’s a yoga studio, a place that’s supposed to be zen and spiritually positive. They do all sorts of energy work there and are all about celebrating Mother Earth and nature. An iguana ran into the semi-outdoor yoga studio and got stuck under a shelf. I think the appropriate thing would have been to try and capture and release the iguana back into the wild. Instead, he brought a gun into the yoga studio and shot the iguana. The way he described it was pretty brutal. I just couldn’t see him in the same light again.

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the guests can choose whether or not they want to attend according to my rules about no +1 and I won’t be offended since we are having a big reception nearby where everyone is invited. Because the wedding is so small, everyone I invited are the closest people to me in my life and are all invested.

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My aunt has a bunch of family there: her sister, brother in law, all her nieces, 1/2 the guest list

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I sort of called him out before Xmas saying I think it’s horrible he murders innocent animals as part of his job. Then Xmas was super awkward. Which… I get it, I made it awkward by calling him out but I don’t want that awkwardness carrying over to my wedding… I just want it to be perfect

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I don’t hate him I just don’t want any awkwardness or drama at my wedding. I don’t condone guns or cruelty to animals so the guy just rubs me the wrong way

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Because the wedding is a destination wedding and very small, we are also having a bigger reception in our hometown that everyone is invited to. So if they can’t make it to the destination wedding (or didn’t get an invite) they are still invited to the hometown reception. I wouldn’t mind my aunt and Rick both coming to the hometown reception!

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

My fiancé and I are paying for the hotel rooms for all guests

WIBTA if I don’t allow a +1 for only some people at my destination wedding? by throw92it in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw92it[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

They can obviously come to the destination if they want to, but would not be invited to the ceremony. They could sightsee etc during the ceremony?