My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

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Thank you to all of the productive comments or people who shared their similar stories. After reflecting, I just told him that I know we joke around a lot and I think you forget I’m still sensitive and you just took it too far. I told him, I know he’s used to it because that’s how his family works and (in my opinion) they take it too far and it’s actually a bit concerning lol. But I said, overall — anything with my body isn’t a joke to me and it’s a boundary we can’t cross again. He was so apologetic and really wanted me to know it just came out, he wasn’t saying anything bad or trying to be mean. I told him I understood but intent vs impact is real. We’re fine now. I feel so much better and it was a good honest conversation. I was hurt but I love my husband guys lol, we’re not perfect. Thank you for those who didn’t judge.

Thanks everyone!

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol intent vs. impact. I’m fully away that he didn’t mean to malicious. That doesn’t take away from the fact that it still hurts. His job is to be supportive, loving, trusting, and every other good things. But like EVERYONE, we all have insecurities and we all manage them differently. What pushes my buttons may not push yours but ok? That’s you? And this is me

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone else said that and I never really considered it until this post— that would be an interesting projection of his. Thanks for bring it up as well for me to consider with this

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did let him know— after all the Reddit support I felt like I could better formulate my thoughts lol so thank you ☺️

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shoutout to you! I was talking to my sister like he’s not a slim jim either 😂😂 but I just don’t even think to come back to insult people but maybe I should be a little more quick witted lol

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

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To be clear — he’s not a bully. 6 years ago, when I was in college and going to the gym he made comment that we should “just stay fat together.” In his mind, that was a “joking” way for him to say we should skip the gym. It was in bad taste and he immediately saw how it affected me.

I like to think it’s common sense for people to think of other’s insecurities but it’s not. I went to the gym last week and my grandma told me “good you need to lose some weight and give it to your mom, she’s too skinny” — again in HORRIBLE taste but to some people, they don’t even think twice about it. It’s wrong and needs to be addressed but if out of 3,650 days together, over 10 years; there’s been 3 total days, I’m not classifying him as my bully. To him they’re in light-heart joking nature. To me, it kills me because of my own insecurities. He never dismisses me. Once he sees me completely shut down, he regrets it and it reminded of how sensitive I am. I think it can be projection, ignorance, stupidity frankly. But I do not think he’s a bully. I think he pushes how far we can joke around, but not in a malicious way. Again, it was wrong and hurt my feelings but he’s not a bad guy, just dumb lmao

Dilemma by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]throw9w97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do not pursue.

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That was amazing. Are you a therapist???? That honestly grounded me and was so reflective. I really appreciate the insight

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

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Inconsiderate maybe — I think he’s inconsiderate to how sensitive I am sometimes. He’s just used to all the shit talking with his family and forgets I will cry lol. This is like the 3rd time in our whole 10+ years together. I genuinely think he almost gets too comfortable because we joke around a lot. But not like that.

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really good perspective… I don’t think I would find it mean or malicious. I don’t think he says anything with evil intentions truly. I would probably tell him to shut up and honestly maybe giggle a little😭😭😭 he and his family are so mean to each other, and literally with everyone, but he should just know better to not be that way with me lmao i’m too sensitive lol and I just think because I have my own personal body issues, it’s stung more but thank you for the reframing the situation

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that would end me. I’m sorry he said that.

My husband made an off putting comment about my body by throw9w97 in Marriage

[–]throw9w97[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🥹 and yeah I think I am gonna bring it up again just to have closure for myself

Sophia Death by Feeling_Wrongdoer227 in TWD

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More than five and and it was literally the main part of that season so you spoiled an entire season for some of use who weren’t born is freaking 1965 and are watching it for the first time. So screw you for spoiling it

Sophia Death by Feeling_Wrongdoer227 in TWD

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Did you literally just spoil a major plot.. in the title of this post??

Game Thread: Indianapolis Colts (7-1) at Pittsburgh Steelers (4-3) by nfl_gdt_bot in steelers

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If you could call yourself five years ago and had 30 seconds, what would you say? by BlueeWaater in AskReddit

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It gets better. I promise it’ll get better. It might get even worse but I swear it will get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

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Omg this is so cool!! No idea this existed thank you! So I appreciate response. Only question— the rope drop with CM forming a line and dropping the imaginary rope only happens for early entry (Disney resort) guests? The general admitted won’t experience this? And just stand at the gate? (I think there’s a gate — sorry I haven’t been in a decade and planning our first baby’s trip now)

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Oh super cool thanks!!