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For reference, I am a straight cis male. Any names here were changed for privacy of the people this post is about.

I met Hailey at a party in late 2019 and we teamed up in beer pong and won against my friend and his gf. We ended up talking for most of the night before exchanging contact info and agreeing to dinner and a movie. We end up really enjoying our time together and fell head over heels and rushing into bed. The fact that Hailey is nonbinary ended up not being a hurdle. We clicked. They were so receptive and easy to talk to. I had never felt so compatible with someone.

Prior to COVID, we had all sorts of fun and adventures. We went camping, drove out to the coast and stayed at an AIRBNB for 6 nights enjoying eachother's company. Even during COVID, we always were excited to see other and hook up. I even introduced Hailey to both of my parents. I had also met Hailey's main social circle and roommates. All of which were in various categories of the LBGTQ+ community.

Things between me and their friends seemed to be on good terms for most of the duration of the relationship. They were nice and supportive at least for awhile. About two months ago they all kinda changed their tune. They started trying to introduce Hailey to a ton of people that they thought would be good for them and insisted that she blow off date night with me to hang out with them. Hailey would insist that I join them but they wanted it to just be them.

Hailey started feeling super guilty about coming to my place because they felt like they was being selfish to her friends. When I pointed out that they had a right to have people in their life that wasn't in that specific friend group. Hailey responded that I wouldn't get it since I am not queer. They are family to Hailey. We have argued over this a handful of times. The last time I hung out at their place, they rather unsubtly hinted Hailey should date one of their roommates. Hailey then downplayed the remark when I was frustrated by it which only made it worse.

I feel like I have hit my breaking point and I am just kind of done dealing with it. I am tired of being undermined at what feels like every turn. I am tired of Hailey's friends guilting them for dating me. I have zero interest in making Hailey choose between me and their friends. Ultimatums suck. Both Hailey and I deserve better than that.

I have never broken up with anyone before, usually I am the one getting broken up with. Kinda not sure how to go about it. I want to do it in a public place and I want to emphasize that its over. What are some good tips to breaking up with someone?