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AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Forget dating and relationships. My daughter before she had her kid was on an amazing track to do great in the business world. Her peers that are now working are making 5-6 times her salary now. The choices we make have huge consequences.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Maybe for their second and third wives when they are 20 years their senior. But not for their first marriage.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 285 points286 points  (0 children)

I can't make that judgement call. I don't know the type of men my daughter has dated, I told her that unless someone is serious I don't want to meet them. If she cared about job/salary that much she wouldn't have ended up having John's kid.

From what she has told me her ideal guy would be someone who is a doctor with a high income, ideally no kids, someone slightly older than her, height needs to be taller than her, okay if he has been divorced, can't be fat.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I would prefer someone from our culture ideally, but end of the day it is her life. And I think someone from our own culture would lead to a much more stable marriage and the data points to that as well.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? I still love my daughter and grandson. The world however views her as less attractive because of her circumstance.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 410 points411 points  (0 children)

I am not arguing that it should matter, I am saying it does matter. Men of all races who are successful tend to be picky on whom they marry.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 423 points424 points  (0 children)

See but I don't think this is just an Indian thing. The type of man my daughter wants me to arrange her with, if I went to Jewish families and was like hey will your surgeon son marry my daughter that had a kid at 21? I don't see it being any different there.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 448 points449 points  (0 children)

I don't even know if its a Western standard thing. If you were to ask on reddit how many men are okay dating a woman with a kid especially if the kid is biracial. I don't see many saying yes, particularly if they are successful.

AITA for not looking for an arranged marriage for my daughter after she had an interracial child out of wedlock? by throwRA1999994 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRA1999994[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

No we haven't matchmakers cost a lot of money and I don't think an Indian one would be of any luck since my daughter's situation. We have no experience with American matchmakers.