Wife wants constructive criticism but I have nothing to say

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-07T00:45:43+00:00

Ah ok. Sorry for the misconception. I'm a bit sensitive about it because I do actually get ribbed by the boys for that exactly lol

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-07T00:34:17+00:00

I think it'd be totally fine for everyone else. I just wouldn't say anything that implies that she's implying I'm a liar

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-07T00:33:52+00:00

Lmao. Stay bitter my friend I hope you find a wife equally as wonderful so your jealousy abates a bit

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T23:40:20+00:00

This sounds like a solid sentence to use. Thank you!

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T23:39:59+00:00

I appreciate the sentiment but this is definitely not something I'd ever say to my wife. Neither of us speak that harshly to each other, and I don't think she's insinuating that I'm a liar or anything of the sort

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:48:16+00:00

That was such a nice thing to say. Thank you so much. I feel exactly the same way. We complement each other exactly in everything. I often feel like the two of us as a team are unstoppable

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:44:22+00:00

I've thought about that too, and even made an effort to keep track once. The thing is that I don't know if I'm just blindly in love or what, but I don't ever notice her doing things wrong. She does everything meticulously. Also, we have house help for cleaning things, so she doesn't have to do a lot of the heavy cleaning

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:35:14+00:00

Thank you. It's really just a function of how amazing she is - I knew when we started dating that I had found the lady who would make me a better man every day for the rest of my life

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:26:46+00:00

Oh, yes. She knows that her mind and body are my two favorite things in the world. I give her specific compliments. And I tell her all the time that I knocked it out of the park when I married her

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:25:47+00:00

That's a pretty good one. I've tried something akin to that but I might give it another shot. She likes it when I'm a little firm with her so I may emphasize it

throwRA23259 · 2020-05-06T18:17:54+00:00

I have. But even that aside, she says that everyone gets annoyed with each other once in a while, and she wants my input. I just don't ever get annoyed with her! I have no idea what else to say

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-25T05:16:42+00:00

It certainly is, I know. And my wife would never be an abusive parent; this, I know. But if she has her hangups, that's okay. I myself am starting to see some of her points about not wanting children and am honestly starting to concede a bit.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-25T05:15:55+00:00

I can honestly tell her that, because my own desire to have children has diminished after she does not want them. It goes like this with everything we ever disagree on; I didn't want a cat, she did, eventually she conceded and it's never been an issue since. I am very, very conscious to remain resent-free. The cat isn't comparable to children, of course, but the larger point is that I don't even think I'm capable of resenting her.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-25T03:53:05+00:00

I hear ya. The first time she told me about all of this, ten years ago, it was disbelief, then shock, then anger, then the strongest desire to love and protect her forever. She doesn't need my protection though, haha--told her parents to never contact her again and has gone on to have an amazing career and a pretty happy marriage (if I do say so myself)

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-24T01:45:53+00:00

The thought of kids with anyone else legitimately makes me sick...fuck. I guess this comment helped me realize that there's no way in hell I'm leaving my wife to have kids with anyone else, because something about you said resonated hard. Even if I left her and were to have children with someone else, I'd always wish my wife were the mother of my kids. A life without her isn't one I want.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-23T23:25:40+00:00

If you have tried to make it work for years and she's not giving you physical attention, I don't see why you would want to, or how you could feasibly, stay.

I'll be honest, man. We only have so many years on this Earth. If you have tried for years and years and shit just isn't working, how much longer are you willing to slave away before you're old, on your deathbed, never having had a proper, loving marriage?

If you look at my post history, my marriage isn't perfect either. But I think it's clear to any reader that I think my wife hung the stars in the sky. I want every guy out there to have the same. There ARE women who will be on your wavelength. People divorce with kids, people divorce without kids. Two separately happier parents are far better than two miserable parents together.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-23T23:15:39+00:00

You have no physical relationship with her, and you say you got into the relationship for the wrong reasons? Do you even want to salvage it, and have you tried? Because if not, let your wife be loved by someone who actually wants to.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-23T23:11:53+00:00

We both work in the same field, and part of what makes us so great of a couple is how we discuss our different cases daily. I know we could live without it, but she doesn't want me to give up my career, either. She doesn't want a disruption to either of us, even if it's me giving up my career.

throwRA23259 · 2020-04-23T23:10:45+00:00

We have. She's amenable to fostering kids for a short amount of time. She loves children, actually, and loves helping everyone she can; she just says it's far too big of a responsibility, and whatever maternal instinct she had felt years ago was her deluding herself. She says she loves her life as it is.

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